My 6 year old wants more time with me But I have a 6 month old baby

Celine - posted on 01/28/2012 ( 14 moms have responded )

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I am a single Mom and I just recently stop breastfeeding my 6 month old baby. My daughter who is 6 years old told me the other day how we dont do fun things together anymore... and its true! I feel like I havent been able to do much with her thru out the time I was pregnant and after her little brother was born. I feel terrible because sometimes I dont have the energy to do so and Im so busy with the baby that time just flys. What can I do to balance it out??

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Serene - posted on 01/28/2012

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Since your not breastfeeding anymore can a friend or family member watch your son while you and your daughter spend some time together, If not then put your son to bed early and have a girl night out and stay up paint toe nails or watch a movie one night. She would prob like that. :)

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My boys are 7 yrs apart and it has been adjustment for our family to go from 1 child to 2. But, I try to put the little one to bed about 30-45 minutes before the older one, then the older one gets some one-on-one time before bed. Then I try to pick him up from daycare first, so we have a little time for just the two of us to talk in the car while we are going to pick up his baby brother from daycare (we use 2 different daycares). Even though these times are not super long, they are 100% dedicated time to just him.

With yours being the opposite sex, I definitely think doing the fun "girly" things with your daughter can be made to be your "special girl time".

Crystal - posted on 02/07/2012

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It is rough going from one child to too, and in your case, most likely harder since you're a single Mom. You just have to do your best to find the time to make her feel special. Snuggle with her when baby is sleeping, or put baby down somewhere safe so that your hands are free to play with your daughter. The baby is too young to realize that you're not spending every waking minute with it, but your daughter is old enough to know she feels left out.

User - posted on 02/07/2012

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I have the same idea as Serenne Coons. Enlist the help of friends/family to watch the baby when possible. Make a special date with your daughter to spend time together. Put baby to bed early, give your daughter that xtra time in the evening.

Also, let her help you with whatever chores are age appropiate for her. Feeling like the "big" sister and mommy's helper goes a long way.



Remember, baby will grow fast. This is a tempoary time in both your lives.

Danielle - posted on 02/07/2012

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My son and I do a game night once in a while. We play board games and he loves to do that. In fact we did it on Sunday during the day a couple weeks ago.

Di - posted on 02/06/2012

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Let her help with the cooking- maybe even the cleaning- most kids love having a go at the sweeping. Read with her at bedtime and sit with her when she's watching TV. She may even like to help with the baby. When you have the chance do some girly stuff together- most little girls that I know love craft (there's so many ideas on the internet- you could be busy for years!) The pre-teens are such a wonderful age- have fun!

Tyshieha - posted on 02/05/2012

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go on a all girls day activity at lease once a week. Just you and her, take a class together (swiming, sewing, etc.) something girly so it will be you and her time. find a baby sitter for your son during that hour or so. That way you have baby and me time and you have daughter and me time. After that have time that you all do something together. I know it seems hard but if you do that you all will be closer. I have a 6 month old too and it is hard but when you spend time with each of your kids even if its watching a movie or going to the salon it makes the time worth it for you both!

Hema - posted on 02/01/2012

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yes i know I have a 6 year old and a 3 year old .Just read him something when the younger one sleeps ,or when ur free just any time.But first relax and compose yourself .Think how to manage time.aT the end if nothin works its ok ,its after all ur life u cannot do things like a machine u are human so chill..

Celine - posted on 01/31/2012

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Thanks for all the Greta Ideas!! I will do that as soon as I get the chance and we settle down in our new place... Im moving and Im almost done with settling down and putting the place together... Cant wait to do those things with her as soon as Im finished with the place, she will be sooo happy!! :0) Thanks!!

Jill - posted on 01/31/2012

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read a book together during your son's nap time. coloring books, crafts, watercolor paint, watch a movie and snuggle, sit on her bed and ask her to show you her favorite things in her room are all great ideas because when baby wakes up, those activities are quickly cleaned up. sometimes just sitting on the couch together is time well spent. your daughter is also old enough to understand that new babies take a lot of mommy's time and that you do your best to spend some time with her when you can and that this won't last forever. in the meantime, those little moments together can mean a lot.

Jesse - posted on 01/29/2012

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paint together, or do some cooking or craft! my daughter loves doing craft. put the mattress in the lounge room bye some chippies or her fav sweet and have an awesome movie night! my daughter LOVES " A little princess" ! or have you even seen the movie "tangled" It's brilliant! I actually enjoy to watch it also.....



try to put bubs down early one night or get a baby sitter and just spend time together i'm sure your daughter wont even mind what you do but will just enjoy the time together :D If you cannot get any time with out baby then just try to include your daughter into the things that you do with the baby..... maybe bubs could be in the room sleeping while you watch the movie together. just ideas lol

i'm sure you will figure it out Xx



Good luck !

Celine - posted on 01/28/2012

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Great Idea Serene!! Infact, the other day I bought her some nail polish and she will love that!! Sometimes its hard to come up with creative ideas. Now I just need to organize my time and ask someone to watch the little one for a girls day out :)

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