My daughter being a tomboy likes to dress in boys clothes the latest is she wanted a shirt and tie.

Janet - posted on 03/01/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )

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she asked me for a shirt and tie which i bought for her she didn't take it of all weekend. should i let her wear what she wants within reason?

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Anastasia - posted on 11/13/2012

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honestly the best bet on wardrobe is to let her wear what she wants restricting her will make her act out more but it may mean several years of hair pulling for you

Green - posted on 12/29/2013

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I am 12 years old and many people call me a tomboy. I have a big brother who is 15 and I still wear lots of hand-me-downs from him, but only cause I find them comfortable. I'd say that you should let your kid wear whatever she wants as long as it's not a clown's costume. Let her find her own style and express her feelings through her clothing. Maybe she is trying to make a statement the same way that I was. I didn't like the annoying stereotypes and tried to change them by doing something different than the rest of the society. This wouldn't be a bad thing, as she would be formulating her own opinions about life. Explain to her that she can wear whatever she wants, but tell her that she is unique and should try something original. I now wear my Grandma's beautiful Jean Muir blazer with my Mom's 20 year old shoes, my Dad's cashmere socks and my brother's old shirt! I only wear them because I feel like some of the clothing I wear is part of my identity and who I see myself as. Let your kid experiment. Good luck.

Annie - posted on 11/19/2012

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my daughter goes the girly girl route and love to want to look liek a big girl...she loves to play dress up and put on heels and hose and strut around in a skirt too....LOL

Rebecca - posted on 03/01/2010

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well, i never was a girly-girl, so when my daughter started demanding flouncy frilly dresses i was horrified, but i soon realised that resistance would only lead to more resistance. i think we are all entitled to our own taste.... i buy her the kinds of clothes she likes altho i mostly consider them hideous lol!

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Kelly - posted on 09/28/2013

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My daughter is the same way! We would have an all battle. I let her wear "boy" clothes for the most part and we sometimes have to compromise for special occasions. I have learned to pick my battles and not worry what other ppl might think. I just do not want her to be labled negatively and be hurt. I wish they would have a tomboy clothing line!

Annie - posted on 11/19/2012

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my daughter goes the girly girl route and love to want to look liek a big girl...she loves to play dress up and put on heels and hose and strut around in a skirt too....LOL

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Fashions come and go and if she wants to wear a shirt and tie now I would let her. She likes to be different and that is okay.

Niketa - posted on 10/27/2012

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Hi, My name is Niki Bhatia and I am the author of a childrens book, PINK IS JUST A COLOR AND SO IS BLUE. It is about letting go of our old gender stereotypes about colors (pink and blue) and toys kids choose to play with. The main character is a little boy who is not too athletic and his best friend is a feisty little girl who is "tomboyish". Our ultimate goal is to assure that our kids grow upto be confident, productive individuals, without placing so much emphasis on color and toys when they are sooo young.



http://www.amazon.com/Pink-Just-Color-So...

Rebecca - posted on 03/04/2010

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yeah, you could look for girly ties, but just be warned --- i grew up with 3 brothers (only finally got a sister when i was 9) so i wanted to wear the same as then. i begged my mother for pyjammas for christmas as i didn't want to wear nighties. o, i got my pyjammas alright, but they were GIRLY and i was totally furious about it -- they were exactly the sort of pyjammas my older girl would like :))) frilly, baby doll smock thing uggh!! :D

i don't actually remember this, but apparently my dad got into BIG trouble with my mum cos she sent us on a shoe shopping trip, and i came back with lace ups just like my older brother's :D

Summer - posted on 03/03/2010

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I say yes I had 1 girl and 3 boys and she would not wear panties she demanded to wear big boy underwear and was potty trained in a week. She is 10 now and is as girlie as they come it is just a faze.

Vickie - posted on 03/03/2010

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I say let them where what they want within reason. I have had boys in my daycare that have put on my daughters dress up dresses to play, and I have had my daughter put on her brothers transformer costumes to play. Kids are kids and don't understand the difference keep it within reason and things will be fine (it is harder when it is a boy wanting to wear dresses then a girl wanting to wear a tie though). Society has made it such a big deal about what is male and what is female that I feel the childs creativity and imagination are starting to get lost.

My daughter has been caught in a snow white dress up dress playing in motor oil my husband left out, thankfully it came out of the dress (and washed off her) just fine. She will also dress up to go outside and dig in the dirt with her brother. Just as my son has put on her crowns and dress up heals and walked the house in them.

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I was a tomboy myself and my mom was glad that she didn't have to wrestle me into pants on cold days like my 'girly' little sister. Definitely, let her wear what she wants - remember that grown women went through a fashion phase of wearing ties, too; and be very happy that you don't have a son who wants to wear skirts and dresses to school - I really don't know what I'd advise a mom in that situation!

Erin - posted on 03/01/2010

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i have niece that took "tom boy" to a whole new level, for a year when she was about 5 she tried to get everyone to call her jason, her name is jessica so she finally agree to us calling her jess. although we did not go along with her wanting to change her name, her mother allowed her to where the clothes she liked. she is 14 now and still very much a tom boy, but she is a girl, she will occassionally wear pink, she does were girls clothes and she does like boys. long story short, there is nothing wrong with allowing her to express herself in her clothing, she is just trying to figure out who she is.

Rebecca - posted on 03/01/2010

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p.s. my daughter is a tomboy also -- her favourite thing is climbing -- trees, the jungle gym, whatever -- wearing a flouncy dress, but with shorts underneath so she can go upside-down etc. my favourite pic of her is her in a white satin dress with bow, swinging on a rope ladder from a tree house onto a trampoline!

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