School readiness

Christine - posted on 08/05/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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How old is too old to start school? My son will be 5 years and 5 months at the beginning of next year when school starts. Socially I don't think he is ready but cognitively he is really ready. I dont know if I will do more harm by holding him back. My husband and family really think he should not be held back but I just dont know. What do you think?

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Kimberly - posted on 08/05/2009

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His social skills are developed with interaction with other children. He needs the opportunity to grow. If his cognitive skills are flourishing you don't want him to be behind by postponing his education unless you plan on homeschooling. However you may delay his social developement by keeping him from interaction with children his own age. Its difficult to let go of our little ones when it's time for them to explore their independance, but its part of growing and developing for them and for us.

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Niki - posted on 08/05/2009

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I agree with all of you. let him go, the social issues will take care of themselves when he is with other kids. kids tend to grow up when around others who are mature for their age. I teach preschool and the immature ones "grow up" when around the ones who are "behind" very quickly. let him go...he will thrive in his learning and will grow up before your eyes.

Melanie - posted on 08/05/2009

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By keeping him back for a year you run the risk of him getting bored and with that a detoriation in his behaviour (due to his boredom). My daughter was socially immature before she started school and is now in year two and socially is still a little immature. However, academically she is doing extremely well.

His social skills will improve and school can have a real effect on that (peer group pressure can have positive effects!).

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I think school is a good thing. They teach them so much about social skills in the early years he could end up missing out & suffering later. He'll probably make so many friends & get so many party invites, you'll wish you'd done it sooner. Good luck.

Ana - posted on 08/05/2009

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I was the same way I did not want my daughter to start school,but after she did I saw she was happy and making friends and learnning new things. It was hard but when I saw that she was happy to go I was happy to.

Ashley - posted on 08/05/2009

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Let him go mama. It would be harder for him to be older than the other kids in his class if you make him wait.

Jodi - posted on 08/05/2009

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Is he currently in pre-school? If so, talk to the pre-school teachers. They will be able to give you some advice based on their observations.

User - posted on 08/05/2009

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i agree, you should try to make an effort to get to know some of the mums in his class and arrange playdates and stuff like that, help him to make freinds etc, maybe even before he starts school, so he'll know some one when he gets there!!!

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My oldest son is the same way. He's so shy, in fact, that he won't talk to most of our family unless he's around them daily. His first day of preschool his teacher had to hold him in order to get him off of me so I could leave. Now he's going into 4th grade and school is his favorite place in the world. School really opens children up and gets them to be more independent. You'd be surprised how well they do when you let them go on their own. Your son will probably always be a bit shy, but school will definitely help to teach him the social skills he'll need in life.

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