The question of shaving and when?

Becky - posted on 08/28/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 9 years old, she unfortunately took after her father in this department. She has a LOT of hair on her legs and arms. It's all fine & blond, but still rather noticeable. She has far more than any of her friends. She's occasionally mentioned shaving both her legs and her arms for the last 3 -4 years already. I've not let her yet, none of her friends are shaving yet. My little girl is starting the early stages of puberty already as are her friends, but she still has the maturity of a little girl. I'm torn on this one because she also not known for her overall coordination so I fear she'll cut herself, and I know little about those hair removal creams. I also don't want to start a fad with her friends, I don't know how her friends parents feel about 8-9 year olds shaving. On the other hand - girls can be mean. I'd hate for her to get picked on. She's starting to get to the age where girls get catty and can be down right crewel.

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Cara - posted on 09/22/2010

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I am wondering how some of you can suggest waxing? OWCH!!! I don't want to do it to myself and I sure as heck don't want my sweet girl having it done to her!

Thank goodness my daughter is only 6 and we haven't come to this yet!

I think I was in 5th grade when I snuck behind my parents back and shaved my legs. I found one of my Dad's unopened disposable razors and used his Gillette Foamy. I didn't have dark hair yet, but I still felt self conscious of my hair growth. We spent alot of time that summer at the pools and beaches. I saw all the sleek tanned bodies and wanted to be sleek too. I liked being sleek, I felt like a seal =)

After that incident my Mom got me my own pack of razors and shave gel, and we also got an electric a little later but I didn't like the way it felt rubbing on my skin and I didn't like that the shave didn't get close.

If your daughter feels uncomfortable with her appearance I think you should do what you can to help fix that. Shaving really isn't that big of a problem, in my opinion. Don't make your daughter suffer for what you fear about what her friends parents think.

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Jarreau - posted on 09/08/2012

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let her start shaving now better now then after kids tease her and won't want shorts any more i start at 15 just because that when need too maybe teach her first few times i only cut my self few times but not much any more only really hard spots is ankles which you be super slow also you get nicked ! but should start shaving now ! before she gets really self stream more of her body ! let her Shave Please ! i would but my mom made use election shave but now i can use razors ! i would look for schick silk effects razor is very safe and good first shaves ! don't get many cuts i never nicked from that razor !

Alexa - posted on 08/31/2012

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i think that when girls are 8,9 or ten should start shaving theri legs i started shaving my legs at around 9 yrs old but now im 13 and i still shave my legs and when i was in fourth grade i shaved my legs and checked if i had hairs but i didnt so i kept on checking and i start shaving my legs every week so if 9 or 8 year olds are looking at this comment yu should go to the bathoom and start shaving yur legs

Jessica - posted on 09/22/2010

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I feel for you! I have a little boy and will have a daughter in Feb so I might be no good at this but my mother had me start shaving the first time I got a few hairs under my armpits! I figure that is when I will have my daughter shave her legs. It is really up to you and how you feel about it. I think as long as she hasn't said that she is getting picked on about it then it should be fine. I think I was 10 or 11 when I started shaving. If you decided that it is time for her to shave then maybe you can do it for her...I would be so nervous too!

Tina - posted on 09/22/2010

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My daughter, who is 9, has started growing black hair under her arms. I don't want to start her down the shaving road just yet, so I am going to take her in and have them waxed. That way she won't have to worry about them growing back as quickly, and there are no scary blades for her to cut herself with. She tried shaving her legs once in the tub when she was 5 or 6 and nicked herself, and this was done when my back was turned getting a towel out of the cupboard for her. It doesn't take long for them to cut themselves. Also, I agree with whoever it was that said wax her arms. The hair will not grow back as thick or coarse if you do that.

Candy - posted on 09/20/2010

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I am going to buy my girls an electric razor for the first time around. I just cant think about my little girls with a razor at their little legs.

Montana - posted on 09/20/2010

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I was in 5th grade when I started BEGGING my mom to let me shave. I have really dark hair so it showed pretty bad. All of the other girls were doing it. After a week of crying because I was getting teased, my mom caved and let me. Its pretty embarrassing to be teased about it at school. I would let my daughter if there are others doing it and shes getting down about herself about it. All the girls at school did it without their parents permission. At least I was open with my mom about it.

Leah - posted on 09/20/2010

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Just my opinion, she is too young to shave. However, there are other products out there that she could use such as Veet (I think it's called) that comes with the plastic razor. Or there is cream Nair. These are things that she could use with your supervision that won't hurt her. Hope that helps, good luck!

Amber - posted on 09/18/2010

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I started shaving around that same age cause I had the sme issue. I don't seen nothing wrong with it. My parents allowed me to do it cause I was getting picked on in school.
I think if she is getting picked out about it then you should let her shave her legs. If she is not being picked on then wait a little longer.

I hope I was of some help to you!

Tania - posted on 09/15/2010

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I think moms should stop worrying about what friends or other moms are doing and concentrate on what your daughters need. If you're not the first to show her, and experience this with her, then she's gonna do it without you and it could set the scene for future, more important interventions.

Hope - posted on 09/14/2010

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I am getting ready to teach my 10 year old stepdaughter how to shave. I am going to use the same method that my mother used. She sat next to the tub and told me how to do it. She did this a couple of times. I only cut myself once. I wasn't very coordinated either. Just be confident and she will be too!

Elfrancine - posted on 09/10/2010

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My daughter is 11, almost 12 years old and hasn't started shaving yet. Luckily none of her friends at school started shaving. I remember when I was 14 children at school called me mouse because I didn't shave and my parents refused me to do so, i also did it eventually behind their backs, which is not the best to do. But at least the children at school stopped teasing me.

I promised myself that if my daughter asks me about it I will let her do is. There is no way I am going to allow her to be teased at school. Her self esteem will go down the drain. We talked about shaving and how it works because her periods also started beginning of the year. I told her it is better to wax and when she is ready we will do it.

I think that you should allow your child to shave her legs if really wants to do it. I really don't see the problem in it. In my opinion she is not too young. If shaving means she will feel more comfortable with herself, let her do it. That why she knows that you listens to her and respects her as well. Enjoy it with your daughter! I think it will be fun. Wish my mother could do it for me...

Christy - posted on 09/09/2010

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Let her do it. I finally snuck & did it behind my mom's back @ 10. I had dark, hairy legs & was mortified by cruel kids teasing me. Wax the arms; shave the legs. She'll get embarrassed & harassed by stubble on her arms.

Tisha - posted on 09/09/2010

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I'm kind of in the same boat. My little girl is 9 and one of her friends did it (w/out her mother's consent) and now she too wants to shave. She does have light brown hair, but I'm trying to hold her off at least over the winter.

Jessica - posted on 09/09/2010

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Whenever they become embarresed by it, its time! My 10yr old came to me and said "mom drew called me monkey legs" I knew it was time... So I showed her how to properly do it and now she has no problems. Once given the tools she will grow into a mature little girl! I know its hard to take that step,(it was 4 me) she will feel much more confident!

Lori - posted on 09/01/2010

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My daughter is 10 and just started shaving. She had hairy legs too and was embarrassed by them. A lot of her friends are shaving too. My daughter shaves by herself now. I helped her the first 2 times and she only nicked herself.

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