Should Kids have a Facebook and at what age?

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Angie - posted on 12/15/2010

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I think it's okay for a child to have Facebook when they are old enough to meet the Facebook standards. I think cheating to get what a child wants might be a bad example to set.

Shawn - posted on 12/16/2010

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You have to be 13 to sign up for Facebook, although I'm sure there are a lot of people out there that falsify their age when signing up. My oldest daughter is 12 and wants to do Facebook but I won't allow it until she is 13. There will be ground rules of course. I get her username and password and can look at any time to see what she has posted, who her friends are, and her personal messages. I will also regulate what pictures are allowed and what her privacy settings are. She is very responsible with her current internet dealings, but just because she is doesn't mean everyone is. Use your parental judgment, if you feel your child is not ready don't give in and let them have it. First have them prove how responsible they can be.

Brooke - posted on 03/09/2011

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My son is 8 years old, and made the mistake of setting up a facebook account at his friend's house, and then sending me a friend request! I was sooooo angry! I then asked him what email account he used, and his passwords. He didn't even remember them! I asked how he thought he was going to log in again and he told me that Scott (his friend) has the passwords at his house. WELL!!!!! At this point I was trying very hard not to lose the plot, and I pointed out that that means that Scott could get on and write anything he likes! My boy was a little shocked to realise that. He no longer goes to that boy's house, I didn't ban it, but instead gently discouraged it, especially when I found out they were also playing Halo there. Thank God he has made a new best friend whose parents are a bit more on the ball about what their kids are up to. I reported it to faceBook, and told them it was set up by a child, but they have not deleted it or anything. I am keeping an eye on it and it does not get used, thank god!
I have to say, I am glad we moved house when he was in grade one, as I found out not long after we moved thatr his old school had actually had all the kids set up a facebook account in computer class! Yes, I am talking about 6-year-olds! Until then I had been quite impressed with the teachers at that school, but now I am disgusted! So glad he is not there any more, it would have been one hell of a fight, I am sure, as I would NOT have let that happen.
Even FaceBook says you have to be 13, and I think that is a very appropriate age.

Sylvia - posted on 12/17/2010

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Well, Facebook says you have to be 13, so obviously 13 would be the minimum age I would let my kid be on FB. This seems like a no-brainer, sorry.

Erin - posted on 12/17/2010

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I think 15 or 16 too. 15 or 16 is old enough to understand the dangers and can know how to be responsible with their personal info. I know of a couple people who have their children younger than that on facebook, and I just can't say that I approve.
For one, I think that a parent should thoroughly do their research about safety where facebook is concerned. Even if they use it all the time themselves, everyone should be well aware of what the possible dangers are.
Second, there are just better things for a kid to be doing! Why not go outside and get some fresh air? Or find something more productive to do?
Third, if I'm on facebook, and my kid and I know all the same people, why can't we sit here at the desk together and chat with our friends and family? Then you're even still spending some quality time together.
And when a child does get the priveledge to be on facebook, then the computer they use needs to be in a main area of the house, where parents can easily glance over their shoulder. Parents should have their kids on their friends list so they can always see what is being posted. And I almost think that I would go as far as to know my child's password. Just in case.
And this is nothing against parents who do let their kids get on FB at 13. But I do know a couple people who allow it...even for kids younger than 13 and it's quite apparent they don't supervise their child's activity. I know that there are responsible parents out there though who would take every precaution and be very responsible with their child's facebook use. This is just where I stand with MY children.

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Jennifer - posted on 08/10/2011

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My oldest is 14, and just recently got a facebook. My two younger children want them but I stick to the rules of facebook. I try to teach my kids that lying is wrong so they know they will just have to wait until they are old enough. Having said that, My oldest has to have all of his family members as friends as well as I have to always have access to his login and password. He agreed to all this before I let him create a facebook account because I think that its important to know whats going on in his life and to be (in the know) with what he is posting and saying to others. I think you have to give them a chance to be teenagers and live their lives. However I do not think it is appropriate for kids under 13 to have a facebook.

Glenda - posted on 06/28/2011

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I think not before 16, kids should be kids, and the internet is very addictive, and a place like fb can be a breeding ground for bullying, be careful, there will be plenty of time for fb later.

Sherri - posted on 06/24/2011

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No not true prudence legally it is 13.

What is the minimum age required to sign up for Facebook?

In order to be eligible to sign up for Facebook, users must be thirteen (13) years of age or older.

I got this directly from facebook itself!!!!

Prudence - posted on 03/15/2011

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Hmmm we just went through this with our 13 year old foster daughter, Legally the age you can get a facebook page is 14, so thats what we will be doing. God bless

Bridgette - posted on 03/15/2011

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I think yes - age I don't know. You should be on there to as a friend to monitor. My cousin and her oldest child, and husband have pages and it is how she connects to her friends and we get to see their photos.

Ashleigh Jade - posted on 03/15/2011

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I have to agree with others 16 seems like a good age. Im in my 20s and dont use facebook. Although face book may say 13 or whatever i just dont want my kids to see all the stuff thats on there. At 16 they should kniw right from wrong. So id say 16

Brenda - posted on 03/15/2011

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I might give my Daughter a facebook acct. Only if she get all A's on her report card. She is 11. I will NOT give her a cell phone and I will NOT give her and e-mail acct.With the phones that kids have now-a-days they are on the Internet and probably already have facebook acct. and you don't even know about it and as far as email she may use mine if she wants to email a friend. As far as facebook goes as long as I set it up with one of my email address then I get all the info through the email. I would not give her, her pass word I would be the one to type it in for her.So then I would know when she was on it. This is my in own opinion

RACHEL - posted on 03/15/2011

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My daughter has a fb acc but she doesn't know her login details so she can only go on fb when i can sit with her while she goes on & chats to her friends or plays the games.

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I think it should be made on a child by child basis because one 16 year old is gonna be more responsible than another. don't get me wrong my daughter likes to play the games on facebook when she wants to play I let her use my facebook which consists of only friends and family no strangers so there is nothing she might see that she shouldn't. I also sit next to her when she does it.

Carmen Joan - posted on 12/31/2010

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Me and my daughter share a facebook page. I get to know her friends and what they post and she gets to know my friends too... I think it's a way of knowing how they interact with each other. My daughter does now mind too. She gets to talk to my friends also ;0)

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I wouldn't do it under 13 since I teach my kids that lying is wrong under any circumstances. Other than that, I can't say for sure yet since my girls are only 9..... I'm thinking probably 15 or 16 like some of the other ladies have mentioned. It may change in the next 4 years though. ;)

Patty - posted on 12/27/2010

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I don't believe a child under the age of 16 should be on facebook. There is far too much garbage posted on the site, and YES I do know that the same kind of information faces them on a daily basis and they hear it all at school and with their friends and on TV, but it's still not a proper place for children. People do not self monitor what they say and children do not unnecessarily need to be subjected to such trash talk. Just sayin'

Julie-Ann - posted on 12/20/2010

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I have a nearly 10 year old girl, she wanted a facebook account as some of her friends at school have them, false date of birth on it, of course, but I said no. My daughter is not responsible enough. I will decide when she can have an fb account, when I feel she is responsible and mature enough, at the moment i feel about 17 would be a good age, for her personnally, as she so immature, but with puberty just started she thinks she knows it all. Parental instinct is the best decision.

Tiffany - posted on 12/19/2010

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Id rather my child have a facebook other then a my space I have a 13 and a 16 year old boys and i keep their passwords and check it often... it fun to see what my kids and their friends talk about and its another way to stay conected to them.... i hate myspace cause you cant see whats posted like you can on fb... fb is all open you can see what they are saying to their friends and what their friends are saying as well.... as i said you can also see pic of what their friends are into ... my Opinion is its fine!

Sarh - posted on 12/18/2010

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Depends on the child. How old is the child? How well behaved is the child? There are lots of things to be taken into consideration. I really wish facebook was for college students still. It truly is turning into the next myspace! :(

Licia - posted on 12/18/2010

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I think it depends entirely on how responsible your kid is. One who is mature enough to understand how to use FB - including the privacy features - should be okay with having one at 13. Our daughter has one, we monitor it constantly, and Dad set up all the privacy settings. If we see that she is letting anything slip (school, chores), then she's banned from FB for a week. It makes a really good incentive for staying on track, and it teaches her to manage her time better.

Amanda - posted on 12/18/2010

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My 12 year old's class had a visit from the Police recently. They were talking about cyber bullying and social network sites. He came home and told me that the police told them that it is illegal to sign up before you are 13, and if caught you would be prosecuted. No more pestering me for a facebook account, although i am sure it will start up again on his 13th birthday. My eldest signed up at 13, and uses it to keep in touch with his school friends during the holidays. I had a couple of rules - i am on his friendlist, i check his friend requests, and i know his password so that i can login and see what is going on. He is very responsible thankfully, and i know all of his friends and have known most of them since kindergarten.

Kim - posted on 12/17/2010

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I'm sure most won't like this, but I'll post it anyways. My son is 10 yrs old and has a facebook account. Ya, I had to falsify his account to say he was 13 but I thought that it was a good way for him to stay in touch with our family. We just recently moved overseas so it is hard for him to talk to family. When he's at school is when we normally talk to them and he has always been very close to them so I think its a good idea. I log in to his account once a week if not more to check that he has not friended anyone. He mostly writes things back and forth to his aunts, uncles, godparents, and grandparents. The only other thing that he does on facebook is play farkle which is harmless since he is not allowed to play against other people for chips.

Amanda - posted on 12/16/2010

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I don't think that any of my children will ever have a faceboook. That's what school and cellphones are for. They don't need to put themselves out there to strangers and potentially some bad people...well that's just my opinion! :)

Crystal - posted on 12/16/2010

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I was just thinking about this the other day actually, only because my cousin's daughter popped up as my suggested friend -- she's 15. I think 15 or 16 would be an appropriate age, with limitations of course. Like the others have said, using your parental judgement, knowing all her information to log on and check her page out, who her friends are, etc. And let her know that you have the right to cancel her page at anytime you feel anything inappropriate is going on. The internet should be a privilege.

Candy - posted on 12/15/2010

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I think if any one has a face book page it should be under a false name and they should NEVER post pictures of family or themselves. I think if your child has one you should be friended to and check it often. This place is dangerous and I think you should know your child really well and trust them not to give out info that should be said. You have to know your child and trust them whatever age you choose.

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