Plane Tickets; Military family; Non-custodial parent needs help

Erin - posted on 11/18/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hello everyone! Very new to the site here and looking forward to joining in conversations helping out as much as I can:)
I am a stepmom to my husbands 7 year old and we recently just had to transfer out of state due to his transfer to another military station. This is a new experience for all involved...My husband, me, his bio mom and her boyfriend and of course my stepson. So we're all having a little bit of growing pains as you could say...

My husband and his ex do NOT get along. I'll spare you the who did what details and get straight to the question.
My stepson is suppose to fly out for his spring break in 2014, and we have sent the flight info to his biological mom.

She is not responding to us. We would like to buy this ticket ASAP as it is a reasonable deal! The more she doesn't respond, the higher the cost goes up for us and her too.

Do we send her another email giving our time deadline request? Then if she doesn't respond do we just buy the ticket? She asked us to send us the flight details and now that we,have she isn't responding...sparing details, lets just say its a not-so-fun game that occurs often.

Some info:
In the decree they pay 50/50 on travel costs.
my husband has mandated holidays including Spring Break, and we were to notify her before April 1st, 2014. We did this on Nov. 13, 2013.
My husband is the non-custodial

Any help much appreciated! We don't want to keep emailing and emailing, we would like to buy the ticket asap.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/18/2013

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That's why, Erin, it's always better to have the liason officer involved. But, I would think that, since the requirement is that you provide the info (not that you get her agreement), and the 50/50 is already written, you should be ok...

But have the legal office be your final answer!

Good luck with everything, Erin!

Erin - posted on 11/18/2013

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I know right...we're trying to get the best deal for everyone and as soon as possible so the ticket price doesn't go up. Thank you for replying as well :)...

She does understand how it works..im trying to spare the nasty details of our issues with the blended family but for example,
she gave us less than 24 hours notice she would be purchasing his Christmas ticket this year..with no option of the dates and well no option actually at all.. as she stated she would be "purchasing the ticket that night."

I believe she did this so the best deal would be purchased on the ticket..but a little notice would have been nice ya know? So she understands the process of the earlier the better with airfare,...

We have military legal, so I think you're right..I will have him contact them and see what they say.

I am just afraid if we purchase the ticket, she will say, "I didn't agree to that." And then could she just not pay for her half?? All this legal stuff gives me a headache!

Really appreciate the replies and I'm open to all information. Have a great day Shawnn!

Erin

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/18/2013

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Have your husband talk to the legal department to find out if (under the clause of the divorce) he would be considered in contempt if he went ahead and purchased the flight.

Technically, according to the info you've given, you should be fine to go ahead with the purchase, as she's been provided with the itinerary. But there may have been something written into the paperwork that is being overlooked.

I would think she'd want the most reasonable rate, if they're splitting costs 50/50. Does she understand how airfare works, that the closer you get to the travel date, the more expensive the tickets are?

As a last resort, have his attorney contact her.

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