stressed out help

Jeanie - posted on 02/26/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My daughter is a beautiful 9 yr old third grader. She has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and it is very difficult to deal with her severe mood swings. How do I discipline her when I don't know when i can?

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Michelle - posted on 03/22/2010

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To be perfectly honest with you your daughter is extremely young to have been diagnosed with Bipolar. I was originally told my son might have bipolar by our doctor so we were sent to the psychiatrist for an official diagnosis and was told by the psychiatrist that he could not be diagnosed with bipolar until he was in his teens most kids with ADHD, ODD or ADD show signs of mood swings I would get a second opinion on that diagnosis my son used blowout for no reason what so ever and was finally diagnosed with ADHD and ODD combined type and there are great meds out there that can help with these and also special diets.

Jeanie - posted on 03/16/2010

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Thank you all for responding. It is very difficult when you pick your battles and your other child thinks he is getting punished harsher. In truth he is not. I pray for all that are going through this w/me. God only gives us what we can handle.

Wendy - posted on 02/27/2010

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My 10 yr old son and husband are bipolar and I really feel for you. They often just don't get it that the consequences are due to their behaviors when they are in the manic phase. Then when they are depressed it is easy to make them even more down. When using discipline, I usually have to review several times what they did as they usually will deny it since they feel that sense of "granduer" while manic. Sometimes I just have to pick my battles and let things slide when they are in a manic state. I am having problems with my son acting spoiled, though. When I crack down on him regardless of his moods, things get even worse. Be strong and don't let that denial have any life that bipolars love to cling to. Hang in there!

Desiree - posted on 02/27/2010

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Sit her down and talk with her listen carefully I have several friends and family members that deal with depression and as a teenager I had my own probiblems with it. Most of the time I just wanted to have somebody to really listen to me. When she is acting up perhaps take her to a room just the two of you and have a talk, let her know that you are there for her and want to help her figure out how to solve her probilems in a different way. Most of all be calm! If you are not she will just get worse. good luck

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I forgot to add, if possible have the behaviours with consequnces written out so they are visible and unchanging before her.

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Consistancy is the key. You must have her know that this action will result in this discipline. Then the onus is only on you to fulfill what you have set out before her. Do not discipline in anger, but with a calm spirit. Discipline is to disciple or teach someone. So regardless of her disorder, you can still teach her what is acceptable and what is not.

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