Talking to your teenager about sex? Any suggestions

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User - posted on 08/27/2009

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Great idea to talk to them. You want them to get the correct info from you not anyone else. I started the conversation by asking her what she knew about sex already. That way I could go off of that. Then I asked her if she had any more questions. I was truthful and direct. I made it a comfortable situation like it was a casual conversation. She feels comfortable talking to me anytime about things now.

Sherry - posted on 08/27/2009

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I feel honesty is the best policy.You don't have to go into detail, to grephic. My kids have known sence they we're young.Now and then they have questions.I try to answer without trying to gross them out and going into deep details,I'll save that when their intrested in boys or whatever.My son is 13,almost 14 and says he has lots of girlfriends.He is with his dad,but when we do talk,I tell him to please just let me know , or his dad,before hand if he is thinking of or someone is preasuring him about sex.Do alot of listening,but try not to get upset or show you disaprove,because they want to talk to you and if you show signs of anger or the disaprovel,they'll stop talking to you.That might make them go and make the mistake we don't want them to.By listening and giving them advise,they'll probly not make that mistake.Don't lie about sex just inform them that its a big responciblity and it can change their life if they choice to do so.If they're willing to talk to you about it,that means they're chances of doing it are that they won't.Just be open and see where it takes you.Its a hard subject,but if you don't talk about,the likly chance is that they'd do it.Also talk to your doctor about it.My email is busybytchen@yahoo.com,if you'd like to get ahold of me.I hope I helped you out at least a little.Keep your chin up.I feel you.I've got One boy and Four girls.

Steph - posted on 08/27/2009

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Hi Monica, I have a 19 yr old daughter as well as 2 younger, be open and honest, let your child ask the questions and answer honestly. If you feel embarrassed then that's fine to let them know you dont find it easy to talk about, but I always think if they're old enough to ask the question they're old enough to know the answer. And it may be that they already know more than you realise. Approach the subject openly and freely and you'll be fine. There are loads of books and leaflets around, may even find some at ya local gp surgery. Good luck Hun :o) x

Chanel - posted on 08/26/2009

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We live in a age where people speak more freely now so i do think that being straight with your child is the only way to go. Sex can be both a beautiful and dangerous thing and teenagers should know how to discuss this in an appropriate manner with the parents first. That way this prevents any misleading facts overheard from other teenagers.

Lacey-Anne - posted on 08/26/2009

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Be completely honest, if you feel uncomfortable tell him because he is probably feeling !100 times weirder. Try and make the atmosphere as relaxed and comfortable as possible and encourage him to ask questions don't assume he understands

Missy - posted on 08/26/2009

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i have a 13 yr old boy his dad wont talk to him so do u have any advice on how i can do it

Monica - posted on 08/26/2009

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Quoting Jeanie:

I sat my teen down and told her everything. Don't forget oral sex. Then I got online and showed her pictures of what STD's can do to her if she has intercoarse or oral sex with someone who is infected. Also, make it clear that people can have STD's and not be showing symptoms.


Thanks a lot , we will be having our first talk, and I just needed a little advise, my parents didn't talk to me about sex that word wasn't even aloud. I just really want to be open and honest about things, so thanks again.

Jeanie - posted on 08/25/2009

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I sat my teen down and told her everything. Don't forget oral sex. Then I got online and showed her pictures of what STD's can do to her if she has intercoarse or oral sex with someone who is infected. Also, make it clear that people can have STD's and not be showing symptoms.

Tami - posted on 08/25/2009

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i live in west LA and run a group for tweens and teens dealing with issues they are going thru. We do cover this a little and i also run a workshop for moms to help them with this scary topic.
www.motherhoodinspired.com

Sharron - posted on 08/25/2009

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Just start talking its better for them to now then not to now. Don't forget to tell them the importance of protection. AIDS is no joking matter.

Yunique - posted on 08/25/2009

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Exactly what are you asking? Is your teen having sex or are you just about to have "The Talk"?

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