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Angel - posted on 11/11/2009

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Listen, Children eat when they are hungry. My son who is 5 yrs old, has Autism . He eats a handful of foods and the dr says that is perfectly fine. If more people ate when they were hungry instead of when they "thought" they should eat, there would be less fat people in the world!!! You have to pick your battles!!! Ask yourself, is this really that important right now?? I think not. As far as drink boxes, I found some in Publix that are fruit and veggies and my son loves them. Also, try some chocolate rice milk or chocolate almond milk. Just a few suggestions. Itwill all work out, Don't stress the small stuff. and don't listen to these other people, if he's healthy and thriving, don't worry, noone knows your child like you do. And for the people that say starve them till they eat what you want them to, someone needs to check your head. My son Would starve himself before he ate some things.

Anna - posted on 11/07/2009

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then get rid of the nutella and quit buying it and get rid of the fruit drinks and give him some water or milk. he will eat when he gets hungry and he will eat what you give him... now be prepared for the whines, cries and tempers to flare but put your foot down and be consistent with it so he knows your boss! if you arent consistent then nothing will work!

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Sandi - posted on 11/11/2009

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Your child will only eat nutella and fruit shots? Serously? Quit buying them! You are the parent. I have told my kids from the time they were old enough to understand that they don't live at Burger King - you don't get things your way here. I guarantee your child will not starve. When he is hungry he'll eat something. My kids are NEVER EVER EVER required to clear their plate. I was and I am obese. I was a big baby and never quit from there. They do get sweets, in moderation. And they are required to eat a decent meal prior to. They don't have to eat all the meal, but they do have to eat a decent amount, especially of the veggies. They get one piece of candy after dinner most nights (we are working on halloween candy and it will last until easter candy comes in). If they don't eat cause "they aren't hungry" then of course they don't get candy or treats. There are very few things my kids won't eat, and they retry stuff they don't like once every six months or so because tastebuds change. They can't just touch the tip of their tongue to it and say "yech!". They have to take a decent bite, chew and swallow and I have to see them do it.

Lisa - posted on 11/11/2009

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who introduced him to nutella on bread? perhaps they should have tried avocado on toast.

Amanda - posted on 11/10/2009

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Take him shopping with you and let him help prepare some meals with other foods he might find interesting. Many times children are more apt to try new things if it is an accomplishment. I agree with the mom who suggested the Jessica Seinfeld cookbook. Getting children interested in food is a good way to get them on the road to good eating. Plus, you get a fun family activity as well.

Amanda - posted on 11/10/2009

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If you force your child to sit at a table until all of their food is gone, then you are starting a very unhealthy cycle. Children, like adults, should only eat the amount they feel they need to eat. Don't ever use food as a punishment or reward, and likewise do not punish or reward children for their eating habits.

Maggie - posted on 11/10/2009

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Both my oldest went through this type of phase. I just refused to feed them seperate meals and eventually they ate. If you put one thing on the plate you know they will eat you may have more success. I also feed the kids 4 times a day so I know they are getting what they need. You are the adult and he needs to know that.

Karen - posted on 11/10/2009

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Do you have the Jessica Sienfield cook book? I love it its all about hiding fruits and Veggies in foods that kids love.. She does hers all home made but i have found it also works with any recipe or boxed meals you have just match the color of veggie or fruit to the color of food you fix like Mac and Cheese i usually put peaches or squash and us it in the place of eather the butter or the milk in the recipe/directions on the box. I have also found that instead of taking the time to steam and mash the veggies in fruit you can get the baby food just look at the ingrediants and as long as it says the veggie or fruit and water its the same as doing it yourself but it last longer. My kids and my Husband Love the food and dont even know it is healthy for them.

Jessi - posted on 11/10/2009

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My son only wants ramen noodles or hot dogs (and he's six as well). Everything else he throws a fit for. I think the trick is to try to add new flavors gradually with his meals. Maybe add a spice of veggies on the side or try some strawberry milk to drink. Introduce things slowly and gradually. It takes a while for them to acquire new tastes, but with patience I'm sure you can teach him to love new things. Its a hard battle, but making sure your child is fed and happy is the most important thing. I'm not condoning anything like McDonalds every night. There do need to be rules, but I think if you try things slowly, it'll work best for you and him! Hope that helps!

Kristin - posted on 11/10/2009

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Nuetella is actually a stable in an Italian household (its considered the Italian peanut butter) I was raised on it and considering that yes there is chocolate in it is still very healthy due to the fact it has hazlenuts in it as well. I would try to offer him something different since you are the mom. Yes making him eat what you give him and only that like some moms offered can work, but if he is stubborn then trust me it will backfire (this is from personel experience). I tried that with my daughter and it backfired 10x to the point of she would not eat. Of course he brother had the exact opposite effect, it depends on the child. I would ask him what else he would like to try or do the take one bite to seeif you like it method that works wonders with picky and stubborn children.

Alyson - posted on 11/10/2009

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Just don't bring these things home from the store. Keep a drawer in the fridge with cheese sticks, carrots and yogurt. Tell him that you don't have what he wants, and he can have something healthy from the drawer instead. He might kick up a big fuss at first, but his hunger will get the best of him. He won't starve!

Joelle - posted on 11/09/2009

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Yeah ... my worst was my now 10 year old who would hold food in his mouth for hours ... that was nasty. I'd get so mad at him but he wouldn't spit it out ... just hold it in there. Anyway this article came to my e-mail today ... I thought how appropriate. It has some good ideas.
http://family.go.com/food/recipe-793265-...

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I will have to go back and try it, hopefully it will work this time. Oh my 4 year olf hasnt had dessert in months lol cause he won't eat Thanks for the advice

Joelle - posted on 11/09/2009

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Quoting Trista:



Quoting Joelle:

My son would prefer to eat a PB & J sandwich every meal if I'd let him. But he get's what the rest of us get otherwise he goes hungry. They learn pretty quick to eat what is given to them.






How the heck did you get this to work for you? We have done this for 2 months for dinner cause Landon is in school during the days..and he just goes hungry. So I gave up and just offer what we have like I said previously...I wish this would have worked for us :-(






Well it's not like he doesn't complain ... even my 11 year old complains.  But I think they've learned that this is it.  I don't force them to sit there and eat what is given to them.  If they don't like it then they can be excused but that is it.  No saying I'm hungry later and NO dessert!  And as long as they try everything I'm happy ... they don't have to like it but they have to try it.  And for the most part it works. 

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Quoting Joelle:

My son would prefer to eat a PB & J sandwich every meal if I'd let him. But he get's what the rest of us get otherwise he goes hungry. They learn pretty quick to eat what is given to them.



How the heck did you get this to work for you? We have done this for 2 months for dinner cause Landon is in school during the days..and he just goes hungry. So I gave up and just offer what we have like I said previously...I wish this would have worked for us :-(

Joelle - posted on 11/09/2009

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My son would prefer to eat a PB & J sandwich every meal if I'd let him. But he get's what the rest of us get otherwise he goes hungry. They learn pretty quick to eat what is given to them.

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I have been through the fussy eater and the best advice I was ever given was to relax, and stop worrying about it, severe fussiness usually has some form of anxiety on the childs part at the root of it, and the more anxious we get the more anxious the child gets its a vicious circle, my son got his teeth really late and I continiued to try him with lumps and finger foods and he would gag and choke on occasion he became very nervous where foods were concerned. The battles began and I worried he was not eating the right foods and mealtimes were awful, lots of tears. Then I took the relax advice and have never looked back, we would give him what we knew he would eat plus little bits of what we were having but no stress if he wasn't interested noone mentioned it if he didnt try anything, we chatted and enjoyed mealtimes, then he started to pick at new things and ask about them, he would help me prepare some stuff and then bits would make it to his mouth and then we would make such a fuss of him, it was a slow process but well worth perservering with, he is now 12 and eats a varied diet, and will try new foods without any issues. Encouraging him to help prepare food and get messy with food does help, getting him to pick a food he likes the look of was always a good one. Just relax stay calm and stop worrying what anyone else thinks, praise praise praise when he so much as licks something new and just ignore when he doesn't.

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I feel for you, my 4 year old has a VERY limited attention span for foods as well, he will literally gag up anything new you try to get him to eat. It is very frustrating but as long as the babe is healthy then according to my Dr he will eat on his own and since my son has begun preschool he has started to eat fruits...it's all in the small steps. One thing we do is offer what we are having for dinner, and have him try one bite. Sometimes he likes it others he doesn't most times he gags it down, but atleast he got a pea or a carrot into his body. Just my experiences with it...Good luck!

Heather - posted on 11/09/2009

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I agree with emma, get him involved with the food process. he can even help pick out whats for dinner and go to the store and get the things you need. DON"T buy anything that you don't want him to have. And he is old enogh to understand these things are not good for your body. Not to mention if he wants to be a big baseball player or whatever he may want to be these things are going to slow him down.have a talk with him you may get farther then you think. And don't give in. but do it without being mean because you don't want him to react this way in the future. Eat as a family and make it fun! Hope this works for you and hope you get a heathly son.

Emma - posted on 11/09/2009

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Could you encourage your son to help make the dinner, maybe start with healthy homemade pizzas and expand from there. You need to make it clear that the old ways are gone now and be firm. If you don't have them in the house it will be easier to stick to it. Tell him how happy you are when he tries something new and ignore the tantrums!
Good Luck

Sonja - posted on 11/09/2009

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Make the food take it to the table and sit with him and eat if that's all there is then he will eat too especially if he sees you with him. Make eating social not just for hunger, start a conversation. The food he is eating is going to make him sick (diabetes most likely) fresh whole foods and water are the best you can give. Good luck.

LaKeshia - posted on 11/08/2009

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He only eats these things because you give them to him with no other choices. You are the person that buys the groceries, therefore you are the person ultimately responsible for how & what your child eats or doesn't eat. You may want to try giving him what he likes for a light snack, but only after he's tried or finished the foods that you are requiring that he eats with the family. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!

Julia - posted on 11/08/2009

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I have 3 boys, all of whom have had various faddy times over food. As far as i am concerned your child will come around, as long as you are following good dental hygiene and trying new foods all the time he will come round. My 9 year old was exactly the same at that age, would only eat choc spread and nothing else, he now eats almost everything, patience, understanding and discussion are the ways to go. Let him play with vegetables in their raw state, let him help prepare dinner, don't worry about it too much, if he tries something jump around get excited, even if he spits it out, they all get there in the end. I don't agree with the ruthless idea that what you say goes, if he's always had these things then you can't just stop and say no, he needs to be encouraged not read the riot act. Good luck.xx

Amanda - posted on 11/08/2009

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ur the boss nt ur child its wha u say goes n the other way around dnt give anymore nutella change it to something healthier u have indroduced nutella and given him the taste for sweet things now is the time to change even if he screams dnt give in e will eventuall eat whatever u give him out of sheer hunger and its not healthy for his teeth.

Michelle - posted on 11/08/2009

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Quoting sumandhi:

Never offer your children desert! They should only get that rarely on special occasions. Otherwise you teach your children to expect it, and desert is not good for any growing child...(unless we are talking about graham crackers or something). Also, my daughter doesn't get to leave the table until she has eaten all of her food, which are age-appropriate portions. Why aren't more parents willing to do something about their children's bad eating habits? It's much easier to change them than one may think.


the having to eat all food or u can't leave the table is a great way to lead your daughter into obesity... she's the only one that knows when she's full

Veronica - posted on 11/07/2009

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First of all - that stuff has aspartame in it -- do you understand what aspartame is? It is acid and formeldehyde! Your son is going to have more problems in life than just eating habits if you keep him on that!



Secondly - QUIT BUYING IT - if you dont buy it, he cant eat it.



Thirdly - say NO -- no more discussion there



And finally - if he wont eat anything else - so what, send him to bed without supper then.



My kids try this with me all of the time. I make ONE meal for supper, and that is what they are going to eat -- Im not a restaurant - im their mother. Im not going to cook seperatly for each of them either. They either eat what i make, or they dont eat at all. Usually they end up eating - cause they know my foot is down, and they know that they will go to bed hungry otherwise. Works like a charm.



As for dessert -- someone said no dessert all the time -- Im really sorry - but dessert is essential for your health too -- moderation is key - and i like the idea of the lady who wrote about ' two spoons healthy, two spoons dessert' -- you still need some sugars and fats in your diet regardless -- just make them healthier ones -- read your labels - NO aspartame though! bad idea!! homemade desserts are the best -- they dont have preservatives, you can control the amount of sugar and stuff if you desire - and they are from scrath - much more healthier than from the store.



I wish you luck as a mother Helena - and I sincerely mean that -- I know that I dont have all the answers and feel stuck in situations with my kids too - but this kind of stuff i deal with all of the time - so I hope Ive been of some help!



Take care,

V

Leila - posted on 11/07/2009

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I agree with Sumandhi and Michelle. I would offer him real food and if he doesn't wan't, that's ok. When he's really hungry he'll eat. I would also stop buying Nutella to avoid the temptation of giving it to him ;o)

Sumandhi - posted on 11/07/2009

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Never offer your children desert! They should only get that rarely on special occasions. Otherwise you teach your children to expect it, and desert is not good for any growing child...(unless we are talking about graham crackers or something). Also, my daughter doesn't get to leave the table until she has eaten all of her food, which are age-appropriate portions. Why aren't more parents willing to do something about their children's bad eating habits? It's much easier to change them than one may think.

Jenny - posted on 11/07/2009

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My daughter went a year without eating meat. In desperation, I took her to McDonald's and ordered chicken mcnuggets. She promptly ate the breading and discarded the meat. I appealed to my doctor and he asked what I was offering her at home. I replied that I tried to give her (and her sisters) things I knew they would like but were still healthy at breakfast and lunch and at dinner she had to eat what mom and dad ate. He told me if the only way she got healthy food was through osmosis then I was a great mom!
She eats meat now (that was six years ago) and lots of other yummy healthy things. Your son will too. Just keep offering good choices and he will get around to it. Also, dessert is still allowed in my house, only the portion is decided by the portion you ate at dinner (2 bites of dinner is 2 bites of dessert). Eat more healthy yummy stuff then you can have more not-so-healthy yummy stuff.

Angie - posted on 11/07/2009

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I agree with all the other moms, put the same meal on the table that the rest of the family is eating and if he chooses not to eat it then he can just sit while everyone else eats. He might get hungry but he won't starve. At some point he'll get hungry enough to eat the healthy meal that you offer. Get rid of the Nutella - it's expensive anyway. As far as fruit shoots, I had no clue what it was until I went to the website - it is only 11% juice and is sweetened with aspartame and is called a fruit flavored drink, not a fruit juice, stop buying that as well. Milk and water are better drink choices.

Kay - posted on 11/07/2009

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He does that because you allow him to get away with it. He is way beyond the age where you should be giving him a separate meal. He knows you if he cries enough then you will cave and that's not healthy for him and it is teaching him that he can have whatever he wants when he goes to school, you either eat it or you dont! It's okay to be a little picky, but you have to break him from that. You are the parent. Make him eat what he is given, or at least try the foods. I promise he is not going to starve himself and if he decides to go to bed hungry for a few days, he will surely change his mind soon!

Sumandhi - posted on 11/07/2009

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You are the mom. You decide what he gets to eat. Offer him real food. If he won't eat that, that's fine. He can wait until he wants it. Believe me, he will, you just can't give into him, even if he screams. The more he resists the more firm you should stand your ground. I would NEVER advise giving children nutella, especially chocolate. The only way to teach children to eat healthfully is to show them how. Mom has to eat well, too.

Michelle - posted on 11/07/2009

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how about giving hima plate of real food and no other option? he'll eat before he starves and right now he knows he can push you around and get what he wants

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