Please help, is there anything I can do about my child?

Mandy - posted on 11/19/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I really need help with my 7 year old. He just turned 7 in August and he is in 2nd grade. About 2 years ago, he started misbehaving and as time went by his behavior got worst. I have tried all punishments,absolutely nothing bothers him. I have taken away all toys, video games, everything. He has even had to just sit in his room before doing absolutely nothing all day, with the only time allowed to do something was when it was time to eat breakfast,lunch,dinner, snacks, and use the restroom. It doesn't bother him in the least bit. I have given him a spank on his bum, and he just looks at me like ok? He is not scared of anything, no amount of yelling works, no amount of negative and positive reinforcements work. We have tried sticker reward cards, ice cream for positive behavior, new toys, candy, alone time with me or dad, park time, whatever it is that makes him happy to reinforce good behavior. It's like the minute we give him something good he goes again and does something wrong. He isn't the type that throws a fit. When he is in trouble he doesn't get angry or throw things or anything to that nature, he just looks at you. He rarely ever cry's. He has no problem doing any form of punishment you give him. At school he gets at least 1 detention a week, and has notes coming home from the teacher just about everyday. We have sat down with the teacher a numerous amount of times, and we have created plans together, but nothing works with him. That bathroom is by his bedroom, but he would rather pee in his room, on top of his clothes, under his mattress, on top of his shoes, etc. He says the smell doesn't bother him, but when asked if he peed in his room, he says "no." He lies about ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING. I can literally watch him steal something and ask him why he did that and he will say "i didn't take anything" even though he saw me watch him do it. I have taken him to quite a few therapists and when he is there he acts like nothing is wrong with him. When they ask him questions he responds fine, when they ask him to sit still, he does that. When they ask him to perform certain tasks, he completes them without a problem. But this minute he is home or at school he is back to his behavior. It is as if he is trying to "play" the therapists. I am at a dead end with him. There is so many behavior issues that I don't know what to do anymore. His farther and I have tried everything. Any advice would kindly be appreciated, Thanks.

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Mandy - posted on 12/18/2012

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Barbara...I am so sorry for the late response. After my posting a relative of mine became very ill with stage 4 colon cancer...so I have not been very active on the internet. When mentioning that my son pees in his bedroom and on his clothes...the therapist said he might be exhibiting anger towards his father & me because he didn't get his way or something to that nature...I don't know really what to do...it's like no one can really explain to us what is going on with him! I am pleased to say that the peeing has been less frequent, for no apparent reason. So, i don't know if it is a phase or a real problem.

Barbara - posted on 11/20/2012

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You stated that he has been to a therapist and nothing is still working for you. I am at a loss of words I am sorry I have no advice for you at this time. I will wish you lots of luck and prayers for you. For him not to go to the bathroom and pee on his clothes did you mention this to the therapist? I am shock over this. I hope you and your family get the help you need.

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