My 5 yo boy still wear diapers at nightime sleep

Elysa - posted on 10/23/2009 ( 33 moms have responded )

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My son is already 5 year and 3 month old. He still wear diapers at night and couldn't wake up by himself when he feels the urge to pee. He pees before he goes to bed. How do I train him not to pee during the nightime sleep?

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My oldest son suffered from neurisis until about 3 months ago. He will be 16 in December. We tried everything from limiting his liquids, waking him up in the middle of the night, making him go to the bathroom before bedtime.....nothing worked. I finally took him to a urologist when he was about 12. The only thing he could come up with is that his kidney's were not doing what they are supposed to do at night. Apparently, your kidneys are supposed to shrink up into your body and stop producing urine when you go to sleep. He felt that Blake's kidneys were not doing that and add to the fact that he is a DEEP sleeper and was on a med that made him sleepy, was contributing to his bed-wetting. The doctor prescribed DDAVP (a steroid, I believe) and that stopped it. He started off w/3 pills per night and over the last 3 years decreased. I recently realized he need a refill and when I said something to him about it he said he had been out of the med for at least a month.....and no wet nights! I think it's a combination of growing out of the problem and he is no longer taking the other med that caused him to be sleepy.

Vee - posted on 10/24/2009

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Hi we recently got our five yr old son toilet trained for night times. He only has a small drink with dinner and is in bed 2-3 hours after. We totally took away nappies/dry nites, pull ups and would dress him in nothing but pjs. We would take him to the toilet before putting him in bed and leave a light on for him to find toilet okay during night. For the first 2-3weeks we would wake up and take him to the toilet at midnight. After a month or 2 he had it downpact to just get up and go himself when he felt that urge....our son is a seriously deep sleeper and this routine helped him tremendously. Not having nappies on made him aware that he had to get up and go. And he didnt like the feel of having accidents.. We also set up a star chart for each month. A star for each day that he woke up dry. This was a REAL motivator for him. Within 2 months we did away with the charts has he only has once in a blue moon accidents now, usually when hes super tired after a very long and hectic day and is to fast asleep to get up. We usually had a small treat at the end of each week that was star filled. And a big treat for when he had mastered it completely. This worked for us. :)

Socorro - posted on 10/23/2009

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There are always individual differences in ages of children. Your kids is late in his bladder control and just wait for him to overcome. In less than a year, he will overcome.

Heather - posted on 10/23/2009

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I know it's frustrating but try to be patient. Some kids take a long time. My five year old never wakes up to go to the bathroom so his last drink is about 3 hours before bedtime and he brushes his teeth and used the bathroom immediately before bed (bedtime routine). This works for us. If you are using pull-ups maybe you should use training underwear at night? Maybe you could set an alarm or wake him up early in the night and take him to the bathroom but I don't think this will help until his bladder matures. You will hear different things from different sources but it's important to know you are not alone!!! It's quite common. Talk about it with your pediatrician. I know if I wake my son up he may not be able to go back to sleep easily so I avoid the problem as much as possible. Occasionally he will sneak or be given a Dixie cup with water close to bed time and it seems to be safe. Good luck!!!

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Megan - posted on 08/28/2013

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Sending out a big hug to all moms and children dealing with nightly bedwetting. I have a child who wet the bed nightly (often several times) until he was 8 years old. At first, I just invested in a couple pair of washable, waterproof underwear http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... this webpage has lots to choose from in lots of different sizes even waterproof boxers. And used a waterproof sheet protector http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... to minimize the laundry.

At the age of seven the bedwetting began to chip away at his self esteem. We solved his bed wetting by using an alarm. A child who wets at night has a sleep pattern in which the brain does not react to the full bladder signal. The alarm gradually trains the child's brain to react. He went from being wet every single night to completely dry in about 6 weeks. The bed wetting alarm http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... has given us years of dry nights.

Also a recent study at Wake Forest Medical Center found that 80% of children who wet at night have undiagnosed constipation. This book explains it well: Its No Accident http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?...

My child absolutely loved the children's book, Prince Bravery and Grace - Attack of the Wet Knights. It is the story of a young prince who struggles with "the Wet Knights" and eventually defeats them by using an alarm. It's funny yet empathetic and gave him the understanding and motivation to end the bed wetting. The best advice for parents about how to stop bedwetting I found is the book, Seven Steps to Nighttime Dryness, by Renee Mercer. Invest in the books-they make the process so much easier, then an alarm -its the best decision I ever made. www.braveryandgrace.com

Cindy - posted on 03/25/2013

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You can train your child's brain to recognize the signals from the bladder using a bed-wetting alarm. My step-son was still wetting the bed nightly at seven and we heard all the "he'll grow out of it" and "his bladder just isn't developed enough yet" and so forth and so on. I felt unwilling to just give up and hope it would resolve itself as signs of embarrassment and self-consiousness were beginning to develop.

Though a little Pavlovian, the bed-wetting alarm worked like magic. We did have to be somewhat strict with him about no pulling off the alarm when it sounded because he didn't "feel like" getting up and going to the bathroom.

With consistent application of the alarm and the rules, our son was completely, consistently dry in about three weeks. Additionally, his mother refused to use the alarm at her home, so our efforts were actually co-mingled with her continuing each night to put him in a pull-up (when with her). Now, many weeks later and still dry at both homes, his mother continues to force him to wear a pull-up.

We do worry that her enabling efforts could result in some regression, so we occassionally attach the alarm for one night if he seems like he is worried that he might start wetting the bed again.

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Hi There Elsya,
I was going to ask a similar question. My daughter has just turned 7 and is still wearing night diapers. I have tried waking her up for three weeks at 11pm and then at 3pm. but she is such a deep sleeper, she just doesn't get up by herself. I have tried restricting liquid intake, but to no avail. It would be good to know what more to do. An alarm is a possibilty i've been told, but I dont think this would be any different then me waking her.

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Vickey - posted on 10/28/2009

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When my kids were small I had to get them up at least once to go to the bathroom and then, after a while they would wake up on their own to go it might be hard on you but I think it will work I been a mom for 24 years with three children ages 24,22, 12. I also was a foster mom for 10 years.

Michelle - posted on 10/27/2009

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Kids will grow out of this. My friends daughter did this until she was almost six. She would get her up once during the night to go to help out and she grew out of it eventually.

Amy - posted on 10/27/2009

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I had the same situation w/ my daughter. I took a lot of grief and guilt trips from "friends" who said she should be way past peeing the bed at her age. I finally talked to her pediatrician about it. She assured me that while there were things I could do to help her get through the night and stay dry (cutting drinks at least 2 hours before bed), some kids bladders just don't communicate with their brains yet and until they do, you just have to do the best you can for your son! It'snot your fault or his and it will pass. Good luck!

Hester - posted on 10/27/2009

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let him go without a diaper for 1 night and see how it goes. if the bed is dry in the morning, praise him and give him a treat of some sorts. if the bed is wet, keep on trying. my 3 girls were all off diapers at night when they turned 3. trust me they don't like a wet bed and will try harder to get that treat.

Lisa - posted on 10/26/2009

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my son had this problem. I set my alarm and would get him up to pee before I went to bed, then again around whatever time he seemed to pee--which was around 1am, and then again at 4am. I did this for about a week. I noticed that when I broke up his sleep cycle he was able to start waking himself up...maybe not 5 times a night, but I did notice him getting up around midnight to use the bathroom. though he'd sneak drinks and would have to use the bathroom again around 5am.
like Heather said--sometimes it's just about having a more mature bladder....my son is now 7 and he hasn't wet the bed in...um....a month or two. I took away the diapers at age 5. I got a plastic bed sheet, which was a bad idea because the pee went down the side and soaked into the floor! but it helped him wake up. and now he rarely has accidents. it just takes time.
and one horror story to finish with--my little brother wet the bed until he was 11 years old. My dad tried everything, including the buzzing underwear. my brother can sleep through ANYTHING, so it didn't work. they just had to wait for him to mature.

Karen - posted on 10/26/2009

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well my daughter who is ten still pees to bed. she has bad dreams. first i would call the doctor make sure he is ok then try to not make a big deal of it that will make them more nervse and pee to bed. just set up a reward chart or hope they will grow out of it like my daughter. like i said she is 10 almost 11 and still pees almost every night. but hers is cuz she has bad dreams.

Kim - posted on 10/26/2009

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My son will be 10 in Dec and still wears Goodnights to bed. He is a sound sleeper and others in the family ( Uncles, Grandfather) had the same problem, eventually he will grow out of it. On the other hand my daughter was a little over 2.5 when she stopped. Try not to make it a big deal to your son, he can't help it.

Gennifer - posted on 10/26/2009

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I have the same problem. My daughter is 6 and a half. There are some nights where she will wet the bed and other nights, she's just fine. I have cut drinks out, starting at 7:30 (she goes to bed at 9). That doesn't seem to help. Although, working with her doctor, she does see a urologist, and we are trying to figure out what could be the problem for her (she also gets a lot of UTIs).

Good luck to you!

Rhonda - posted on 10/26/2009

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My son just turned 7, and still sleeps in pullups...sometimes he'll go 2-3 nights being dry, and then the next night he will be totally soaked!! I've asked the dr about it, and he said not to get frustrated, that he will grow out of it, but 7 years old??? Never dreamed of still buying pull ups for a 7yo!!!! (Plus he's starting to stay the night at friend's houses too, and I don't want him to be embarassed...but what do you do??) We've done the not having a drink an hour or so before bedtime, using the bathroom before going to bed...and I've wanted to do the wake up during the night routine for him as well, but he is such a sound sleeper, that I'm almost scared he'll be up for the rest of the night! I wish you the best of luck with it...I'm right in the same boat with you...

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My older son didn't stay dry at night until he was 6 and my now 5 y/o still needs a pullup. Both were potty trained at 2/3 with no problems. It's not behavioral, it's physical. No amount of rewards or waking them up or withholding drinks made much difference. Once my older son started staying dry, he hasn't had a single accident (knock on wood!)

Melissia - posted on 10/25/2009

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My oldest daughter took till she was almost 7 to stop wearing pullups at night.. the doctor told me that to be patient and she will learn on her own when her bladder gets big enough.. some children just take longer to train in that area.. just be supportive and he will learn..

Katey - posted on 10/25/2009

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Out of all of my children I still have one that wears "night pants" to bed. He is just a real sound sleeper. At almost 8 I too wonder when is it going to stop, but I am sure it will all work its self out eventually! Dont worry about it, if you stress them then it will most likly get worse.

Mahala - posted on 10/25/2009

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I have a 5 year old boy and he is wearing underwear to bed. But he will not wake himself up to go to the bathroom. So we take him to the bathroom 4 times during the night. Sigh....yeah I know. But most of the time this works-he is dry in the mornings. I am hoping that he will get used to this routine and get up himself to go to the bathroom. We have been doing this for 3 months now.

Karen - posted on 10/25/2009

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I think that is pretty common for boys. My son has several friends (6 and 7 year olds) that use pullups at night. And my sisters son wore one until about 8 years old. It will come with time.

Laura - posted on 10/25/2009

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one thing i've heard from a friend who had the same problem was she was told to wake her daughter up in the middle of the night to go potty, for about one to two months. she said this worked great for her. and while it was a pain having to get up in the middle of the night to do this, it was worth it in the end.

Donna - posted on 10/25/2009

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Iwas told not too worrie about it till your child is seven. My son is the same a relly deep sleeper but the my doctor said that the older they get it will come naturaly when they're body tells them they're ready.

Thelma - posted on 10/24/2009

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I think that it's a very good idea to wake him up several times during the night and to restrict his fluid intake at least 2 hours prior to bedtime, emphasizing why this action is taking place. I think that pull-ups are more mentally healthier for home and periodically tell him how the progressive steps will be. Of course make a big deal about when he doesn't pee in the bed, possibly even logging it and doing something really big after so many nights dry. Best of luck and pls let us know how it goes. My 4yo is a periodic bed wetter so we look forward to dry nights.

Susan - posted on 10/24/2009

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I have a terrific boy who is 7 and 1/3 years old and is now in the largest size of night time pullups. They are supposed to look like boxers, but fall a bit short. He potty trained easily right when he turned 3 for day time, but is such a sound sleeper that he will wet the bed and never wake up until morning even though he is wet!! Tried EVERYTHING listed above. Took him to the doctor, and nothing physical is wrong. Doctor explained that there is a hormone excreted at night that reduces the amount of urine you produce at that time. Some kids take a while to start making it. He told us to wait. Don't make it a big deal, etc. He assured me that he won't have to explain his adult diapers to a college room mate and/or his future bride. My Joey is not happy about having to wear them and is sooooo excited when he is dry in the morning, but it doesn't happen consistently. Once a month we try to go without pull ups and invariably the bed is wet. I do suggest a good mattress cover, and I use a pad underneath him too, so that I can just change that if he wets the bed. He is motivated to get through the night dry and I am confident one of these times he will just start waking up dry and then he will remain that way. I am soooo looking forward to it. Didn't plan on spending$$ on diapers for 7 years!!!

Melissa - posted on 10/24/2009

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I had the same problem. My son will be 7 next week and he wore diapers up until about 6ish. I did the same think as you in regards to taking him to the bathroom before bed. I would also wake him up about an hour and a half to two hours after he went to bed to take him to the bathroom as well. But when I did, I would either make it a race to get back into bed before I counted to 30 or we would come up with a fun word. When he got up in the morning, I would ask him the word or what number we got to. That way I know he actually woke up when he went to the bathroom (my son sleep walks sometimes). That way you train his brain to wake up. The other thing that I do, cause he still has a problem waking up sometimes (he is a very heavy sleeper), is I put a mattress pad underneat him. It's only like 2 feet by 2 feet. But I put it on top of his sheets and he sleeps on it and it's soft. So, if he does have an accident (not as often anymore), I only have to take that off his bed, clean him up and he's back in bed in a few minutes. That way his sheets and mattress don't get wet. My doctor said that it's just something that you have to let them grow out of. Also, I stop his drinking of liquids at least an hour before he goes to bed. I hope this helps.

Edna - posted on 10/24/2009

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I have twin boys that just got out of pull ups at night..They are 5 1/2 yrs old..The oldest twin started waking up dry so I went on and took him off the pull ups..Now the youngest twin always woke up wet but I figured since his twin was out of them he would come out of them to..I got lucky and it worked!They have not had a accident since coming out of those pull ups..We cheered them hard every morning and told them what big boys they was and it seemed to help them..My oldest son was the same way..They just depended on them to much and when that security was took away they decided they had best go to the bathroom lol..GL with what ever way works best for you :)

Heather - posted on 10/24/2009

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Our daughter is 4 years old and we make her go to the bathroom before she goes to bed at night and we wake her about 11, before we go to bed, just in case. She still occasionally has accidents, but overall this seems to work.

But you may want to have him checked out by the doctor. My sister had the same problem when she was younger and she had a kidney problem.

Jany - posted on 10/24/2009

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As long as he does not pee during the day on a diaper that is normal. Just give him time. He will come around and not do it anymore as he gets older. If he hits even and still does it then you should wake him up at night. Good luck.

Gini - posted on 10/23/2009

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I agree with Valerie G. The alarm was a lifesaver. It can be bought online with the underwear to go with it. A little spendy but in a week you'll be thanking your lucky stars you bought it. A must.GUARANTEED!

Valerie - posted on 10/23/2009

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they sell a machine that is basicly a loud alarm that goes off when they have an accident, to start teaching them to wake up for it. I would try waking him up to pee again during the night right before you go to bed. His bladder may just be too small to last that long.

Christina - posted on 10/23/2009

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It is very hard for them to do this my suggestion is 1 hour before bedtime no liquids,it may be hard to tell your child no,but understand you are trying to break a "habit". I have done this with both my boys at age 5 when they were wearing pull ups,the cut off was an hour before bed, it does work after only 3 months they realized what was going on and did not wet the bed without a pull-up.

Heidi - posted on 10/23/2009

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My son is almost 6 and wears 'goodnights' at night. The Dr. says it is fine since he is such a sound sleeper it may be a while. Have him checked out at the Dr. just to make sure there is no other issues but for my son atlest it is okay.

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