too much responsibility for a 9 year old?

Jennifer - posted on 08/25/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I am looking for some ideas on what to do. School has started and i made it a personal goal to not get frazzeled in the morning. Well, i see it already starting to slip that way.



First, start off by knowing that both myself and my fiance work full time. I leave the house around 6:30am and my finace leaves at 7:30am. He drops her off at school and i pick her up. I get her up in the morning when i get up and make sure she is showered (her crazy hair requires a morning shower), dressed, bed is made and she has had breakfast. Then basically she gets to chill out until it's time to leave. The problem comes in that after she has done that she wants to watch TV; and when the TV is on she is oblivious to all else around her. We have a dog that we have had for about 1 year and is for the most part house trained, but she still will chew on something if no one is watching her. Well, my daughter will not be paying attention cuz she is watching TV and let the dog run loose. the dog then usually finds something to chew on or do something destructive.



I have told my daughter that if she isn't watching the dog, that's fine just put her in her crate. However, i would prefer the dog to be out since she is in her crate all day while we are at work.



Am i expecting too much from my 9 year old or is she just blowing me off?

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Desiree - posted on 08/26/2009

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It's never too early to start teaching responsibility. My 1 & 2.5 yr old help put toys away & pick up some messes they make. 8 & 11 yr old share chores like dog walking, picking up poop in the yard, dishwasher & other kitchen chores, they are responsible for their own room & even do their own laundry (8 yr old gets more of my help in this area) Both will take turns helping me prepare dinner & My 11 yr old also helps out alot with the youngest two, so I can work or do my chores without them under my feet. Even with all of their home responsibilities they still get to enjoy their own activities ie; gymnastics, cheerleading & hanging out with their friends. By teaching them responsiblities when their young, you are in essence "grooming" them for when they are older, teaching them respect & preventing certain bad habits before they even start.

Allison - posted on 08/26/2009

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Tayden is my first and also 9 and she has responsibilities just like I do. She's been picking up after the dogs since she was 6, a plastic bag and poop shovel all season. She also sorts her laundry, helps me clean the bathrooms, toliets and sinks, dry the dishes, sometimes washes her own dishes but most of all she helps me out with her very little sister Evalyn 2 1/2, just playing with her so I can do the dishes, or go pee or run upstairs. My mom said that picking up the dog poop was too gross for her, but I think it teaches her pet ownership responsibility. She wants to get a rabbit, who do you like is going to clean the cage??? Not me, I already had my caged animals growing up. I agree with Cindy that it's never too early to teach our kids responsibility of any kind, even if it's sorting socks for the little ones.

Cindy - posted on 08/26/2009

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Are you kidding Brooke (I know she is 12 which is more than 9 hey I know my math..lol) she does the dishes (dishwasher so not so bad), feeds the fish and is starting to fold the laundry. Kyle ~ 8 has to vacuum and pick up, Lexi ~ 7 has to feed the fish when Brooke doesn't (she's wanting to take that over), pick up the shoes, open the curtain for the plant and she tries to dust

Well I guess they don't do the dusting and vacuuming everyday but huh with all that you'd think my house would be clean once in a while but no not even close. Just wondering now which one I can get to do the bathrooms J/K!!

Ohh thinking about it am I to hard on my kids? I think sometimes I am

Jennifer - posted on 08/25/2009

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That is a great idea! I love it. I guess i have a hard time assessing what she is old enough to do. She is my first and i guess i always think of her as a little kid, so i just get nervous thinking about something like her goign for a walk by herself, or going to the park across the street by herself. I asked my mom for her opinion and she says my daughter is plenty old and responsible enough. (??) You can tell me, do i need to cut the strings a bit. Reading what i wrote, kind of sounds like it. LOL

Rebecca - posted on 08/25/2009

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i think ur been very fair really, why dont u try suggesting to her that after she has got up showered dressed and havd nreakfast that she takes the dog for a short walk then puts the dog bk in its bed before watching the tv? it will kepe her away from the telly a bit longer and help get more intrested in the dog?

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