Need help with my 7yr old daughter!!!

Jen - posted on 04/29/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I would appreciate any advice....my daughter has been lying(to her teacher/us), has an attitude and sassy mouth....and I feel like I am going to lose my mind. We have talked to her, sent her to her room, taken things away..nothing seems to be working. She is pushing every button she can, and my husband and I are trying to keep control...but we just end up raising our voices because she doesn't listen.
I know that I am not the only mother going through this...but I feel like I am doing something wrong!!
Thank you for reading this and for any help/advice!! I'm very appreciative.

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Jennifer - posted on 04/30/2010

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Hi,
Your daughter sounds like my 7 year old's twin. Taking away her most prized posession seems to do the trick for her. She just had her birthday yesterday and got a Nintendo DS Lite which she will not come out from under so I use that as my secret weapon if need be. She responds well to rewards & consequences. Use it, take it from me it works.

Marie - posted on 04/30/2010

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Figure out what her "currency" is (a Dr Phil-ism). What does she value the most? It could be video games, tv, time with friends? Whatever it is, use it. Help her realize that this behavior leads to this item being taken away for a defined period of time and the good behavior leads to getting to do this thing more. Kids are typically very responsive to behavior/reward/penalty programs as long as you are consistent and they know you will follow through.

Crystal - posted on 04/29/2010

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I went through this with my now 9 daughter. At the time I didn't know what to do either so we went to counsler, just me and her. We were able to talk through things and came up with ideas together regarding what was acceptable behavior and what wasnt. We also came up with consequences for her actions and and we stuck to them when she acted out. We also made some charts to help keep track of good behavior and came up with little minor reward ideas for when she being good and not acting out or lying. It took a bit and alot of patience but it helped out alot.

Angie - posted on 04/29/2010

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Pick one consequence, make sure she understands it and be VERY consistent in using it. She gets no warning as soon as she smarts off, she goes to her room (or whatever), no discussion is needed...................

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