My 9 year daughter old Isolates herself at school**Suggestions?

Sarah - posted on 04/22/2013 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Hi Everyone, just looking for a little advice if you have it :) I have a 9 year old daughter who is very smart. She was just accepted into the GATE Program, but that doesn't start until next year. I'm just a little worried about her because she isolates herself at school. She says she just doesn't like to do what the other kids do, so she just sits in the grass during recess and "thinks". I know she is sad, and bored, and lonely. She says no one is mean to her, and everyone is nice. And she has plenty of friends outside of school and is actually quite sociable. All of her friends love her, just none of them go to her school. She loves classroom time at school, but not recess and says she just feels very lonely. I've encouraged her to make friends, or to engage in activities that the other kids do, but she refuses saying she just doesn't like it. I can see the sadness in her eyes, and honestly its killing me , Any suggestions on how to help her?

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Marissa - posted on 05/19/2013

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Send a book with her, she is not challenged enough let her finish the year and go on to the next school and just be glad she uses her brain more than most. She has great potential and with your support she will go far.

Margarita - posted on 05/12/2013

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Sounds an awful lot like me at that age. It takes time, and keep in mind that you just transferred her and will be doing so again in the fall (unless GATE is at the same school). If it's the former, encourage her to hang in there and remember the she will probably find a lot more friends like her at her new school. If it's the latter, then perhaps it's a matter of learning to compromise. That is, ask the other kids if they can take turns playing what each want to play. She'd have to play the game she doesn't want to play sometimes, but others they'd play what she wants. Either way just make sure she has as many opportunities as possible to play with her friends this summer so she can feel more optimistic and have the courage to take the steps to make friends in the fall.

Shree - posted on 05/10/2013

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Let me help you, if I can. Give her the thought of "what next?" at any situation. for example, she got a break-hour. so what next? she can get answer by herself "break-fast". what next? books, library, assignment. help some poor students. make some tougher situation, flow with solutions on paper. she can write and do her own work. tell her to be with self and do what she wishes. don't be sad. everything and every moment is precious. Love.

Helena - posted on 05/09/2013

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I am glad to be responding to this request. First of all I want to bring your attention to one thing that you mentioned as a parent that you must be mindful of. The is power in the tongue and life and death lies in the power of the tongue and those who love it will eat the fruit of it. You mentioned leisurely that your daughters situation is killing you. I can sense that it was just a statement you made but I pray that you overturn that statement in the name of Jesus.

Secondly, prayer is powerful and without it nothing happens in the earth realm. My spiritual father says all the time that nothing happens until someone prays. You have seen the situation your daughter is going through. You need to pray over her and command the spirit of joy and gladdness to come upon her. Any foul spirit of isolation, of sadness is not of God and we dont want to entertain it in our homes. Little drops of water make a mighty ocean. Bit by bit if we do not address and confront the enemy situations escalate to become monsters eventually. I pray and indulge you to take charge and confront that spirit of isolation and sadness to leave you daughter alone and see what will happen. God bless your family.

Ai - posted on 04/23/2013

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Nobody want to be lonely.Transfer does make a great influence to children.I have the same concerns about my son. Luckly,he used to the new circumstance quickly.he play basketball ,football with his new friend everyday in the school.Maybe girls are more sensitive than boys.Maybe Your daughter need more time.Don't worry,things will get better.

Sarah - posted on 04/22/2013

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yes, exactly. She has friends, they just are not in the same school as her. She transferred to a better school at the beginning of the school year, so she did have to make new friends.She has Friends in class, and has no problem with the kids.She just doesn't want to play the things that they play at recess. She isolates herself, so she just sits by herself at recess instead of playing. And says she's just not interested in playing what the other kids play (wall ball, tetherball, playground, etc.) So she just sits by herself, and she says she's lonely and sad because no body wants to play what she wants to play (which is normally some type of imagination, explorer type games). I've been told kids categorized as "gifted" may have some social issues, but I can't find anything on how to help them with it.

Ai - posted on 04/22/2013

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I can't understand your daughter's situation,she has a lot of friends except in school?My son and his friends almost in the same school.Maybe change to her friend's school better?

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