My son can't stand his cloths.

Terry - posted on 02/14/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have a 5 year old who has issues with his clothes. It is such a big deal to get ready for anything. Anyone watching would think he is a spoiled brat because of the behavior when getting dressed. His shoes have to be tight and has to have turtle knecks on for his shirt. The pants need a draw string so you can tie them tight. I have to cut his finger nails while he is sleeping because other wise he said it hurts. He will wake in the morning and notice that it has been done and still complain that his nails hurt. Eventually he will do what he is supose to but its a task everyday.When we are home he almost always naked. Can anyone relate?

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Terry - posted on 02/26/2010

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Thanks Mindi,

I have been doing some research and thats what it all comes down to, SPD . We have an app. with an OT next week. Thanks for your advice ,very good tips.

Mindi - posted on 02/25/2010

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Terry, you could check out the Sensory Processing Disorder group on here. You might get some good tips from people on there.

Mindi - posted on 02/25/2010

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This sounds like Sensory Processing Disorder to me. My son was diagnosed with it last year. It can look different in each child. Try to imagine putting on clothes made of something that really irritates your skin - maybe a very itchy wool sweater with nothing underneath. You would not want to wear it, and if you had to, you would have trouble paying attention to whatever you're supposed to because all you can think about is how awful your skin feels. This is the way your son feels when he wears "normal" clothes because his skin is so VERY sensitive.

First of all, I always let my son choose what he wears. When something he puts on is bothering him, I ask him if he wants help choosing something else. My "help" consists of opening his drawers and asking him what he would like to wear that would feel better. I never tell him what to wear. Also, if you find one thing that feels good, buy several of them. It doesn't mean he'll want to wear them every day, but at least you don't have to try to find several different items that feel good.

My son has never liked having his nails cut. We do it anyway, but he always complains about how it feels.

The best way to deal with this is to let him figure out what feels good each day. It may be different each day, so don't get rid of anything he complains about because what feels terrible one day can feel fine another day. If you feel that his needs are hard to deal with or are impeding his daily living, you can see an Occupational Therapist for help. They can give you ideas for things you can do at home that can help. For example, some kids need their skin brushed each day to make things better. My son saw an OT for a few months, and it really helped us understand what he is going through, and we got some good tips about how to handle things at home.

Reema - posted on 02/14/2010

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take him shopping allow him 2 pick out a few items of clothing each nite allow him 2 pick out wot he chooses 2 wear 4 d nxt day if in d mrning he starts 2 play up tell him he has 10 mins 2 get ready or that u will take him 2 school in his p.j.s do not entertain his tantrums walk out the room calmly his doing this 4 attention also wen his home his only 5 so being undressed is not a problem as long as he has pants on my daughter used 2 do d same wen they knw u not gonna play up 2 their actions it will take a few days but it works

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