My son is 8 years old and is acting p in school. Any ideas anyone? Thank you.

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Sherry - posted on 08/17/2009

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I tried it all when my son acted out, what finally worked was karate! they were able to have him get rid of that excess energy and aggresion ina positive way and he looks forward to it after school...good luck!

Victoria - posted on 08/17/2009

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MY 8 YR OLD SON HAD THE SAME PROBLEM, WE TOOK HIM TO A BEHAVIOUR SPECIALIST BUT COS THE PROBLEM WAS ONLY AT SCHOOL THEY SAID THEY COULDNT LABEL HIM WITH SPECIAL NEEDS ,I WAS AT MY WITS END I DIDNT KNOW WHAT TO DO SO I HAD A MEETING WITH HIS TEACHERS WE ALL MADE A BOOK THAT CAME BACK N FORTH FRM HOME N SCHOOL WE GAVE HIM GOALS AND REWARDS TO LOOK FORWARD TO WE FOUND THAT WHEN HE DIDNT UNDERSTAND HIS WORK AT SCHOOL HE PLAYED UP AND HELD THE WHOLE SCHOOL TO RANSOM . TEACHER NOTICE THE EARLY MOOD SWINGS IN HIM TO REALISE THAT IF THEY SHOUTED AT HIM THEY GOT NO WHERE SO INSTEAD THEY TOOK HIM OFF TO DO JOBS ELSEWHERE OR EVEN KEPT HIM IN AT PLAY TO MAKE MODELS. THREATENING DOES NOT WORK AT THE SCHOOL AS TEACHER FOUND OUT THE HARD WAY ,WE HAD A VERY BAD DAY AT SCHOOL AND I WAS GONNA TAKE HIM OUT OF THE SCHOOL I BURST IN TO TEARS AND CRAIG SAW HOW UPSET ID BECOME THAT EVENING WE SAT HIM DOWN AND ASKED HIM HOW HE FELT ABOUT ME CRYING ,HE SAID HE DIDNT LIKE THE LITTLE BOY INSIDE HIM. THE NEXT DAY SOMETHING INSIDE HIM HAD CHANGED LIKE SOME ONE HAD FLIP A SWITCH INSIDE HIM ,THAT DAY HE WAS A LITTLE ANGEL WE GAVE HIM BIG HUGS AND TEACHERS GAVE HIM STICKERS TO SAY HOW WELL HED DONE ,HE TOLD ME THAT HE LIKED IT WHEN HE HAD A GOOD DAY AT SCHOOL AND 4 MONTH LATER FINGERS CROSSED WE HAVE NEVER LOOKED BACK . HE STARTS A NEW YEAR IN SEPTEMBER AND A NEW TEACHER WE JUST PRAY THAT ITS NOT GOING TO START UP AGAIN JUST REMEMBER ONCE THEYVE BEEN TOLD OFF FOR SOMETHING, THATS GONE DONT TELL OTHER PEOPLE HES BEEN PUNISHED AND THE MORE U BRING IT UP THE MORE THEY PLAY UP ,PLUS LOOK AT THE POSITIVE THING THEYVE DONE THAT DAY AND REWARD THEM 4 THAT GOOD LUCK . P.S HIS GRADES HAVE GONE THROUGH THE ROOF ASWELL HES A VERY CLEVER BOY AND HE GETS LOTS MORE CUDDLES WHICH I MISSED MYSELF

Amanda - posted on 08/16/2009

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My daughter had the same problem when she was 5 and 6. She was so bad that she threw a chair at the teacher and was stealing things from kids backpacks. The school wanted me to not disipline her at home for her behavior and for a little bit I did go along with that, however her behavior got worse. We ended up sending a notebook to school and I would write how the evening and mornings were at home and the teacher would write back about school. She turned around fast. She found that with mom and the teacher on the same page she could not get away with all her foolishness. After a few weeks we gave her small rewards and the teacher and at home she would get praised for all her good days. The teacher was wonderful and I hope you have one that is too and willing to work with you to get the situation under control!! Good luck!

Kristina - posted on 08/15/2009

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My son is 7 and he has had his share of problems. One thing I noticed is that the teacher was stern and she also has a green, yellow, red, black system. He knew that if he got red or black he was not allowed to do anything but sit in his room with nothing for a week including weekends and if he got yellow it was only that day. This helped him to stay out of trouble for the most part. Though he still had his days. The most important thing we had to do was teach him how to control his emotions when he got angry or upset. That is when he got into most of his trouble. I hope this helps.

Sajitha - posted on 08/15/2009

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Do find out why he's doing it. Is there something troubling him in school, a teacher, other students? Has there been any changes at home, that may have affected him emotionally? Are you giving him enough positive attention? V all crave positive attention but then, if v do not get that, v settle for negative attention. Find the root cause instead of dealing with his actions.

User - posted on 08/15/2009

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Is the teacher willing to do a chart in school? I know most teachers at this age still do rewards chart with a treasure box or you can start one at home and add behavior at school on the chart, and then if he does not get in any trouble he can get a reward at the end of the week

Lisa - posted on 08/15/2009

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I would have the teacher send home a paper that she/he has signed each day with a green for good yellow for ok or red for poor behavior give a treat such as happymeal toys , stickers, coloring pages etc for green . Give verbal praise for yellow with reminder of what he can get if he's green, and if red take away 30 min of playtime, bedtime early, less tv etc.

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