Penis problem can you help?

Kiera - posted on 03/10/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I have tried not to include Kim on circle of moms but now i have to. He has a massive problem. He always pee pees standing up, aiming everywhere. And when he is done he will sit down on the floor playing with his peep hole (penissss). he has even put it in his mouth, and sucked on it. YUK! He will even just stand up in the middle of day and take his winky out and start plying. It is embarassing when this happens in the middle of the mall. He does this at school, and is laughed at. It is not a medical condititon for sure, so dont suggest that. please help - in detail.

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Ron - posted on 06/24/2012

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How old is he?
First of all, part of your story is like way out there, your going to have to get tough with him about the public display and let him know that only in hs room is it permissible.. Set the boundaries.
Ignoring this will not have it go away!

Gabriela - posted on 03/11/2012

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I asked my son's Pediatrician if it was normal for a child to play with his penis, and he said it was, but if he is doing it at 5 or older, then it is not. And as a mother, I had to tell him "this is ok for a little kid, but now that you're 5, it has to stop, because your penis is not a toy". You mentioned he has a rash now, so that would be a good reason to stop touching it. You could tell him that since his hands aren't always clean, he is putting germs in his penis that are making him feel uncomfortable. And that his tummy is going to feel sick if he plays with his penis and forgets washing his hands, because pee is actually garbage. I also told my son that it is ok to touch his penis when he goes peeing because he has to make sure there are no drops left there to avoid getting sick, and also he has to touch it when he takes a bath to clean it, but neither of these things take more than a few seconds. And since he really hates taking medicine and/or using it on his private parts, whenever he has a rash or worse, he has stopped playing with it. Still trying to get him to clean more properly, but I believe telling the truth is always best. Good luck and let us know how things turn out. Does he have a father figure that could advice him? If not, maybe taking him to the pediatrician and asking him to do it might help.

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I would suggest therapy of some sort. My son's (almost 4) penis is his favorite 'toy', but he has never once attempted any of the behaviors you are talking about. This does not seem normal for a child old enough to understand boundaries.... which every normally developing 3/4 year old SHOULD be perfectly capable of understanding....

Kiera - posted on 03/10/2012

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thank yo so much, weve been tring to talk to him all the time! im going on ebay soon to find some toilet balls, thanks. And i cant discuss daddy as daddy ran awy, and we dont know if hes alive, therefore i just said daddy and mummy dont get on.

do you have any other ideas as he has now started having a rash on hs penis?

Louise - posted on 03/10/2012

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The aim in the toilet is easy to deal with buy some toilet balls that are available on the internet. They normally come in the shape as blue fish that you put in the loo and let him pee on. They do not flush away and it makes it fun for him to get his aim right.



Now he is 4 year old? At this age he knows right from wrong. So you need to get down to his level and tell him that it is not appropriate for him to fiddle in the mall and that if he needs to adjust himself he has to go to the bathroom to do it. Bring his attention to the fact that nobody else is doing it. Daddy does not do it because big boys dont. If he pees on the floor and you find him playing with the pee then let him play with cleaning it up with a mop! 4 years old is rather old for this sort of action it is normally with a 2-3 year old learning how to potty train. A constant reminder that he is a big boy now should be enough to stop him. When he does stop then reward him with a big boy treat like bowling or something.

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