my son is 5 years old and still wetting the bed.

Kathleen - posted on 08/25/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )

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I have tried all I can think of. I get him up many times a night and it just seems that he goes in between the times I get him up. for instance, I started getting him up at 12 and 3 he will go pee at 12 and when i get him up at 3 he will be wet. so the next night i would get him up at 2:30 he will go pee but by morning he will go again. I wake him up @ 3 times a night and he sill pees. I also have restricted him from drinking before bed too. nothing seems to work. I even do rewords for nights he dose not pee the bed, he also sleeps really heavy so it makes it really hard to wake him up to go, sometimes i think he is still asleep when he is peeing at the toilet.

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Melissa - posted on 08/25/2010

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Your son is probably still asleep when he is peeing. I wet the bed into 3rd grade (9 yrs.). I eventually out grew it. My daughter did not become dry at night until between the ages of 6-7 yrs. Each child develops at their own time. That part of his body may not be fully developed yet. I would recommend that you talk to his doctor about. Until then just let him sleep in a pull up and when he is ready his body will let him know.

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Victoria - posted on 08/31/2010

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Hi, I was a bed-wetter until I was 12. My mom also. When I was a child, my father was extremely mean to me about it. I remember being so thirsty I thought I would die and he wouldn't let me get a drink. Now, I know now that this is a childs perspective and as such I probly wasn't anywhere near dying but it has stayed with me my whole life. I got spankings over it, I used to wish I had diapers to wear so that my sheets wouldn't get wet and my dad wouldn't be mad. My mother never was mad. I know it sounds like an abusive household but it wasn't. Really, that was the only thing I ever remember about getting a spanking for.

Now my son is a bedwetter and is going to be 7. My husband does not understand. He gets REALLY mad because of the cost of laundry. I flat out refuse to get mad at my son. It does mean we wear "underjams" (pampers brand of good nites) I DO NOT call them diapers and anyone that does, does not get to have him overnight (we had an issue with my husbands parents). I do not belive in refusing a drink however I can recognize a plot to stay awake and we do have a household rule of (do not ask when i send you to bed). If ur thirsty, you would be thirsty before I say its bed time.

I remember praying to god to help me stop bedwetting so my dad would love me again. Now I did and do know my dad loves me but when you are 11 its not so black and white. I agree with asking your doctor about it because sometimes it is a symptom of another condition like diabetes, or bladder infection and such. I do not think the alarm clock trick ever worked for me and it defintily didn't work for my son. It is rare for him to actaully wet the bed these day but when he does, it is a doozer.

Kathleen - posted on 08/31/2010

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Thank you all for your help, I know realize that my son is not the only one at his age doing this. I have never told him that wetting the bed is something bad because I did it until I was ten (but that was because of my home situation) so I was not sure if it was normal for a child that never experienced what I went through to wet the bed. My oldest child never did so I had nothing to compare it with. Thank you all again for your help.

Mary - posted on 08/31/2010

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Kathleen, I wouldnt' worry about it too much. This was me at that age, and I was an extremely deep sleeper. I remember having VIVID dreams of getting up out of bed, going to the toilet, pulling my pants down and then would wake up with a warm wet sensation in my bed. My mom would get very angry with me and I got sneaky and would put a towel in my bed and change my clothes and put them in the basement so she didn't know. No matter how nasty she got with me, it didnt' help because I just DIDN't wake up. I stopped peeing the bed when I started begin able to hold my bladder all night and to this day I wake up having to DASH to the toilet. The first time I started waking up to go pee was as an adult when I was pregnant. I agree with no drinks after dinner time, or only sips if he is really thirsty, and maybe just let him wear a pull up until he stops wetting it. With my son, he would put his pullup on a shelf by his bed each morning if it was dry and rewear it that night so as not to waste them. When he stopped ever having wet ones he decided on his own he didnt need them anymore. He still doesn't get up to pee either, just is able to hold it until morning.

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How YOU deal with this can be EXTREMELY detrimental to a child's self esteem. This is actually a very common problem and the best thing for you to do is remind your son that this isnt unusual, it's not terrible, it's nothing to be ashamed of, and most of all it's something he'll grow out of when his body is ready. I've known kids who have bed wetting problems into their teens.

Talk to your doctor if necessary. Use night time pants but make sure you approach the idea with dignity and discretion. Dont let your child hear you talking to others about it, imagine how embarrassing that is!

Dont reward him for nights he doesnt wet the bed, and most of all do not punish him for nights he does! This is something out of his control. How he feels when he has an accident is probably more horrible than you could comprehend.

Reassure him. Keep it private. Try to make this as easy for him as possible.

Deanna - posted on 08/26/2010

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My son is 10 and still wets the bed once a month. He is a very deep sleeper. Your son sounds like he may have excessive urine production at night. Talk to your doctor. There is a medication that will help him. There is also a pad you can put under thier sheet. When water hits it a buzzer goes off and wakes them up. Within a few days it trains them to wake up.
Hope this helps.

Vanessa - posted on 08/26/2010

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My son will be 10 in November and still wets the bed. The doctors told me he should grow out of it soon. He is a very deep sleeper. At 5 I wouldn't be that concerned.

Kym - posted on 08/26/2010

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My eldest was nearly 9 before he stopped wetting the bed. The only thing you can do is to try to increase his bladder capacity. When we attended the enuresis (bed-wetting) clinic, they told us to try to get my son to drink AS MUCH AS HE COULD throughout the day up to tea-time and then nothing after tea-time. This was to try to stretch his bladder so his bladder could hold on to enough wee until morning. My son was an extremely deep sleeper and when he was 8, they gave him a bed-wetting sensor and alarm which would go off as soon as he started to pee. Funnily enough it woke us up but at first he slept through it until he learned to wake up to the noise, then by association learned to wake up when he needed a pee. Your GP can refer your son to an enuresis clinic but not until he is 7 as until then, it is not considered a problem as LOADS of kids, particularly boys, wet the bed up to that age.

Pamela - posted on 08/25/2010

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I had the same problem, and so far my 7y/o son hasn't wet the bed in months. I talked with him to try to find out why he would get the urge, but not get up in time; he actually used to tell me he dreamt that he was being born. I later found that if he is too cold or too hot that is when he would end up wetting the bed. As for the pull-ups, I personnally couldn't afford them, so I invested in a waterproof matress pad and a few irregular sized fitted sheets which would mean more washing, but to each their own right?

Amanda - posted on 08/25/2010

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my son is 8 and still wets the bed and i get him up 2 to 3 times a night but i also have to deal with my ex not helping the situation instead of encouraging him to get up and go to the bathroom he puts him in a pull up so he doesn't have to clean up after him. which gives my son self esteem issues and also the understanding that it's okay. but hopefully he'll grow out of it.

Sherri - posted on 08/25/2010

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It is very normal. His bladder just isn't mature enough yet. He will grow out of it eventually. He can not control it and it is not his fault. Usually they sleep so heavy their immature bodies don't wake them when they have to go. It can last till they are around 7. Just be supportive and don't stress so much about it. Purchase Good Night underwear/pull ups and let him mature a little more.

Amanda - posted on 08/25/2010

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my 5 year old daughter was the same till 2 weeks ago ,we stopped lifting her in her sleep as she was still asleep when she went 2 the toilet,that ment when she went back 2 bed then she wet as she thought she was on the toilet,we put her 2 bed at 8.00pm and stopped all drinks from tea time then we gave her treats(money,sweets,toys)and that has seamed 2 work so farbut her doc said the same that she will grow out of it,hopes this advise helps u a bit

Melodie - posted on 08/25/2010

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I just want you to know your not alone. My son just stopped wetting the bed a month ago. We stop all fluids at 8pm so he doesnt pee. He goes pee right before he goes to bed and it seems to work. He is a hard sleeper also so it's harded to wake them up and have them pee. I know he was a sleep when I'd take him. I sending prayers and hopeing this helps. I also talked with his Doc. and he said he would just grow out of it.. Thank God that day has come. Just to save sheets have him wear a pullup.. Good Luck to you both.. Just remember don't be mad at him.. :)

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