im angry with my sons former primary school just had fresh assesments and he is dyslexic yet they sa

Susan - posted on 05/11/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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my sons primary school he was in for 3/4 years after we moved it was only school with places available for all 3 children so we accepted i wasnt over keen but instead of listening to my instinct put it down to me been over protective,my son never settled and was always getting in trouble from day one i felt head teacher had disliked joseph and i tried to deal with problems head on i quickly picked up on fact my son was been bullied by staff for been slow ,i kept asking staff to do assesments for dyslexiya and short term auditory memory they sent memo to senco now considering school only housed 300 kids why memo i dont know .i had several meetings with deputy head and senco over 3/4 years my son was at schoo and all the time i kept getting joe isnt dyslexic because has good vocabulary .it got to point joe kept walking out of school and head teacher wouldnt even phone me to let me know . joe also sufferd a panic attack at school and was signed off on a sick note but head teacher tried excluding him at same time .myquestion is should now he is getting help at high school should i let sleeping dogs lie or should i try and sue a head teacher that has had a golden handshake and early retirement after several similar complaints.and how do i support him knowing he is 5 years behind of literacy and handwriting and numeracy .and how do i live with the guilt that i sent him to school and didnt support him enough.

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Angie - posted on 05/11/2010

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I doubt sueing will get you anywhere. You would have to prove that the school was negligent and this far down the road, I doubt that you could. Anyway, sueing won't your son. Just keep working with him and get him the help he needs now. What happened is over. I'm sorry he didn't get the care he needed when he was younger.

Jamie - posted on 05/11/2010

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I doubt that suing the teacher will do anything for you since they have already retired. However, it might be a good idea for you to approach the school board and let them know of the issue and maybe you could work with them to find a way to help that school help their students instead of ignoring the problem. I understand your frustration and guilt which I agree it would be a good idea to talk to someone about and I am so happy for you that your son is getting the assistance that he needs. It sounds like you did keep trying and supported him it just sometimes takes a while for your hard work to pay off which he has first hand knowledge of. Just keep being there for your son and focus your efforts into helping him since focusing on the teacher will likely just make you more bitter and take precious time that you could be using to help your son overcome this obstical. Good job on keeping at it until he got the help he deserves.

Susan - posted on 05/11/2010

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im in uk things done totaly diffrent here ,i love my son and he is smart and brilliant just not book smart which is what i was telling his primary school all along .i just wanted them to support and encourage him .thankfully at highschool he is getting that its just took a bit of fighting to get fresh assesments done he started high school at aged 11 which is normal in uk last september and i started the process of getting fresh assesment done 4 months before he started high school after we had it confirmed we got into our choosen school.i got assesment results today so bit raw emotionaly .my son is good at lots of skills he is good in ict dt cooking art sewing he is quite self essential skilled unlike his older brother or sister which we praise him on he is quite organised which his other siblings are not .he just is dyslexic and has short auditory memory and possiply dyspraxsic i think i spelt them right .im working closely with high school to try and get him a lap top to help him and school will soon have all homework online so will be able to log on and follow it online have head of house and head of year and head of senco which if problems arise i can phone and email or meet with which is much better communication than at primary school just feel angry with myself because as mum you are ment to support your child every step and i knew school wasnt right but because worried about been fined 1,000pounds if he didnt go school made him attend because headteacher bad mouthed him to all other local primary schools so couldnt get him moved to another so was stuck in situation i couldnt get out of but i feel as if should of tried harder after all thats what mums are ment to do.

Annaliza - posted on 05/11/2010

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just give your son a support.feeling that they have someone to rely on can do better for them.just talk to a psychologist for that matter.I am a fresh grdauate of psychology but i do refer you to a psychologist who already exercising the field. I am wooried about you and your kid.

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