Should I pay for something that got broke on schoolbus? Verra Bradley purse

Karen - posted on 11/02/2011 ( 14 moms have responded )

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My son was being very active one day and grabbing at other kids while they were getting on the bus in the morning. He ended up grabbing a girls purse and ripped a big hole in it. The bus driver showed it to me today and it looks like a Verra Bradley purse and told me the father is really upset and wants us to pay for it. he had just got it for her for her birthday. they are worth anywhere from $40-$100 or more. In the bus driver's opinion I shouldn't be held responsible as it states in the handbook that valuables should be left at home. She asked if it would be okay for him to write me a note regarding the situation and I agreed, and am planning on having my son write an apology to the girl. But I'm kinda worried that he will end up saying it's worth more than it really is. What would you do?

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Jessica - posted on 11/08/2011

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go to the vera bradley sale and buy one next year for the girl for $10! That father is crazy if he thinks that you are going to have to pay for that. Good luck!

Kellie - posted on 11/07/2011

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So, in the bus driver's view, ruining a purse if it was under a particular dollar amount should be replaced. I wonder what that dollar amount is? IMO, if there is no disagreement that your son did ruin her purse, then your son needs to pay for it. He can wash windows, pet sit, extra chores around the house etc. until he can reimburst you for the money you needed to give to that girl's family.

Natasha - posted on 11/05/2011

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One point the little girl shouldn't have a purse that expensive and on the other your son probably shouldn't be grabbing at other children in a manner that it will rip a hole in the purse. The apology letter is definatly a good idea but I would also consider patting for the item you can research it and find out exactly how much they are or how much it would cost to fix it...what if your son had something expensive or sentimental an another kid was grabbing at him and ruined it...wouldn't you want it replaced?

Montana - posted on 11/05/2011

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I like the idea of having your son write an apology letter. I also agree with the bus driver. I understand the dad is upset but really... I JUST bought my daughter a custom made hair bow for school and she lost it on her very first day. She says her friend is now wearing it to school and wont give it back. I am gonna just let it go cuz it was only $5 but it does frustrate me. I know its not the SAME thing but I dont like my kids' property messed with either. But I would NEVER allow my kid to take something expensive to school. Totally a dumb idea. The dad made a bad decision and he should just learn something from it and move on. Kids are kids. You cant control what your son does at school.

Katherine - posted on 11/05/2011

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I agree, what kid walks around with a Vera Bradley purse at that age? I would trust the bus driver and go by the handbook. That's completely and utterly ridiculous IMO for a little girl to have something that expensive!!
I would write the note of apology and leave it at that. No worries, it sounds like the bus driver has your back.

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Christie - posted on 11/08/2011

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im glad it worked out. i would have made my child do the same thing if they did something like that. i just dont know why parents dont understand, you shouldnt let your child take expensive things to school!! Regardless of age, just simply because their is always they chance nothing May happen, but in most cases more than others, something usually DOES happen, whether its stepped on or dropped and broken, stolen, gotten wet or ripped or whatever. I am a mom of a 5 year old an a 16 month old. I have learned you dont go buy expensive things for your children and then send them to school with it, especially a purse like that!!

Karen - posted on 11/07/2011

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Kellie it's not the point that the purse was expensive. It is stated in the handbook that no personal belongings are not to be brought to school. The school is not responsible for things getting lost, stolen, or broken. The bus driver let it up between the parents and us, but said the school will not give any information to the parents because of this rule. In their eyes the middle/high school student should not have brought it to school because she knows the rules. If the parents don't contact us, then we can't pay the money back. The school will not release any information to us either about who the girl is or help us get the money to them. It has to be parent to parent and they will not get involved at all. If we just give the money to the girl, we risk the chance of her just pocketing it, then the parents eventually calling about the money and then there is a feud. My son doesn't even know who she is or what her name is because the girl didn't even notice until she sat down in the back of the bus. The bus driver isn't allowed to tell us who she is either. She did offer to pass a note to the parents of the girl, but that's all that can be done. Weather they choose to contact us or not is up to them.

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I'm glad it's resolved, but I'd be telling my son that if it were to happen again he'd be working off the money... whether the parents of the other kid want the money or not is their business, but my kid WOULD be doing the work for it.

Karen - posted on 11/06/2011

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Me too! Hopefully he did learn his lesson because we don't really have the money to be replacing things. They tell you about diapers, formula, doctors visits, ect. but they never warned me about this kinda thing! lol. And to think I have a 4th one due in less than 2 weeks. Oh well, kids will be kids lol.

Karen - posted on 11/06/2011

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Thanks everyone for your advice. We did end up having him write an apology, and we also offered to pay for it. My husband wanted to pay because he thought what if the dad saved up for a while to buy that purse because that's what she really wanted. We all know how hard it is to shop for teens. Maybe they didn't have a lot of money and that's why he got so upset. We gave them our number but surprisingly we never got the phone call from them. The bus driver said the girl sewed it and seems to be happy with that. Maybe the apology was enough. And I believe my son really learned his lesson from it too.

Katherine - posted on 11/06/2011

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Natasha, what little girl goes around with a bag THAT expensive? Yes her son broke it, but she should NOT have to pay for a $200 bag.

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