My 6 year old daughter still wets the bed sometimes and even has accidents in public.

Holly - posted on 12/26/2008 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I have tried everything I can think of. But my 6 year old AND my four year old can't seem to be potty trained. They act like they don't care and they've actually stood in the bathroom by the toilet and wet on themselves. I've taken her to a urologist and they say her bladder is fine. I just can't figure out what to do about this or what their problem is. Does anyone have any suggestions?

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Darcy - posted on 01/01/2009

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My son had bed wetting problems too. Watching what they drink is good but my friends 3 boys had the same problem. She did lots of research and found that waking them up the same time every night to go trains them to get up. Same as what Janice posted earlier. You have to get them up every night for 1 month or longer. My son took 6 weeks and now only an occ. accident when he gets cold. It's a big task and you have to be ready to get yourself up also or stay awake. The first time I tried it I wasn't ready to get myself up everynight so it didn't work. Don't make them feel like they are doing something wrong because then they will hide it from you. I work for a doctor and it's very common especially in boys to take longer although girls do too. The reward system is also good when they are younger.

Janice - posted on 01/01/2009

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My daughter is 8 and has constantly had bed wetting issues while my 5 year old has never once wet the bed. I've spoken with her pediatrician and she suggested no drinks with caffeine (mine wasn't having any anyway) and no milk at/after dinner time. We had been "waking" her to take her to the bathroom at 10pm, but she did not really wake up. Dr. said to wake her fully and make her walk herself to the bathroom and that it would teach her to wake herself up when she has to go. We are getting her up at midnight instead of 10 since she is in a different phase of sleep and wakes up more easily. So far no more accidents (it has been 6 weeks) and soon we'll try stopping the midnight wake ups to see if she'll do it on her own.

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Rabekah - posted on 05/05/2010

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Reading through the comments, I feel the best advise you've received is to be consistent. Wake your children up regularly in the middle of the night and make them go to the bathroom by themselves. I'm thinking that giving my daughter a quarter for every night she doesn't wet the bed will be the way to go. She was completely potty trained for over a year and just started doing it again... (Right after her dad tore up the upstairs bathroom to remodel it... it's still torn up almost 2 years later. She has to go downstairs in the dark to the bathroom). I was one of those children too. I started wetting the bed again after a traumatic time in my life. I was threatened by spankings to make me stop. I'm thinking I can't do that for my daughter though. She loves to have money though so I'm thinking the money thing will work. Oh, and kegal exercises! If you don't know what those are, google them, it works! Good luck!

Jenn - posted on 01/01/2009

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I waited until my kids wanted to use the potty. I had many friends that would brag at playgroups how their little ones were using the potty when I'd be changing a diaper. I didn't want to potty train me, I wanted to potty train them. If you are the one running to the potty with them they aren't trained. It's what's important to you. I never had issues with "accidents" either because they were ready to do it and wanted it. We tried buying new big girl (and big boy) undies too and that helped somewhat with the motivation. I did reward them to a degree but not with candy or material objects. I think mine were three when they used the potty but four is still not that old. Six though, I'd be trying to really focus on a system that works. I've heard a lot of moms though say that their children would make it into the bathroom only to go right next to the potty. Some of my kids used the little potty but my youngest used a potty seat that fit into the big potty. This was mainly because after three kids I didn't want to clean out that little bin anymore. It sounds like your boys just need motivation if their bladders are normal.

Samantha - posted on 12/31/2008

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I am having the same issues. My daughter is also 6 and I have stopped her from having drinks at 6 P.M. and it still doesn't help. But what doesn't help is her father and I are not together and his idea of training her is to slap a pull up on and leave her be. I had her completely trained at the age of 1 and her dad was (sorry for bashing him on here) to lazy and just threw diapers on her. But I have found a trick that seems to work a lil bit better. I have kind of trained myself to stay up a little bit longer then usual and I wake her up in the middle of the night and make her go. Even if she's not fully awake. And what's happened now is my daughter is on her own clock now, and she wakes up every night the same time and she goes to the washroom. There are times when she has the odd mishap and sometimes I have to start all over because she'll come back from her father's house and he will still throw her into a pull up. In my opinion he's training her to be lazy but that's just my theory. But try that and see if it helps. I swear by it while my daughter's with me.

Christy - posted on 12/31/2008

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My five year old daughter has encopresis, which means that she gets "backed up" and the area that holds waste becomes stretched out. She can no longer feel when she has to go because the muscles no longer contract to give her that sensation. Her pediatrician recommended a "cleansing" which was using exlax for a weekend- It was horrible. After that, we put her on daily Miralax to make sure that she can get rid of the waste without getting constipated. She still struggles at times, but we are working with her. I feel your pain. This is not the most enjoyable of issues! Hope this helps!

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I've heard keeping caffeine, such as cokes away from kids, specially close to bed time really helps. My son still wets the bed sometimes, but he is getting better. I've had numerous conversations with ppl at work and I have heard many stories on their children wetting their beds at ages ppl wouldn't expect. This is a hard topic, because I am still working with my son, but I think that you just have to work at it. I have also heard that having your kids go to bed earlier really helps. I do find that my son is doing much better now that we are not on him so much. As for your 4 yr old, make a chart for him. There is also flushable aim targets you can find at stores. I know my oldest loved these and he looked forward to getting out of his diaper. Make it fun for them and keep at it.

Renee - posted on 12/26/2008

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I have a six year old boy, and he does have a few accidents at night as well. The only thing that has really worked for us, is that we have a drinking time. He's not aloud to drink anything 2 hours before he goes to bed. This has helped alot of bed wetting.

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