Santa, Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny ..etc

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Carley - posted on 12/28/2009

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We've made a personal choice not to lie to our children, so that does include traditional customs. We've told our children right from the beggining that there is no such thing as Santa Clause, Tooth fairy and The Easter Bunny.
We've also made sure they know not to be disrespectful to others who do follow these customs, and not to correct them.
Our children do not miss out on special presents or treats, we just give them to them when we want. Not because we have to.
We reward them for good conduct, and give them special suprises when they least expect it. We are still judged all the time and told we are mean for not telling a "little white lie" such as Santa Clause.
I wouldn't do something illegal or stupid just because everyone else is, and I don't feel bad that I've chosen this path.
My parents constantly lied to me, and I was devestated when I found out the truth. (I've never trusted them from all the lies they told, my siblings have all been affected in conceice and confidence because of lies.)
When your 3 years old and had your privates touched by "Santa Clause" which is quite a common occurance, who is to blame? The sicko in the costume, or the person who told them this person is "good" sit on their lap?!
I'm sorry if my opinion is too harsh, I'm not meaning to offend... I would like people people to understand how I feel also.
Make sure they hear the truth from you, not someone else.. Because always they may loose respect and trust in you... You know your children.
I hope my opinion could be helpful, not hurtful ;)
Have a great day ;)

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Brittany - posted on 12/23/2013

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Santa - My 5 year old believes and my 4 month yr old (obviously) does. When I was a kid, I knew at age 8. My best friend's mom was a pretty bad mom and told her they weren't real. Mary (my best friend) told everyone on the playground, haha.
Tooth Fairy - I knew at age 7, thanks to Mary. My 5 year old daughter actually doesn't believe.
Everything else - I probably found out at age 7-9.

Valerie - posted on 01/07/2010

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My daughter, who is 7, asked if Santa was real. I told her that if she believes he is real then he is. Kids at school tell her he isn't. She told them, "He is if I want him to be!" She tries to trap the Tooth Fairy. She paints eggs for the Easter Bunny to hide.

Janet - posted on 01/07/2010

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I think its when they are big enough to ask for the truth. That is what we have always done. It was different ages for all three of my kids.

Fabby - posted on 01/06/2010

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It is a natural progression in a child's development to readdress things they've learnt as they reach double digits. Likewise it is totally natural for young children to find such fantasies to be believable as most of their stimulation (books and TV) is based on impossibilities - flying; talking creatures; fairies; all singing and dancing oversized puppets; blowing each other up.
I have never blatently said Santa's real, I just refer to the whole of Christmas as a magical time. Our eldest had his suspicions aged 9 which were confirmed thanks to Radio 1's prerecorder interview with David Beckham which they aired on Christmas morning. Beckham was asked if his kids still believed and what he and Victoria did to help them believe!!! Thank you Radio 1.

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Cidalia, Im curious, what is the "true" meaning of Christmas? Is Christmas not based on Stories that you decide to 'believe' in, My Son knows all about Christmas in everyway including the religious which also includes Saint Nic' The Three wise men, and Santa, Because we have adopted Traditions that have grown throughout centuries, I wasnt there when 'baby jesus' was born therefor it is a belief in something I have no proof in, similar to the stories of the three wise men, Saint Nic', and Santa, as there have been many cultures that have adopted these traditions based on the fact that once apon a time ago these things 'did' happen and choosing to carry them on with all the stories and traditions is not a lie, the 'Sprit' of Santa, Saint Nic, Three wise men and Jesus, Lives on through these actions and if there were no Santa, No Jesus, no Saint Nic, No Three wise Men, I would not have a Christmas and nore would you...

Cidalia - posted on 01/06/2010

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I never taught my children that Santa was real, and I don't understand why some people are feeling sorry for kids whose parents don't pretend that Santa is real. I didn't believe in Santa as a child (even though my parents tried to convince me), and I missed out on nothing. Christmas was still a magical time for me and it is still a special exciting time for my kids -- even without Santa Claus. Even if one doesn't see it as lying to their kids, that's what it is: a lie. I hold no judgement for those who decide to go the Santa route... I just made a choice for myself and my kids that I would not lie about something because I remember how devastated my youngest brother was when he found out the truth (he was in tears). And as a Christian, I decided that the true meaning of Christmas did not mesh well with Santa Claus... I know you can teach your kids the true meaning of Christmas and about Santa, but Santa is such a huge thing, that they really do lose focus on the true meaning. Those were my reasons, and my kids are not deprived of the magic of the Christmas season nor are they missing out on their childhood.

Julie - posted on 01/05/2010

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My children are still young and I love seeing the magic in their eyes when they tell everybody that Santa ate all the cookies. I also love the fact my son tells my daughter that they have to be good because santa won't come next year. I don't want that magic to go away, but know that it may some day.

Julie - posted on 01/05/2010

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Well, right now my son and daughter are 5 and 3. I love watching dog the bounty hunter and dog hunted santa to see if he is real or not. Good episode. The way that they presented to their children about faith and that you should believe in something that is not there was just awsome and that is how we are teaching my son. It isn't the fact of if there is or is not a santa it is the fact that they should have something to believe in even though they can not see for themselves that it exists. I explained to him go is like the wind, you know that he is there by certain signs, but just can not see the wind that is what God is about. I am also like you I love this time of year and I am going to continue to do what I feel is right.

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I love Christmas time, and so do my children, we love putting the tree up with all the pretty ornimants and having the lights flashing, the decorations through out the house, watching Christmas movies and cartoons, Visiting Santa Claus in the shopping centre and having a picture taken with him, writing leters together and posting them, I love putting stockings out for my kids, and still make one for my Mother, wrapping the presents and putting them under the tree On Christmas eve, then waking up with the kids on Christmas morning and watching their faces light up as they open their stockings, We have a cooked breakfast together, get dressed then open presents, we have a big cooked lunch/dinner, and enjoy the entire experience. There is nothing fake about that! My son 7 yr old son is very cluey, but there is no way anyone will take away his magical Christmas by saying Santa is a lie because to him Santa really exists, if he can see him in the shops, at school, on tv, in story books, who is anyone to tell him its not real?

Easter Bunny delievers eggs, not lays them lol, and we go hunting every year with home made baskets because every year the Bunny scaters them around the house due bouncing around the house at night.

And the Tooth fairy well, when my son recieved $2 under his pillow at night after putting his tooth there, he came to me and told me all about it, then told me he was going to give his money to me because I aparently need it more! ("Being as you do the shopping mummy and I dont").

I will continue with my family this way because I know what real magic is, If you believe it exists then it exists, 'Peter Pan' you have to believe...

Julie - posted on 01/05/2010

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Really if you think about it this is a good conversation if you are religious to talk about faith. It doesn't matter if Santa Clause, Easter Bunny, or Tooth Fairy are real. What matters is believing in something that you can not see, or feel. Which this is teaching our children in a way that they can comprehend at a small age, about faith.

Kristen - posted on 01/04/2010

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My children know the true meaning of the Holiday, but i also want them to have the magic of Santa. My daughter was 12 when she figured it out, and i always worried id be upset, but now im just glad Santa doesnt get all the credit anymore ;p

Janet - posted on 01/04/2010

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We have always told them the truth when they come to ask us what is true..

When they come and ask Mom is Santa real? I always start it with, :"what do you think?"

Our youngest turned 7 in Dec. and this year she came to us with it. Now, She has known the Easter Bunny isn't real. A bunny lay eggs thats silly she said. But, for some reason she still believes in the tooth fairy. So until she asks we continue on. But, I never want to lie to my kids. So we vowed when they are old enough to ask then we will tell them the truth. For my oldest child that came very young. Like 4 yrs old I believe. Just depends on the kid. But wants they know the truth we have told them please don't spoil it for others. They will find out sooner or later.



She knows its Mom and Dad now. And was happy about that. She still wanted to leave cookie and milk out for dad.

Chris - posted on 01/02/2010

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ah girlies, I think the longer they can hang on believing the better, it's never the same after the truth is out. My eldest is 9 and has her doubts about Santa, but I'm keeping schtum let them believe as long as they can.

Heena - posted on 01/02/2010

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Quoting Melissa:

My son realized at the age of 9 that there is "no santa". However, while there may not be an actual person that comes into our home to drop off gifts, I still believe in Santa! His father and I are Santa. We still tell him that he needs to behave or Santa will not bring him gifts. Our son was not upset at all when he realized that mom and dad are Santa, in fact, he rather thinks its cool. Especailly now that he can "play along" with his two younger brothers. It is fun and magical for everyone in our home. We don't see it as a lie, but as a secret that mom and dad are really santa.



I agree with this comment. My only son is 8 years old. He asked me if there is a Santa. He said that the kids in his class told him that Santa is not real. I told him that if he believes it, Santa is real. I persuaded him when he watched Polar Express on TV. Maybe next year I will tell him that mom and dad are Santa. That way it would not be considered as lying. Thanks for the idea.

Sarah - posted on 01/02/2010

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my daughter who is 9 asked my mom. i was really annoyed with mom as she said she couldnt lie to her and told her santa wasnt real. my daughter and me then had a long talk, she was upset that santa wasnt real but promised to believe in santa for the sake of my youngest daughter 7, she did so well but you no xmas night she said mummy something was missing this yr now i dont believe in santa..bless her

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My son asked me if Santa believes in God and if God believes in Santa - now that was a tricky one!

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Quoting Shaz:

My daughter is almost 9 and still believes , but kids at school keep telling her they aren't real. I think she likes to keep believing, we all need sumthing to believe in!


I completely agree! We all need something to believe in...which is why (in an ealier post) I reply to hubby "And?". It's fun for him(DS) and I both...so leave us alone in our Christmas tradition!

Shaz - posted on 12/31/2009

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My daughter is almost 9 and still believes , but kids at school keep telling her they aren't real. I think she likes to keep believing, we all need sumthing to believe in!

Mandy - posted on 12/31/2009

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i too have told my children from a very young age that sants, easter etc is not true. We also do not give presents at this time of year or even celebrate these occassions. After a lot of research we have discovered that these traditions are false and have nothing do with what they are suppose to represent. Our children do not miss out, they are given money/presents every time they get a good report card so in reality they get rewarded for their hard work . they also get this 4 times a year. If they really really want something then sometimes we'll get it for them and wrap it up and present it to them unexpectantly.

Melissa - posted on 12/31/2009

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My son realized at the age of 9 that there is "no santa". However, while there may not be an actual person that comes into our home to drop off gifts, I still believe in Santa! His father and I are Santa. We still tell him that he needs to behave or Santa will not bring him gifts. Our son was not upset at all when he realized that mom and dad are Santa, in fact, he rather thinks its cool. Especailly now that he can "play along" with his two younger brothers. It is fun and magical for everyone in our home. We don't see it as a lie, but as a secret that mom and dad are really santa.

Cindy - posted on 12/30/2009

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That is a good question and this year my son is 11 and he downright told me mom there is no Santa, Easter Bunny or toothfairy he does not believe it however I told him he can not say that to loud because I still have a 7 yr. old who believes. So just from looking at everyone else's responses it looks to be 11 is the magic age

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We really played up Santa this year because my son is 8 and I figure that this may be the last year he truly believes in Santa. Hubby said that he figures I want to believe in Santa more than I want our son to believe...and to that I say "AND?" It's fun to hide presents and make cookies and write a letter to Santa. True or not it's something that makes the holidays fun for him and mommy.

Toni - posted on 12/30/2009

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I realized the truth at age 8... But I tell my son the truth that there is no santa, tooth fairy, and easter bunny. Even a white lie is a lie and it diminishes trust from the childs eyes of a parent.

Kellie - posted on 12/30/2009

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Quoting Carley:

We've made a personal choice not to lie to our children, so that does include traditional customs. We've told our children right from the beggining that there is no such thing as Santa Clause, Tooth fairy and The Easter Bunny.
We've also made sure they know not to be disrespectful to others who do follow these customs, and not to correct them.
Our children do not miss out on special presents or treats, we just give them to them when we want. Not because we have to.
We reward them for good conduct, and give them special suprises when they least expect it. We are still judged all the time and told we are mean for not telling a "little white lie" such as Santa Clause.
I wouldn't do something illegal or stupid just because everyone else is, and I don't feel bad that I've chosen this path.
My parents constantly lied to me, and I was devestated when I found out the truth. (I've never trusted them from all the lies they told, my siblings have all been affected in conceice and confidence because of lies.)
When your 3 years old and had your privates touched by "Santa Clause" which is quite a common occurance, who is to blame? The sicko in the costume, or the person who told them this person is "good" sit on their lap?!
I'm sorry if my opinion is too harsh, I'm not meaning to offend... I would like people people to understand how I feel also.
Make sure they hear the truth from you, not someone else.. Because always they may loose respect and trust in you... You know your children.
I hope my opinion could be helpful, not hurtful ;)
Have a great day ;)


I don't see it as lying to your children, When they come to you and ask if there is such a thing then I feel as thought you tell them the truth. I just think that the comment you made about Santa touching kids is absurd!!!! Would you honestly let them go unsupervised to see Santa???  I take my child every year since she was born and that has never been the issue!!!

Kellie - posted on 12/30/2009

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Quoting Carley:

We've made a personal choice not to lie to our children, so that does include traditional customs. We've told our children right from the beggining that there is no such thing as Santa Clause, Tooth fairy and The Easter Bunny.
We've also made sure they know not to be disrespectful to others who do follow these customs, and not to correct them.
Our children do not miss out on special presents or treats, we just give them to them when we want. Not because we have to.
We reward them for good conduct, and give them special suprises when they least expect it. We are still judged all the time and told we are mean for not telling a "little white lie" such as Santa Clause.
I wouldn't do something illegal or stupid just because everyone else is, and I don't feel bad that I've chosen this path.
My parents constantly lied to me, and I was devestated when I found out the truth. (I've never trusted them from all the lies they told, my siblings have all been affected in conceice and confidence because of lies.)
When your 3 years old and had your privates touched by "Santa Clause" which is quite a common occurance, who is to blame? The sicko in the costume, or the person who told them this person is "good" sit on their lap?!
I'm sorry if my opinion is too harsh, I'm not meaning to offend... I would like people people to understand how I feel also.
Make sure they hear the truth from you, not someone else.. Because always they may loose respect and trust in you... You know your children.
I hope my opinion could be helpful, not hurtful ;)
Have a great day ;)


 

Kellie - posted on 12/30/2009

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I teach my daughter the true meaning of Christmas too, but we also believe in Santa too. I feel sorry for the children that their parents choose not to believe in Santa. We always have Christmas parties at school and those children always get left out because their parents choose for them too! I think we should let kids be kids as long as possible!!

Kellie - posted on 12/30/2009

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Quoting Susan:

My daughter figured it out at 8.



OH NO!!!



My daughter is 7 and I kinda had a little feeling of doubt from her this year!! I hope its not, but I really think this will be her last year of believing!!!! They just grow up too soon!!!

Ann Marie - posted on 12/30/2009

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between 8+10yrs at that age they will have already heard rumours at school and with friends discussing it!!!

Kallie Fallis - posted on 12/29/2009

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My son just turned 7 on Dec 24th, and I feel he doesn't believe. In 1 week he asked me 6 times if I believed in Santa. I told him I believed in the magic of Christmas and what it means. I think he wants to believe and that's good with me.

Bryanna - posted on 12/28/2009

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My son is 9 and he says that he doesn't care what his friends say.. he believes in Santa.

Avvonda - posted on 12/28/2009

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I have told my children from when they could talk there is no Santa, Tooth Fairy, or Easter Bunny.

Tina - posted on 12/28/2009

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My son age12 knew by the time he was about 6or 7. but my 5 yr old still believes

Kim - posted on 12/28/2009

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I think it is different for all children even in the same family. My daughter asked about it when she was 10 yrs old but my son was 7 yrs old. I asked them what they thought when they asked me the "truth" and when they asked me to " pinky swear promise" to tell the truth well the gig was up. Neither of them were upset with the answer just a bit surprised.

Shirley - posted on 12/27/2009

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I dont remember when my girls now 21 and 25 stopped believing in a man in a red suit that travels around the world in a single night giving gifts to all children, but I still tell them that if they dont believe they wont get any gifts. I hope the always believe in what Santa represents to me and them, that there are people that are kind and generous, willing to do for others just because they can and that these people exist because Jesus was born into this world to teach us to be kind and generous, and to always take care of each other.

Diana - posted on 12/27/2009

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My son is 10 and still believes...he has questioned it though, I say let them go believing as long as they need to. I also have a 7 and 4 year old, so maybe he still "believes" for them

Leanne - posted on 12/27/2009

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michelle, i think you're right...i think my son has figured it out...but i think he still wants to believe..

Amy - posted on 12/27/2009

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My daughter learned from friends at school at 10, I think she still wants to believe but she knows better.

Shulena - posted on 12/26/2009

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I never taught my son about any of these characters, but instead told him the truth. So at 6yrs old, he knows they do not exist AND the true meaning of each holiday.

Michelle - posted on 12/26/2009

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Most children figure it out a long time before they let their parents know they have it figured out.

Leanne - posted on 12/25/2009

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that's a good question...my son is 9 and still believes in santa! I was wondering when he will realize there is no santa. I hope soon...i get tired of "hiding" the presents until the night before.

Melissa - posted on 12/24/2009

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I was wondering the same thing.. I have a 8 year old son who's TOTALLY into santa is REAL.. I mean he's got his room cleaned and helped me clean the house for santa to come tonight.. LOL So when will he stop believing is what I am wondering so I can be prepared.. LOL.. And do I tell him to try to pretend he's still around for my younger son who's currently 10 months old??

Heidi - posted on 12/24/2009

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Well I do not lie to them in the first place, so there is no need to tell the truth down the road. I do not blame other parents who do, becuase I think I am taking the hard road by telling the truth. It is hard since I have a step daughter who does belive and my son does not. She is 9.

Diane - posted on 12/23/2009

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My oldest Child is 15 and a think from memory that he was about 11 when he worked it out, mostly by the kids at school telling him there was no santa, I think he may have been even still pretending he believed in him for a year or two because he was worried he would miss out on pressies. He is good and does the whole santa routine with the younger ones though, I think it just depends on who your kids are around at school and if any of them now the truth.

Tina - posted on 12/23/2009

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my step son is now 11 and told me this year that he knows that there is no santa, toothfair, and easterbunny. My other kids started not to believe when they were about the same age. Hope that helps.

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