Stepfathers

Rechanda - posted on 10/03/2013 ( 8 moms have responded )

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OK lady's, I have an 5 year son and i need help with dealing with him and his stepfather to get along we been together for three years now so when we got together my son was 3 and now he is 5 bout to turn 6 there is no bond with what so ever when he get around him he tense up and don't know how to answer questions he ask him now he not abusing my son but i just trying figure out whats going on with them and how make there relationship better

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/04/2013

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Counseling wouldn't hurt either. Children are usually naturally accepting at a young age, and if he's tensing up when stepdad is around, then its an indicator of something going on that you are not aware of.

Chanel - posted on 10/03/2013

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There is definately a reason behind the uncomfortableness, by now they should have some type of bond. My son was 4yrs old when my husband and I got married. There initially was a bond but it started to diminish when I had his bro and sis. He withdrew and began clinging to his natural dad which was only there part time. Maybe spend some Mom and Son time alone maybe at lunch or breakfast just the 2 of you one on one and hint around to why he reacts the way he does with his step-dad. He will eventually reveal why, but you need to find out it's been 2yrs already. And always pray until change happens!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/07/2013

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Counseling Rechanda. I'm married to an adult survivor of SEVERE sexual & physical abuse. His mother didn't know about the sexual part, because the kids were so afraid of the physical abuse they wouldn't say anything about the sexual.

He is exhibiting signs of that, I'm sorry to say, and he needs to be with someone he feels he can tell without consequences if that is the case.

I'm not saying he IS being abused, just that most victims of abuse will not come right out and say it, no matter how many times you ask.

Ana - posted on 10/04/2013

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Ask your son why he doesn't like his stepfather?

Ask him, is daddy mean?

Ask him is daddy bad?

Ask him does daddy do bad things?

Ask him is he scared of daddy?

Ask him why?

Ask him if he wants daddy to move away?

Ask him if he wants mommy to be with his daddy?

I say this because your son is old enough to tell you these kinds of answers and this will give you a better idea as to what is going on.

Pray you get your answers soon.

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Rechanda - posted on 10/04/2013

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thought the same thing I was missing something @ shawnn but believe me I ask those question to see what he will say and no abuse or physical altercation took place when I was not around so that I not worry about but I like I said I got some answebrs from to help me sleep better at night

Rechanda - posted on 10/04/2013

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I ask them those question and he did give me an answer he told me that the reason why is because daddy always pops him when he is doing something wrong so he don't like him because he always get in his butt when he is in the wrong and after he get pop daddy ask him do know why you got pop and he say yes because I was not suppose to be doing that other then that that's only reason he gave me Why he don't like his stepfather other then that he like him so what do you think

Rechanda - posted on 10/03/2013

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Thank you so much chanel Ross you right i might need to spend more time with him to see whats going him cause it hurt me so much too see them like this i was even thinking bout conusler maybe with him but you your input it really help me

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