My daughter is 13 and NEVER invites friends over or goes to their home....I don't think this is healthy. She has always been this way. What should I do?

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Jurnee - posted on 01/07/2012

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I was the same, except for one very good friend, I was quite content to hang out with my other friends in school or at scouts, etc. I did develop a small group of close friends, and we still keep in touch. now , i dont have many friends, but a few very close ones. Try not to force her, i would hate when my mother tried to make me invite someone over or hang out with her friends kids.

Bonnie - posted on 01/05/2012

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She could just like to keep to herself (shy). Maybe she is having trouble making friends at school. Maybe she is being bullied. There are lots of things it could be. I would try talking to her and see what her responses are. Take note of her reactions.

Mel - posted on 01/05/2012

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i was the same when i was at school i never had my mates round & i never went to their houses i prefered my own company i was a only child when i came home from school i justvwanted to be with my mum & dad it hasnt affected me in any way your daughter might prefer her own company i dont no if she is a only child?. their could be a reason why she dont want her friends round could she being builled at school i no i was so i think that why i didnt want to go out or have people round try talking to her i hoe that this helps

Denikka - posted on 01/05/2012

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It could also just be that she's a loner. Some kids just are, it's not a bad thing.
Why don't you ask her? Maybe there's something going on that you don't know about (issues with people at school).
Especially if she's always been this way, it may be that she's just not a people person :)

Shannon - posted on 01/04/2012

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Maybe she has some anxiety. My niece is 7 and her mom and I are really close. We are sisters and literally live next door to each other. Lexi has anxiety. She will NOT stay the night at my house with my kids. My third daughter is 7 also and they are very close but she still will not stay over even though her mom is right next door and I'm home and I have four kids and her 3 year old brother will stay the night. Sometimes it is more about being away from you or being scared of being away from you for any length of time. Maybe you should invite one of her friends over for dinner one night yourself and encourage her to do it again. Its hard to know what to say as my kids are very active but my niece struggles with those things so I know my sister just talks with her about how long she will be gone if she leaves her here so that lexi knows what to expect. I hope this helps you.

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