TURNING MY 11 year old IN TO A BRO_SITTER....

Gemma - posted on 11/14/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I am a full time single mom (that means NO help what so ever from family or ex husband)
Having much to do and very little $ and no help from anywhere, I desire for my 11 year old son to merge in to a bro-sitter for his little brother who is 7. Many parents leave there 10 year olds on there own. I am a little concern since he will be in charge of not just himself but his brother. Is there any suggestions or perhaps advice or good tips on how to go about this.

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Gemma - posted on 11/18/2010

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also if you wldnt leave your 12 year old to babysit the 4 year old question your parenting not the 12 year old I was wrking by this age earning a paycheck yep babysitting lil babies....

Gemma - posted on 11/18/2010

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I can see your concern, but most kids my age were left alone and I knw times have changed a lot but I think most kids need to grow up and I also knw for parents who dnt have a choice need that from there kids.. Some kids grow up with all time supervision other kids get independent quick a lot of city kids from new york to even places like china kids maturity levels surpass other kids my son can do this and knws this is how our life wrks!! I was left alone at 12 even at 9 it help me to trust myself and gave me a chance to help my family. I am a wrking mom this is how it has to be.

Sherri - posted on 11/18/2010

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If you want my honest opinion NOT on your life. I have a 13, 12 and 4 yr old. I would never leave my 12 yr old alone to watch my 4 yr old.

Actually where I live it is against the law to leave an 11yr old without adult supervision never mind an 11 yr old and a 7 yr old. They are much to young. You had best check with your state. What happens if their is a major problem and 11 yr old is still a little kid and not physically or mentally able to think as an adult thinks in these situations.

You are really kidding yourself IMHO if you think this is a good idea!!

Gemma - posted on 11/16/2010

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Thank you ladies I will look in to that where we live and paying my son is a perfect idea he is at the age where money is a big deal.

Angie - posted on 11/15/2010

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There's a babysitting course in our town too. They suggest that 12 is the youngest a child should babysit and that a trusted adult is close by. The course was $25. Your son also deserves to have some compensation for watching his brother - he shouldn't do it for free. As small amount of money ($1 per hour) and an extra privilage might be appropriate.

Michelle - posted on 11/14/2010

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Where we live in Alberta Canada their is a course our local swimming pool offers which teaches children how to be a babysitter what to do and when the kids learn a lot and it is only a two day thing then they get a certificate. If you can find one of those it is great, if not make it a job for him that has perks like staying up a little later or a little spending cash that he wouldn't normally have that sort of thing so he feels like it is a real job and he is being appreciated. Make sure you leave a list of all applicable emergency numbers by the phone and the big one is to make sure the 7 year old knows and understands that when you are not home his brother is in charge. That being said make sure the 11 year old understands that he can not be mean to his little brother.

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