Over Emotional?

Liz - posted on 09/26/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My son is 5 years old and outwardly appears to be a typical child. However he is very emotional, to the point that it effects his daily activity. Anything from not getting his way to being told it's bed time, he will have a crying fit. He is very attached to me as well, meaning I have a hard time with him not being right next to me ALL the time. He does well at school (when it comes to being away form me) but once he is out he is once again very attached. He is currently going through evaluations for various things to see what could be the reason. Any ideas on how to calm him until we have confirmation on what is going on with him?

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Erin - posted on 09/26/2009

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I was VERY emotional when I was in elementary school too. I would just get really stressed out(hard to imagine a child with stress, but I was one). I didn't talk about my feelings a lot, and it lead to a lot of crying over silly things that weren't actually the problem. Have you tried talking to your son about what's wrong and why he's so upset over these things? Deep breathing helped me a lot, and I know it sounds silly, but my mom would sing a song that she created just for me, a silly song about how much she loved me, and when I got stressed I would think about it and that helped. He might just be feeling insecure right now too. Try reassuring him about doing things on his own. Challenge him at home when you can to take something into the other room for you or something like that and praise him for doing it ALL BY HIMSELF. I hope that helped.

Liz - posted on 09/26/2009

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I am glad I am not the only mother that does not want their child medicated. I have 2 opinions right now and through a program here in town Zeus will be receiving a case manager that we help me find other clinicians to further my options. My daughter is 4, and very willing to say bye mom most of the time. So I agree that boys and girls differ when it comes to emotional states. I am hoping he does outgrow this stage in time, in some ways I am holding on to it because I know at some point they won't need mom to be there all the time. Thank you for your input, it means a lot knowing that I am not alone in this situation.

Nikki - posted on 09/26/2009

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my son is 5 and the same way i wiish i could help with advice but i was told it nwas normal and he will grow out of it this is just how he copes with things school and play he does well too i think its a stage and he will get over it i wouldn't medicate eigther the side affects for kidsis bad to deal with good luck

Shana - posted on 09/26/2009

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They always want to give meds. I would suggest that you get a second opinion before you do anything. My son who is now 10 was a handful at 5. I was sometimes at my wits end. But he was just being a normal boy who is attached to mom. This is normal. Boys are very different from girls. 20 years ago the doc would have told you this. They just want to give drugs now, which keeps you coming back for visits and the drug rep gets a good christmas bonus for all the meds you have to buy.
Really, I would go to several docs BEFORE you decide anything.

Liz - posted on 09/26/2009

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Ty ... his pediatrician has told me he will need meds, which I have completely disagreed on. I would rather not medicate my son if possible for any reason. He does alright if we are at the playground, its the other times I have him with me that I am trying to figure out. I spoke to the psychologist at his school and he mentioned trying sensory therapy, such as weights on his shoulders, to help him focus and still feel the comfort he would otherwise seek out. I am definitely opting for that over any type of medication.

Shana - posted on 09/26/2009

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Well, my son was really the same way at 5. I think one reason is his age, second he is a boy and boys tend to be this way with mom. (mamas boy) I really don't think anything is wrong with him. Don't let a doc tell you he needs meds either. I bet he will grow out of this like my son did at around age 7. Pray about this and try taking him places that he can run off without you, but you are still in his view. ( park, church, friends house)

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