school drop off issue - advice please

Tammy - posted on 01/08/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I'm having a really hard time now that the weather has turned cold here in Ontario with dropping off my daughter at kindergarten in the morning, with her 10-month old brother in arms. There's no one at home I can leave him with.

Before the snow arrived, we walked the 10 minutes or so each way to get there, and my son enjoyed the stroller ride. Now that it's colder and my little student is wearing her snowpants, it's too far for her to walk... the extra work required walking in those heavy clothes really tire her out before we arrive. When I drive, the school only has a "kiss & ride" for older kids, so I'm obligated to find a place to park - on the street - and get the baby & the little girl to the school gate, across the school parking lot, etc.

By the time I get back to the car, my son, who is normally VERY happy, hardly cries at all, is SCREAMING his head off, due to the cold, wind, etc. He has a winter coat with hood, hat on, fur-lined booties, but pulls the mittens off repeatedly.

How do other people manage this???

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Cathy - posted on 01/08/2010

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I used to use an enclosed stroller, that has a thick plastic shield, worked great to keep him out of the wind/snow/rain...very useful in all types of weather especially those freezing blowy days...you can probably get one second-hand at a consignment shop or look online on Kijiji...hope this helps.

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Sari - posted on 01/15/2010

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I live in Ontario too. There must be a way around the "you personally" rule. I had to put my friend's name on my "Safe" list so they could release my son to her if she was picking him up (& I was on her list too) What if you CAN'T drop her off & someone else has to (ie, your sister/mom etc.) They have to have a list of who's allowed to pick-up/drop-off. Try talking to someone else in the Office or the Principal...
& If you MUST walk in the winter, try pulling a sled??? then you can put both kids in with blankets & your DD won't have to walk. (My kids LOVE it when I do that, they think it's SO fun! But you can only really do it if most of the way is snowy.

Jeanette - posted on 01/15/2010

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Write a letter to the school board, explaining the situation and the principal's response. Ask for a solution. They should be able to come up with something for you, hopefully. Good luck! Hope you find a solution soon. :D

Tammy - posted on 01/12/2010

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I have spoken to the school, and they stated I need to find parking somewhere on the street, and walk my daughter in. It's the school's rule (not mine) that she has to be "handed over" by me, and can't go on her own to the gate, or join a friend whose mom is walking them in. They won't make an exception, but only said they understand it must be difficult.

We don't live far enough to qualify for a bus ride, but it is pretty far in below freezing temperatures! I do have one of those plastic covers for the stroller, but it's the older child who is unhappy when we have to walk that far in the cold temperatures (mostly because of how bundled up she is, making it hard to walk, and also to see where she is going).

Sari - posted on 01/12/2010

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I was pregnant with my 4th when my oldest started Kindergarten & didn't have a car (Hubby took it to work) so I feel for you! The only way I got through was by making friends with some other Moms in my son's class & one of them made a deal with me that she would walk our kids one way & I would walk them the other. This cut down a trip for me. Then in the winter I did the plastic wind screen & lots of blankets. Later when I had a van, on the coldest days, I left the babies in the van & escorted Kinder kids to the door. I was lucky I could park where I could see the van from the door.

Debbie - posted on 01/12/2010

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I'm not sure if the "kiss and ride" is the same as the school drop off we have at the elementary school here, but it's two lanes which is kind of close to the school (just not as close as the buses get) where the kids get out of the car quickly, walk down the sidewalk to go into the school with the rest of the kids. There are teachers and safety patrol who are also on the sidewalk in case any kids have problems.

If that's the same, I would think she'd be old enough to walk up to the school with the rest of the kids, especially since it's been a few months since school started so she would probably know where to go now and not be as uncertain. (I know my daughter was uncertain when she started kindergarten.) I live pretty close to the school too and when my 8 year old was in kindergarten I would walk her to school as well. I live in Ohio and have to deal with the snow also. The only good thing is that the baby didn't arrive until my 8 year old was in first grade and was used to getting back and forth to school.

Corinna - posted on 01/11/2010

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have you tried talking with another mom who can take your daughter. maybe u can start a group of a couple of moms who u can all exchange days or watching the younger ones. also is there an older child that u trust to walk your daughter to school?

Tammy - posted on 01/10/2010

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is there any place you can park your car sit and waite untill its time for her to go in. and if you can park where you can just let her out of the car when its time for school and she can walk in with a fellow classmate,but park where you can see them or her get inside the door wheres she safe and dont leave untill school starts, i have had this obsticle before and would just park by the door and sit and wait, that way i didnt have to drag the baby out in below temps, then after school i some times when it was cold park by the doors and have the teacher bring her out after all the children were gone after school. i asked and they helped a little and they would tell me when they couldnt, other wise if you know another parent in her class maybe ask, it dont hurt to ask they can only say no.

Mickie - posted on 01/09/2010

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I don't know ... but I would think that in such a situation, you may be able to ask for special permission to use the area of "kiss and ride" where the older kids are dropped off. Have you tried to approach the school's headmaster and relay your situation just as you have here and ask if you could, just for the winter season, use this area so that you little one doesn't have to be out in the cold while you walk her into school? Many people don't want to take the obvious route that's in front of them because they don't want to be a bother but very often, it isn't a bother at all to help a parent in need. After all, your son will one day be a student there as well. What can it hurt??? If he says he couldn't do that - than let's talkk about another plan.

Jeanette - posted on 01/09/2010

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I think you could be eligable for the school bus if you live 1.6 km away from the school.

Kellie - posted on 01/08/2010

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Hi. Im in very hot (at the moment) Canberra AUSTRALIA so I have no idea what it would be like for you. i have a bad enough time getting my two ready on a normal day!!
Can you ask the school for help? maybe they can allow Mums with Bubs to park closer to the school. or have a teacher meet your daughter at the drop off point. Our school has a unit for special needs and a teacher is all ways available in the mornings to escort kids inside, maybe they could try this with the kindy kids. No real advice just an idea???

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