resposibilities for an 8 year old

Laurel - posted on 11/21/2009 ( 24 moms have responded )

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My daughter needs more responsibilities I feel she is unappreciative. She is 8 any good ideas?

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There are plenty of things an 8 year old can do around the house. I would start out with her bedroom and some kitchen work. Her bed should be made every day and she should hang up her clothes and put away her clothes. She could dust. She could also stack the dishwasher or if you do not have a dishwasher she could clean the dishes and dry the dishes. Set the table every night. See how things like this are handled and she could do all of this within 1 hour. School nights you may just want her to make her bed and do dishes so that its just 30 minutes. The weekends should could do 1 hour. Now that its fall time maybe rake some leafs it could be fun. Another thing I tell the kids when they are finished with the toys and video games put them away! Also anything that is by the steps take them upstairs and put it away. When I go to the supermarket the kids can help put things away like taking things upstairs like toothpaste and toilet paper. I better stop because it can go on and on. But as far as time is concern I would not go over 30 minutes on a school night.

Shamika - posted on 11/05/2012

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I bought my nine year old Bisell mini vacuum which is perfect for her to vacuum. She also cleans tables and mirrors.

TealRose - posted on 04/17/2012

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I think making a 'chore chart' is a hard thing for children. They should be helping not forced to do things that doesn't help them want to help because it's a good thing to do - it pushes them away. Use some psychology - call it a chore and it immediately feels bad and hard work. Call it HELP .... and it feels so different. I don't EXPECT my husband to do chores, I ASK him for HELP. See the difference ??

As for them 'being part of the family therefore YOU will help' well exactly WHO made them part of the family? Certainly not them! Be respectful with your children, and ask for help ... and you will be surprised just how much you get if you explain as to WHY you need help !

Yalana - posted on 01/06/2010

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Our 8 year old daughter also helps with laundry by sorting, folding, and putting away. She must clean her room once a week. She can also help clean the bathroom, dust, and help with the dishwasher. She has pets to take care of too, even when it is cold outside! Her daddy is a farmer, so this helps her realize that Daddy sometimes has to endure a little discomfort in order to take care of the farm animals! It makes her appreciate what he does a lot more! I should also add that we are trying to instill in her a feeling of personal responsiblity (taking care of her own things) and family responsibility (helping with the house she lives in). Hope that helps!

Adrienne - posted on 01/05/2010

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hi there, my boy is eight he feeds the cats, twice a day, opens and closes the curtains and put the rubbish out and brings it in it is enough for him right now not to encroach on his homework and sports and playtime etc. good luck!!!

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Try a chore chart, let her put on the stickers. The feeling of seeing her accomplishments as well as contributing toward the family good are completely appropriate for her age and are great lessons to learn.

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I have a 4 and 6 year old. and I have them put there own clothes away make their beads and vacuum the house, seep, clean the toy room, window's, pick up around the house, set the table, any thing thing they see me do I make the kids do, But I change the chores every week. so if they set the table for the week then next week would be take out the garbage. Keep it fresh and exciting and they will be so happy to help. They are never to young to do chores.

Amber - posted on 01/04/2010

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My daughter is 8 and her chores are that she has to keep her room clean and to mommy's standards (otherwise I'll just find piles under her bed and in her closet) and she has to put her clothes away on laundry day.

Other than that, her chores are doing her homework and getting good grades. :) Hey, as far as I am concerned, going to school and getting good grades is the equivalent to a full-time job.

Jenelle - posted on 01/04/2010

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My two older children (8 & 9) Make their own beds bring down dirty clothes for me in the morning. It takes them maybe 10 min. - depending on their mood ;) I try to have them help through out the evening ; putting away dishes, clearing the table.... little things. This way they don't do too much but they feel like they've helped.

Crystal - posted on 01/03/2010

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My 7 year old son LOVES to help with housework. He hates cleaning his room. lol He still has to clean his room, which mostly entails making his bed and putting away whatever he has thrown onto the floor. He also likes to do chores around the house, although we call it 'helping out'. He sets the table, assists with cooking some aspects of dinner, helps clear the table, takes out the trash (when it's not to heavy) and even has a small lightweight (quieter) vaccum that he gets to spot vaccum with. It isnt as fast as if I would have done it myself of course, but I am in strong believer in helping each other, and keeping a tiddy house. He still does not enjoy cleaning up after himself or putting away his own clothes, but he does it. (Oh, and he loves to take his laundry hamper from his room into the laundry room, my mother bought him one with wheels! lol It is noisy across the wood floor, but hey, he's helping!)



I am a firm believer in raising children with the idea that they will one day be ADULTS, and as such need some basic skills under their belt. Boys as well as girls. We do not pay him for helping keep our house in a shape and running smoothly, it is his house too. He does occationally do 'jobs' for money. Raking leaves a few times in the fall, helping grandparents with yard work, or any other random project that comes up. His school accually sent home a letter suggesting such. This way they learn the value of hard work, that money is earned through working jobs, and that 'chores' are seperate, they are families all pitching in as a team for a common goal.

Monica - posted on 01/03/2010

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I am giggling at the thought of my 8 yr old son an d6 yr old daughter doing more than cleaning their rooms, especially my son. I have tried getting them to do chores but that's a joke. They aren't ready. I have them pick up things through out the house and collect their laundry for ME to wash, and I have them pick up their rooms. From time to time I have them help me put dishes away from the dishwasher but the heavier things I put away. And even at that it's honestly easier to do it myself.

I test them from time to time to see what they are capable of or responsible enough for and I have no idea how you ladies get your kids to do the things you do at the ages your kids are. When my daughter is turned loose with windex and papertowels she makes a bigger mess than was originally there. And sweeping or vacuuming? HAHA, yeah right. Both kids are afraid of the noise the vacuum makes...still. I can understand some of this is because my son has Asperger Syndrome so noise can be an issue....and so is coordination and things like that...

But how do ya'll do it? I'd love to have a little team of real helpers!

Kristen - posted on 12/02/2009

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I have been working with the same issue! I'd love to share my ideas on www.thingstolearnathome.com I hope you find it helpful and PLEASE leave anything you find which helps!

Stacy - posted on 11/29/2009

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my kids are 4,6,8,&11. They all except for the 4 year old, switch laundry around.All of them pic up the floors, clean their rooms, put laundry in laundry room,clean the tables, counters. My kids have 3 dogs, and all of them also clean up dog poop, they feed and water the dogs everyday as well. There are lots of things kids can do to help out, you may have to redo somethings, but you teach them responsibility. My kids all do one chore for a week, this way they know just what they have to do. Hope this helped.

Shonene - posted on 11/28/2009

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Quoting laurel:

resposibilities for an 8 year old

My daughter needs more responsibilities I feel she is unappreciative. She is 8 any good ideas?



I laughed out loud when I read this.  Not because it was funny, but because my husband, my 5 year old daughter and I JUST had this conversation yesterday.  She has a bedroom decorated (not with expensive things) from ceiling to floor in princesses, fairies, and Hannah Montana.  She has dolls, crayons, books, and stuffed animals.  We buy her clothes from regular stores (Wal-mart and Kohl's).  And everytime she gets a new toy or book, she is to donate one (that isn't broken or that is in good repair) of her own toys to local charity.



Now over three months ago, we implemented chores.  Not because we are slave driving parents.  But because everytime we went anywhere, she felt "entitled" to have or get something new, even with the above standards.  Well we both decided to teach her the value of the dollar EARLY!



She is now responsible for keeping all toys off the living room floor and in their respective toy boxes.  She is responsible for keeping the dining room table clear of all papers, books, and magazines (they go in their respective places), and she is once weekly given two chores by myself or my husband (that we assist with), like helping to "clean" the bathroom, or helping to collect and sort laundry.  Mostly she supervises the last two.  But she HAS to be present and in the moment.  We ask lots of questions. 



She has been and stays incredibly helpful.  She earns a $5.00 weekly allowance for this, that she is permitted to spend on whatever she likes.  What we have discovered is she has turned into the biggest MISER....and doesn't like to spend her money on anything.  Well except for her friends. 



It's been an interesting learning experience for us and her. 



I say, chores are never toooooooo early to learn.  They teach us respect for our space, ourselves and others living in it. 



She has become very "sensitive" to how our home looks to company.  And has even started "helping" our 1 year old "learn" how to put his toys away.  Much to our shock. 



 



Good luck, use your best judgement.  And come and comment on what works for you, I LOVE reading and trying new techniques.

Valerie - posted on 11/28/2009

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give her personal chores, ie, make bed, pick up room ...and household chores, ie, empty dishwasher, fold cliothes...or something like these ...and think about doing a service project somewhere so that she sees others who are less fortunate....acknowledge her for appreciation when she shows it to help it grow...put up a sign on the fridge APPRECIATION IS: and then put some sentences like...appreciation is saying thank you when someone does something nice for you...appreciation is saying thank you...appreciation is doing what you can to be helpful...talk about it at meals...keep it positive...

Katie - posted on 11/25/2009

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My 8 year old son takes out the trash when it's full (not necessarily daily), puts away his laundry, folds socks, washcloths, small towels, and underwear - we have a chore chart and if he does all of his daily chores, he gets an extra $20 a month. He also helps to fix dinner and just generally pick up around the house since most messes that accumulate are his Dad and him.

He also has to take care of the dog (it's his dog), and help me take care of our rabbits. These are expectations without any reward other than knowing that his dog won't starve and that he's helping our family to make some extra money.

I try to do rewards that are not monetarily based, because I think a lot of the kids around here won't do anything unless they get paid. I try to spend extra time playing or cuddling with him as a reward.

Martha - posted on 11/25/2009

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my 8 yr old son is responsible for feeding the dog,helping fold clothes,put clothes in dryer and start the dryer. during the summer his brother and him are responsible for folding clothes and cleaning the table and doing dishes after meals. he is also able to cook simple foods in the microwave with help. he also will help shovel the driveway in the winter.

Angie - posted on 11/25/2009

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I think a rotating chart is a good way to start. My daughter who just turned 9, washes dishes, cleans the kitchen, vacumes, cleans her bathroom and does her own laundry. With the exception of her laundry, she and her siblings rotate the chores...

Marge - posted on 11/24/2009

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My eight year old loves the idea that he is responsible for taking out the trash, watering the garden, keeping the pool topped upped and keeping his room tidy.But maintaining that he needs regular reminders. He is learning that to be part of a loving family, we all help each other out. Some chores take a bit longer than others so we aim to complete it.

Lisa - posted on 11/23/2009

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Start at 30 minutes at first. just set timer and let her know when it goes off the room should be done. I do that with my kids. it does work.

Laurel - posted on 11/23/2009

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Thank you for the suggestions. I don't want her to be to over loaded. So how much time should she put aside? 30 minutes, 1 hour

Crystal - posted on 11/23/2009

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You could create a chore chart. Rotate them. Make her do dishes one day, laundry the next. Then tend to the yard. Stuff like that. Give her a sticker or something for each day she does her job and does it without fussing. Once she gets so many on her chart, then she can trade them in. Like 10 stars gets you a trip to the movies. and 25 gets you a trip WITH a friend. Something like that. If you just throw all the work at them, they will resent you. So try to add some kind of reward in it, Show them that work pays off.. Good luck!

Michelle - posted on 11/21/2009

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My daughter is 9 years old. she is responsible for making her bed and picking up her room on a daily basis. Then each day I give her one other chore to do. some day it may be pick up the bathroom, another day it may be run the sweeper, and another day it may be dust so on and so forth. I just want her to know that it takes some doing to keep a house clean and straightened up.

Liz - posted on 11/21/2009

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My daughter is nine, last year I had her start helping with laundry. She has to sepaertae her clothes before I wash them and when thy're done she hangs and puts them away. She also helps with dishes sometimes and has always had to clean her own room. Hope that helps.

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