is anyone else actually struggling to cope to the stage where u want 2 run away screamin or is it me

Tracey - posted on 06/03/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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do any other mums out there actually struggle with thier kids as badly as i do i have been very very ill even having a full blown mental breakdown and just feel so bloody useless, inadequate and soooooooo lonely!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Shalah - posted on 06/05/2010

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Yes, definately common..my kids are great and I love them, but when all I do is care for them, I get lonely, depressed, and downright freaked out sometimes. You need time for you. Get out of the house, start doing the stuff you did to have fun before the kids, like reading books or flower gardening. Enrich your life and it will enrich your positive sense of self. By all means, if you just can't take it, call a friend, leave the kids with your mom, take some time for YOU. Even if all you can do is the mommy time-out in your room. When my kids were little and I was loosing it, I would tell them I was taking a time-out and go close myself in my room for a little while to calm down. I'm sorry to say it, but motherhood is lonely for most of us stay-at-homers. And don't beat yourself up or think there's something wrong with the way you feel. You are doing the hardest job on the planet, even if it isn't widely recognized in this day and age. Nutrture yourself, write yourself love notes, and leave them where you'll find them when you aren't feeling good enough. Nurture yourself, and it is easier to nurture your babes. And anytime you need an affirmation, pick any one of us from this list and make a shout out for one! We've all been there, and we'll all back you up. It takes a village to raise a child. Nowadays a global one!

Karen - posted on 06/04/2010

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Jjust about every day! My kids drive me nuts! I love them soo very much but they drive me nuts and the hubby doesn't get why I'm so stressed. I try my best to get some time away. A brake away from kids and all that you have to do. I was going nuts too till someone posted on here to not let your house run you. always make sure you run your house. If you feel so stressed out about getting everything done...don't do it for a day. i've noticed that if i take a day off, the next day I'm ready to rip into it and get everything done with ease. no stress. Don't feel guilty. you need to do what you need to do to be happy. When mom isn't happy no one is. The kids still drive me nuts but i notice i don't scream at them as much. And if we can i try to take them to the playground or do something with them that I can play with them or sit back and watch. you have to do something with them to enjoy them every once in a while. Even sometimes when you are stressed out. if you don't you will get stuck in sort of "hating them" or they will think you hate them. Of course you don't hate them, but it helps to sit back and laugh with them. Watch a disney movie or something. pop some popcorn. I don't know. Don't try to be perfect or think you need to be. You are not alone! And by the way, screaming does help and if you can muster up having the kids join in, you are hitting 2 birds with one stone! i have done it before. many times. you always end up laughing lol. And if you can't go running, jog in place. or take them on a walk. Exersise actually helps you to feel better emotionally as well as boosting your energy. it may take a few days and don't wear yourself out. A leisure 10 min. walk is enough to start out with. I do this when i have the time. i'm up to 30 min. now. If you ever need to talk please contact someone on here. You are welcome to contact me as well. I have days it gets to me so bad I want to leave. you just caught me on a good day today.

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Cassandra - posted on 06/06/2010

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Nope you're not alone. I feel this way a lot. I asked my doctor for help, she put me on a low dose antidepressant. It has helped in so many ways. I sleep better so I have more energy during the day. My house is cleaner, my kids are happier and I have been able to get some exercise. Don't get me wrong, we still have our days but they aren't as bad as they used to be. I used to yell at my kids constantly but that has mostly stopped as well!

Amanda - posted on 06/06/2010

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After a hard day with the kiddos..I put them to bed..and try to do something for myself..i.e. take a shower, curl up with a book, call a friend..and don't talk about the kids..talk about other friends..relatives and so on..just b/c we are mommies does not mean we are slaves to our children..we are human beings too..lol..we have needs and wants that should be dealt with as adults..grab a sitter for the evening and set up a mommy time out..just adults..no kiddo conversation..at least once a month..or twice if it gets really bad..lol

Katrina - posted on 06/05/2010

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I think we have all been there at some stage or another I still get to that point now and DD is 10. Sometimes if you have the support a bit of a me time is a good thing. Don't feel inadequate

Karen - posted on 06/04/2010

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U can scream to me and yes, Ive been there too. We can do direct messages if u want then no judgements need worry you as not every1 gets this feeling. I was this way 2 1\2 yr ago and other mum helped me big time. Id luv to c if i can help you as i was, even if its just 2 let u blow off steam ,rant, cry, ect 2 person thats been there. Any time ur ready, im here

Carla - posted on 06/03/2010

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What's happening, sweetie? Everyone wants to run and scream at one time or another. But what is going on, specifically? If you want to communicate privately, just send me an e-mail. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

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