My child won't stop swearing

Jeannie - posted on 05/28/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 7 and she won't stop saying bad words at school, infact so much that the teachers are complaining of the situation. I'm a stay home mom and our family doesn't use ANY bad words in our home, we don't have friends and family that use swear words either, so I'm not understanding were this is coming from. When I talk to Madison about the situation she says she doesn't know why she uses the words, and infact I'm getting more frustrated with her answere as the time goes on, as she keeps saying the same thing, I don't know why. Any mother's out there that have any suggestions on how to control this issue, I can't ignore her swearing as suggested when they are younger to not get a reaction out of them. I can't put hot sauce in her mouth as I'm sure that is a negative with a negative, I need her to understand the serious nature of this, and I have talked to her several times about it and put her in time outs and grounding. Any helpful suggestions are very much apprecaited. With heart

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Diane - posted on 05/28/2010

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Hi, Please do not put anything in your daughters mouth to control her swearing. You can try having her sort pictures of things she is supposed to do (use nice words, be helpful, quiet voice, compliments) with inappropriate behaviors (swearing, unkind words, hitting). You also need to figure out with her teacher what is happening just before and what she gets right after she swears. This should give you an idea of why she is doing it. Then you can try to replace the swearing with an appropriate way of getting what she wants. It is also possible that she has some type of disability where she is unable to control what is happening. I hope this helps. To be sure about how to successfully control this behavior you will need more information from the teacher and from a school psychologist if one is available at school. If not you may want to discuss this with your daughter's physician.

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I know with my child that some times punishing her for something she is not sure is wrong is just putting a negative spin on things. I personally believe that they are just words but I know how uptight people can be and my daughter is not allowed to cuss at school or in front of certain people. I told her that sometimes other people do not think that some words are nice and to be respectful and treat people how we want to be treated that we should not say those things. I also tell her that cussing at school is only going to get her in trouble (which she hates) so that she just should not say them so as to stay out of trouble. Hope that helps and good luck.

Emily - posted on 05/28/2010

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You might want to check with her pediatrician. I hate to say it, but it could be Tourette's. If it seems that she has no control over it, there could be a neurological problem underlying the behavior.

Diane - posted on 05/28/2010

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i have my son write 20xxx i will not say that word or words i also have tried giving him a boxr with his favorite items if something happens at home school church or anywhere and he gets out of hand or disobeys with his mouth he has to put a item in that box the only time he gets rewarded with it is when there is 2 days with out incident i use a large box he knows what is expected of him and what is unacceptable is there an issue at school i found out with my son he was getting picked on it has resolved issues kids sometimes are really mena and they feel like they can not come and talk to you does she have any siblings that she talks to my son will talk to his sis about hings and she will let me know i just take the sneak tack so he doesnt know i hope this helps

Bella - posted on 05/28/2010

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Yes..this will boost her independence and give a little more time to yourself...

Jessie - posted on 05/28/2010

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try having her copy the definition out of the dictionary like 20 times or so, when my son was biting we put vinegar on his tongue, and lately he has been talking back so we make him bite in to a bar of soap, mind you it is ALL NATURAL soap so there is NOTHING harmful in it. the copying the dictionary usually does the trick good luck

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