Mean Kids

Tara - posted on 04/27/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I have a 7 year old son in the second grade. He takes the bus to school and he told me that he is having problems with one of the children on his bus. The child calls him names and my son fights back by calling him names also. I have told him to ignore the child but he wants the kid to stop. What else can I tell my son to do with out my son hitting the other kid?

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Tracie - posted on 05/02/2011

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My brother went through the same thing. For whatever reason, this kid we rode the bus with had it out for my little bro. My bro never EVER bothered this kid (I know, I was there!). He always completely ignored him. But when this bully wasn't getting the reaction he wanted, he upped the ante and started following us home after we had gotten off the bus, taunting my bro all the way (with my bro STILL ignoring him).

Eventually my mom secretly staked out the bus stop and saw what this kid was doing with her own eyes. She confronted the bully on the spot. The situation got a little Jerry Springer after that with his family standing on our front lawn screaming all sorts of ridiculous things until we had to call the police.

You need to talk to the school and/or bus company. This child cannot be allowed to continue this behavior. There are plenty of witnesses to his actions. That should be enough to warrant action to either remove him from the bus or teach him to control himself.

So sorry your little guy is going through this. Feel bad for the bully. He probably has a very sad home life. Best of luck to you.

Christine - posted on 05/02/2011

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Being a bus driver I know sometimes is hard to catch everything that's going on in the bus. We need to pay attention in are driving and are surroundings but if you talked to the bus driver in the morning or at night when your child was being dropped off. She or He would have had a closer eye and maybe been about to move the child that is bulling him on the bus. We as bus driver can only do bus reports and hope that the school do more about it. I don't let anybody on my bus do any physical or verbal abuse but if it to loud you can't hear the verbal. I try to do the best as I can to keep every child on my bus safe.

Sorry, this is happening to your son...hope this helps and ends soon

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My son had the same thing going on when he rode the bus. I tried to tell him to ignore it, or stand up for himself etc. but nothing seemed to work. He was in tears when he would get off the bus. When he told me one day it became physical, I called the school and spoke with the bus driver. She was very understanding and said the child that was bullying my son had been in trouble many times. The bully was suspended from riding the bus for 2 weeks and then given an assigned seat behind the bus driver.

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Denise - posted on 05/15/2011

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Try and talk with the driver or send him/her a note and they can move the child away and can deal with it that way most drivers are very understanding if they know about it but if your child is shy or doesnt talk to them very much then the driver may not know and coming from a driver I would want to know if one of my kids wasnt happy on the bus unhappy kids makes for a long ride home. Hope it turns out better for you!!!!

Tara - posted on 05/09/2011

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Talk to the bus driver and a teacher (probably his teacher). We haven't had the bus problem, but our 7 year old daughter (1st grade) was having a problem in the beginning of this year, with rotten kids who found out she had to wear pull-ups (she has stomach problems..sees specialists..etc.). They were actually pulling up her shirt to show kids :( (she is in a normal, 1st grade classroom). It broke my heart and made me want to smack those kids' parents. But, I told the teacher what was going on and she actually had a talk with the entire class and explained why she wore the pull-ups and how what those kids were doing was not acceptable (she never singled them out). And that if it happened again, there would be severe consequences. The rest of the year has been wonderful for our daughter and the kids seem to understand that she can't help it. Now, I know this situation is different, but I wanted to let you know that getting a teacher involved does make a difference :) Good luck to you and your little guy!

Stacey - posted on 05/08/2011

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i had the same problem with my 7 year old daughter on the bus, i also tried telling her to ignore her and sit with your other friends in the front but that didn't work, so i spoke with the bus driver and she made sure the girls sat apart and kept an eye on things and eventually it stopped.

Tara - posted on 05/02/2011

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Thanks for all the advise! My son hasn't had any issues since I told him to ignore the kid.....It actually happens at the bus stop and not on the bus. But he hasn't said anything about it. I will ask him today when he gets home from school to see if the kid has left him alone. I believe the kid was jealous because my son befriended his sibling and not the other kid. Thank you all for the advice!

Donna - posted on 04/28/2011

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why dont u talk to the bus driver about it now instead of waiting for it to get physical.

Tara - posted on 04/28/2011

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Yeah I told my son not to get physical. If it does get to that point, I will be calling the school. This bullying thing has gotten out of hand with these kids now a days. Thanks for your response!

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