MY DAUGHTER JUST STARTED SCHOOL, NOW COMES HOME AND TALKS ABOUT THINGS SHE SHOULDNT BE TALKING ABOUT.

Jennifer - posted on 09/30/2012 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My daughter just started school at the start of september, the last few times she has come home from school she has been talking about SEX?

She doesn't hear this stuff in my house, and is never around if a movie with love scenes in it is on.

everytime I hear her mention it I say" where did you hear this" and she said "I dont know mommy' like she doesnt want to tell me where she herd it.

I jsut keep correcting her the best I can, But should I be speaking to the teacher, or talking to my daughter more and try to find out who is tell her stuff about sex?

She doesnt have older sibling, its just myself and her step dad and her in the house, and she has little cousins, but never around any talk like this?

I feel like im at a stand still and not sure how to adress this situation?

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Aimee - posted on 10/05/2012

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her daughter is just starting school, so I would say she is around 5 or so. Jaime Leigh I hope things have gone better and good luck talking with the teacher which I think is a great idea even if the comments seem to stop. That way she will be more aware and be on the lookout. :)

Michelle - posted on 10/05/2012

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How old is your daughter? Kids are naturally curious, especially as they enter into puberty. And puberty is starting much earlier for kids than it was just a couple of decades ago. In fact, puberty is starting as early as age 9 for girls and age 10 for boys. It's been attributed to the environment, chemicals, hormones and food. That being said, research suggests that having open and age appropriate conversations with your child / teen actually has better results. Kids are more likely to make better decisions and delay engaging in sexual activity. If it's cast in a negative light, rather than helping her to learn, understand and develop good decision making skills, sex might become something very negative for her when she's older or married. I'm a Christian adolescent life coach. I'd like to offer you my mp3 download, at no cost, What Parents Need to Know / How to Talk With Your Teen About Sex just visit my website www.AdjustedPerspectives.com and click on the audio download link . When you are ready to check out, please enter the promo code CircleofMoms10 and enjoy!

Jennifer - posted on 10/02/2012

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She is JK, so all the kids that are aorund her are her age, My daughter is an only child, so i'm thinking that one of the little kids that she goes to school with either has an older sibling or their parents jsut dont watch what they say infront of the little kiddies.... She goes back to school tomorrow, I called the school and to see if i can make a time to have a meeting with the teacher and her teacher is off wed and friday the two days my daughter has school.

We have went over the touching conversation, and she is very aware and knows that she needs to tell us and she understand the differences, she knows that she has to tell mommy or daddy.



so, Im going keep an eye on her coments and talk to the teacher about this nxt monday when she is back in the classroom.

Thanks ladies.

Aimee - posted on 10/01/2012

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I would be the same way Jaime Leigh! I would freak too. I would definitely talk to the teacher asap! that comment makes me think something could be happening with another child. This is way more serious and I would reserve my emotions for the teacher and get to the bottom of what she is "learning". Bringing it to the attention of the teacher is also a good thing so they can be on the lookout for anything. Good luck and please keep me informed. I would like to see how this plays out so I can be prepared when it happens in our house.

Dove - posted on 10/01/2012

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Definitely don't get upset TO your daughter... and don't lie either... sex IS a word. ;) Just stay calm with her, find out 'casually' from her as much information as you can, and talk to her teachers. The good touch/bad touch talk is an excellent idea. If she doesn't already know that no one other than Mommy or Daddy (to help bathe/wipe or with an injury) or the doctor (with injury or routine checks) has permission to touch any of her body that gets covered in a swim suit... now is the time for that talk.



With her only being there 3 days a week I'm 'assuming' this is preschool? Are there older kids at the school that she is around as well? There could be something going on with a child in her class that NEEDS help and intervention, so talking to the teacher asap is a very good idea.



Hang in there. They get exposed to all kinds of 'lovely' things once they start getting out in the world of other kids/adults. Some of it is minor and other things need immediate intervention. It is very important to stay calm with your child though because if she thinks even for a second that she will get in trouble.... she'll clam up.

Michelle - posted on 10/01/2012

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I would be seeing red flags here you need to get in touch with the school and find out where this is coming from. Children this age don't know or understand the concept so someone is teaching her and I would definitely want to know who and why I think you need to sit your daughter down and discuss with her about good touches and bad touches and make sure she knows that if anyone tries to touch her in any way that is a bad touch she is to tell the teacher, you or another trusted adult right away. Get to the bottom of this right away, if she brings it up again don't get upset about the words or what was said, tell her it is really important that mommy knows who is teaching you this stuff, and that you won't be mad at them. She is keeping it a secret cause she is scared.

Jennifer - posted on 10/01/2012

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Aimee,

She doesnt do it everyday after school she only there 3 days out of the week, so the days that she isnt in school I dont hear anything about it.

The first time i noticed, she was saying the word over and over and over, and I said where did you learn that word? are you trying to say the number six sweety and she said no mom, sex, and I got scared and said that isnt a word hunny your talking about the number six. and she went on with playing and I didnt hear anything else.

Then the nxt time was just the other day and she asked me if I knew that people couldnt have sex with their underwear on... and I FREAKED out... and said OMG where did you hear this, and once again she said I dont know... and said you dont ever take your underwear off unless you at home and having a bath or mommy and daddy ask you to get canged OK.

and she just looked at me and said I know mommy, and went off playing with her doll

Today when i picked her up I never heard anything about it. and havnt as of yet

Dove - posted on 10/01/2012

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WHAT exactly is she saying about it? That's where I would start. My girls came home a couple of years ago from playing with the neighbor girl (she was 5..they were a tad older). The other girl had wanted to play a game that they refused to play because they knew it was wrong... it was a game about 'sex', but you want to know what this 5 year old's concept of sex was? Kissing someone's finger. lol

Aimee - posted on 10/01/2012

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I agree....but I would actually talk with the teacher because there may be something going on with another child that the teacher is aware of and piece it all together for you. What about sex is she saying....like kissing, were babies come from, or private parts or the actual act itself? I ask because to me, the depth of the topic will let me know what could be going on or where she hears it. My son is 5 and says stuff about kissing( mommies and daddies kiss etc) and he was saying stuff about boyfriends and girlfriends and it turned out it was a combo of him hearing me say to hubby, give me a kiss (LOL) and they play house at school and he is the boyfriend of this little girl who happens to have an older sister who dates. :)

Bobbie - posted on 09/30/2012

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The time of day in which she speaks about it tells you where it is coming from. Children have very short attention spans. I would suggest you open lines of communication with her school, at the office is where to start. Ask that guidance councilor or other person of authority who advices to be notified that you have an issue with your daughter bringing up the subject. Let them know you are coming to them because you do not know where in school she is hearing this discussed, It could be in recess, in gym, on the bus, anywhere really within her school schedule.

This way you touch all bases and get the focus on everyone observing

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