How to talk to a six year old about his bully

Amanda - posted on 11/07/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My son has been dealing with bullies since kindergarten last year. This year though I am having a hard time getting him up and out the door. Tonight he broke down and told me that the older kids, he think grade five or six, are picking on him. Today they hit him in the face with their ball. I asked him what the teacher said when he told them but he told me that he didn't tell anyone. His reason shocked me. He said he has been telling the teachers for five days now and they do nothing! I have spoken to the principle and his teacher because this isn't the first time I couldn't get him to school. They watched him for a week and told me that nobody is picking on him, but I told them that he came home three times telling me some pushed him or took his hat/toque. They said well nobody saw. I have talked to him till blue in the face but I just don't think he gets it. I tell him to yell leave me alone and go find an adult and tell them what is happening, but now I find that the adults do nothing to help him. I am at the point where I want to tell him fight back. He is a strong kid and has given me a black eye and bleeding nose from horsing around. I just don't know how to talk to him about it anymore when everything the principle told me to tell him has done nothing. I am at my wits ends and need some more ideas. Please help me help my son feel safe at school!

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Michelle - posted on 12/03/2013

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Keep her away from your baby , she s angry and is taking it out on your child . Explain that to your child so her self esteem does not plummet . Tell your niece is she even looks at your child the wrong way , she will have consequences!!!
Tell her you love her and will help her With her anger causing her to lash out on a a little one, but your baby will not be a victim any longer!!! ( :

Michelle - posted on 12/03/2013

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If possible switch his school yes! I did it and her world is so much better BUT, you must help him feel redemption and pinpoint bullies have parents brought in and if you have too walk into principles office with an officer , if u tell a cop your son is being bullied and he feels scared threatened and afraid...
Keeping him in the school where adults look away is n good and no fair to him!

ANGELA - posted on 12/03/2013

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IM FEELING SOME KIND OF WAY, AND I DONT LIKE HOW IM FEELING AND WHAT IM THINKING, BUT MY 6 YEAR OLD IS GETING BULLY BY A 8TH GRADER SHE IS MY NEICE AND I LOVE HER TO DEATH, IM TRYING TO FIND HELP BEFORE I HURT THIS 8TH GRADER, DONT GET ME WRONG SHE IS A FIGHTER BECAUSE SHE HAS BEEN THREW ALOT, BUT U WILL BE DAMN IF THIS 8TH GRADER FUCKS WIYH MY LOVE, HELP ME BECAUSE I WILL HURT THIS CHILD BEFORE SHE HURTS MINES. AND I DONT LIKE FEELING THIS WAY

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/08/2013

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It is, which is why you being at the school in a volunteer capacity will help. Not knowing the kids names shouldn't be an issue, if he can point out which kids it is.

Amanda - posted on 11/08/2013

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The sad part is, he has gone to the principle after it happens or a teacher and he gets the well you don't know their names I can't do anything. I have talked to the school and I have been down to the school and talked to the super. It is so stupid to hear them talk about it in the news and pass laws but yet when I child goes to them for help the sit back and do nothing.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/08/2013

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Spend some time at the school as a volunteer. Document incidents as they occur. Each time, bring the principal into the involvement. If nothing is done, then escalate each incident to the superintendent.

Eventually, either the school will do something, or you will have enough evidence to file a lawsuit against both the school and the bullies' families. Most of the time, with consistent, proven evidence, the school will step up.

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