trying to be strong with my 8 year old who has adhd

Delita - posted on 10/28/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )

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i have a 8 year old son that was diagnosed with adhd when he was 6 years old i am going through so much with him and his behavior it is very depressing every school he attends he is getting suspended or getting put out i receive phone calls from the school all the time. and his ways are just out of this world it is very rough and i need some support before i loose my mind seriously.

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Rebeca - posted on 11/09/2010

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I know it is hard to try medication but in the end I had to do it for the sake of my child. She is on a medication called Concerta. She is on a very low dose and it has improved her total life. She has gotten honor roll and numerous awards since starting it. A fter trying many drugs for my nephew that did nothing they put him on it as well and he has calmed down as well. You only have to give one pill in the morning and it lasts for 12 hours so it is great. I wish you luck I know it is hard. I thought it was my fault for a long time and really got upset thinking I was doing something wrong. After the small dose of meds she dose great.

Nikki - posted on 11/05/2010

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as a 25 yr old woman who was diagnosed at 7 with adha and borderline terets. i can tell you i was a strain on my mother for sure.... i failed kindergarten bcuz i would just leave in the middle of a class. go to the bathroom get distracted and leave. my kids are too young to be diagnosed but i can tell you how my mother delt with me. i agree with crystal in making sure that the school and school board are working with you, get him into a class that has a teacher who understands and has dealt with adhd kids. i dont know if you have him on any scripts. my mom had me put on a trial when i was little, dont do ridalin! i was on cylert. which helped to fix the imbalance that they believe causes adhd. i started with taking 2 of the largest dose pills at 7 and at 15 i was taking only 1/2 a pill of the smallest dose and then took myself off of it. im sure there is a newer drug if thats a route you are willing to take. my mother also did "control" exercises with me to help me learn how to deal with situations appropriatly... when i got into a tantrum.... and i had a lot. cops and cps knew our address by heart and would just call to confirm it was me instead of sending a unit out...she would have to talk me down. she said stuff like " in 5 minutes your gonna feel really silly", and "is this what i would do if this happened" and just point out the obvious in a calm voice... i didnt get " rough" as youstated about your son, i mean i didnt attack my mom or anyone didnt lash out physically but i would throw things and throw myself on the ground kicking screaming and yelling things that weren't true like "dont! stop hitting me! your hurting me!" while my mom stood or sat there and talked to me.
the biggest thing my mom said was she had to remember that in my mind whatever was wrong was a big deal to me even if it was as stupid and a tails up penny.... not literally but yea... i hope this gives you a little help or relief knowing that he will eventually learn to control himself, its just a matter of him learning and your patience which i know must be see through about now. you can message me if you have any q's. i may not have to deal with the same situation as you but i was on your son's side and i might be able to help with a little insight
hope this helps and remember to breath and walk away if neccasary!

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Susan - posted on 11/14/2010

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Firstly remember there is always someone worse off than yourself. Love and accept him for the way he is and focus on being the best parent you can be.

Cassidy - posted on 11/11/2010

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We were stationed with someone that had a child with ADHD and she had him on a special diet for ADHD. All I can remember from it is no to low foods with red or orange dies. She says she can tell when he had something with it b/c he would act "crazy" (her words not mine). Not sure if that helps but I wish you the best of luck.

Melina - posted on 11/10/2010

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I'm going to tell you to pay attention to his diet. My daughter went through that same thing and discovered that she is a celiac. Now she gets great grades and is a very different child. If you want help you are more that welcomed to contact me. melee_8@yahoo.com

Kathy - posted on 11/10/2010

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I am not going to tell you to suppliment your son or change his diet. The fact is that you are not the only one going through this. Does he have a functional IEP in place. Schools and teacher get training on how to deal with kids that have learning problems and they should be providing you with a free and appropriate education regardless of anything else.

Christine - posted on 11/09/2010

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my son was diagnosed when he was 5 and put on medication at that time.it was the first time since he was an infant that i could finally relax.And no he wasn't like a zombie.He was FINALLY like a normal active 5 yr old boy.Before his meds he actually couldn't carry on a conversation because he would start and stop as many as 5 different conversations.his mind was too busy.Plus he had audio tics(he would make weird noises and sounds)as well as physical tics(head bobbing,shoulder shrugging,blinking,clapping his hands very loudly repeatedly)So i can totally understand how exhausting it is.I'm not a huge advocate of medicating but it was a miracle for him and me.He's 11 yrs old now and does extremely well in gr.6 plays piano,swims,does martial arts.Don't let anyone tell you what to do.ADHA kids are very bright.I might add you should get him to a pediatric psychiatrist and get a real valid diagnosis.Best of luck and remember he can't help some of the things he does just give lots of love and patience.

Debbie - posted on 11/05/2010

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All I can say is praise him OTT for every good thing that he dose and tryand be firm no matter how much it hurts you for the not so good things .... Good Luck

Lol - posted on 11/04/2010

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My son has ADD/dyspraxia and to be honest the only time the hyperactivity kicked in was when he ate something that disagreed with him. With him it was preservatives especially sodium metabisulphite, and high sugar foods. I would seriously be concerned about giving a child with ADHD caffeine, I'd be cutting all caffeine out as much as possible. So I'd try giving your child as healthy and additive free diet as possible. Excercise is also good, my son did martial arts- and swimming it's good for coordination and learning self discipline, some folk have also found things like yoga or chess helpful.
The schools have a duty to help you and your child, are there any self help groups near you? If you find other mums with a similar problem they could recommend good schools. An understanding school makes all the difference to being able to cope.

Nicole - posted on 11/03/2010

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I'd check a paediatritian before making any changes to medications if thats the path you've taken.
I find with my almost 8 year old (diagnosed at 5) a clear set of rules and consequences helps.
regular bedtime routines helps as well. Try to incorporate a physical activity into the day as well, it might be an after school sport or a trip to the park. The more worn out and quiet he is, the easier it is to get him to comply.
Another thing to look at is diet. Some kids with adhd are sensitive to foods with red food colouring, but green food colouring can also hype them up.

Elfrancine - posted on 10/30/2010

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Hi, I think you should try by giving him Omega 3 & 6 with additional vitamins. Our food just doesn't have enough vita en minerals. It help my daughter a lot. It also helps with the concentration. I took my daughter to a therapist and she also told me that if she doesn't receive quality time she feels we don't love her. She gets very busy, doing way too many things that used to make me mad. At school she also had problems. After seeing the therapist I received tools to help my daughter and I'm am very happy about it. She entered gymnastics now and I play a lot of games at home together with her and she enjoys it a lot. She is much more calmer and finally is doing well at school. Her teacher is very happy with her improvement. So, with extra vitamins and much more quality time with my daughter, I have achieved to make my little girl happy. Parents that work are normally so busy they totally forget about the true needs of their kids. If we just spend more time with them, get to know them properly, I personally think that the major problems will disappear. Maybe instead of going crazy when kids go "wild", calm down and play with them. Hopes some of what I said will help you :-) Love

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You can look into his diet to see if there is something he's allergic to or something that seems to set him off. You never know. Crystyl was right about getting him extra help in school. They have to since the "No Child Left Behind" act.

Angel - posted on 10/29/2010

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I have a 7 year old girl with ADHD (diagnosed at 5) and I wonder how much longer I can take it before I lose it! If you want to share experiences or talk or whatever, msg me!

Delita - posted on 10/28/2010

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thanks crystal thanks for the info if u gey anymore let me know i am looking into getting him a a dedicated aide for school

Crystyl - posted on 10/28/2010

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oh yeah and u might check out caffine and children with adhd i have heard awesome things with using this technique the caffine calms the child

Crystyl - posted on 10/28/2010

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There was a time when they had told me my son had adhd and in fact did not. Have u tried sitting in his class or appealing to the school board because as it stands due to the no child left behind act they must accomodate him with a special teacher that can and knows how to deal with him per federal law if all else fails threaten the board with media attention they will find someone that is qualified with teaching ur son a very dear friend of mine went thru this last yr and it worked so best of luck to u and if u have any other questions let me know =)

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