My 4 yr old son can not concentrate in Pre-K and disrupts other kids, what should I do?

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His teacher says no matter what activity they are doing he can not concentrate.He tells me he is bored and would rather be playing.He can't keep his hands to himself during these times.Please help.

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Cmquist - posted on 09/10/2009

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4 is honestly too young for most children especially boys to start school. Here where I live there is also prek at 3-4. full days!! Many boys are not ready for school until the age of 7. I have a son who sounds a lot like your son and a daughter too. My daughter has matured so much since she turned 7. Before she was a classic ADHD candidate. My son is also very restless, busy and wild. I homeschool now because I know he was not ready for school. He can concentrate for only 10 mins at a time then he needs lots of physical activity to burn off his sillies. That is normal. Teachers in classrooms do not have the time to cater to normal busy boys. My son loved to stand on his head while listening to stories, jump , cartwheel and he learns while acting like a crazy man. If they were allowed to do that in school less children would be diagnosed as Special Ed. Can he concentrate when you do things with him at home? You could slowly build his concentration and limit activities that diminish concentration like TV and video games.I have been doing this with my daughter and now my son. It helps. Things like reading short stories, doing a small activity to build concentration ie puzzles, lego, colouring, drawing, painting, playdough, encourage him to start and finish an activity, just for 10 mins at a time and slowly build the time up. When he does it offer loads of praise and even a little reward. A sticker. Or you could have a chart and each 10 mins he concentrates reward with a sticker until he reaches 10 stickers then cash it in with a treat, a movie, or icecream, bike ride whatever. If he is very fidgety give him something to quietly fidget with. A squishy ball, a smooth stone, etc, he must keep it to himself or he looses it. Maybe after 10 mins he needs to stretch or walk to get a drink. He may well be bored. Perhaps it is the style of teaching that is not reaching your son. He may be a kinetics learner, meaning hands on, most teachers gear towards auditory (hearing) learners. Some are visual and many are a combination. I would be very careful about getting your child labeled unless you are desperate.

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Melanie - posted on 09/08/2009

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Have you told his teacher he is bored? My daughter is in year two and when interested and challenged is fairly well behaved. But when she feels she is not challenged her behaviour decreases considerably.



My other question is shouldn't they be playing in pre - K? All the recent early childhood research points young children (0 - 8) learn best when they 'play'. I would have thought at that age much of the emphasis should be on social interactions and personal development. Math and literacy components should also be included but it is amazing how much a child can learn about those concepts by playing shops or building blocks or being read etc.

Barbara - posted on 09/08/2009

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He is 4? Well they wouldn't test my son until 7 for add or adhad. So right now just make sure no sugar of any kind wheat or rye bread is good you can sure for diets for Add or Adhad and get him started on a diet for these children if he has it this will help some. Lots of water and pure juice the less sugar the better

Barbara - posted on 09/08/2009

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I have two kids one is 10 and has Add and he had this problem in preschool. But my daughter i started working with her at home with sitting more like you have to wait at the table till everyone is done with dinner till you get up if its movie time its not play time everyone stays and watches the movie you can only get up if you have to go potty. Now she is in preschool and she doesn't get up and disrupts anyone. So I hope this might help in some way

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Thanks, he has always been high strung.I've talked to his doctor in April at his check up but she doesn't think ADHD is the problem.I'm hoping it's not either.

Nicci - posted on 09/08/2009

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My son is not in school but this is the stuff i worry he will do when he starts! I have heard all sorts of reasons as to why they can not focus.. oh well he's a boy is my favorite!! uggh not! I really wish you the best of luck figuring this all out! Me personally i hate the idea of categorizing my child but I'd talk to the doctor! Maybe there is some advice they could give you! Something other then MEDS! I'm sorry i'm not very helpful but i'm looking forward to the advice others can give you!!!

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