What can i do about constant whining!

Tiffany - posted on 07/10/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )

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my daughter is 4 1/2 and from the time she gets up to the time she goes to bed she whines. i think i am losing my mind im not sure what i can do to get her to stop! I have tried distracting her , keeping her busy, time outs, trying to explain to her. i don't know what else i can do . please help!

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Gina - posted on 07/11/2009

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I've always told my girls that I can't hear them if they are whining or screaming - then ignore them until they use an appropriate voice. It's very important to acknowledge them with your full attention when they DO use an appropriate voice so there is a clear and distinct difference in their experience of your reaction. That way, your attention reinforces the behavior you want and there is no reinforcement of the behavior you don't want.

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Pamalea - posted on 07/16/2009

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When my daughter does this, I let her know that in order to have a big girl conversation you have to stop whining like a baby. She doesn't like being called a baby. Another thing I do is ignore her for a few minutes and if she keeps whining I place her in the ALL BY YOURSELF"chair. (Time limit by age.) 6 minutes. It has really helped because she knows the chair is in a room by itself and she hates not having my attention.

Laurie - posted on 07/16/2009

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my 5 year old is the same. so i put on the same whiny voice and say his name over and over followed by "can you see how annoying that is?" he usually leaves me alone after that.

Leslee - posted on 07/15/2009

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I have found that telling them when they want to talk like a big girl they can come talk to me then not giving in until then! even if she starts crying. I have 2 girls on 7 and one 4 1/2 also. My 4 year old is a whiner also. She does a lot better now but we have our days where she needs to be reminded.



P.S. Try to stay calm as she will get aggervated also!

Tiffany - posted on 07/14/2009

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thank everyone for the advise i am going to put a new foot forward tomorrow and see what works!

Rachel - posted on 07/14/2009

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Many times the whining is one way for attention. Some kids want more attention that others. Often when they whine parents generally give in to stop the whining, but this just escalates the whining because they'll keep doing it to get what they want. Take the time to sit face to face with your child. Get eye level with them and ask them to tell you in a nice way, not in a whine, what they want. Tell them when they talk in a nice way you will listen, but when they whine you can't hear them. When they talk nice without being told to talk nice acknowledge that behavior and reward that. Never bribe, but rewarding good behavior when done on their own is a great incentive for kids to keep up the good work.

Jo - posted on 07/14/2009

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I have this problem with my 7 year old SON and the only thing that gets his attention is the "Whine Jar". Everytime he whines he has to put a quarter from his wallet or bank in the whine jar. He loves his money and can't stand to part with it. If there is no whining at the end of the week he gets the money back if not it goes in his bank account. It seems to be working although it is a work in progress! Good Luck

Jenn - posted on 07/13/2009

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Ignoring helps.......but also taking away something they really like to do or play or have....that works with my daughter. Now that it is summer I threaten her that she won't be able to go to the pool if she whines about something!!

Good luck!

Crystal - posted on 07/13/2009

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ignore them and buy a big bottle of alcohol!!!! LOL jk..I havent found a solution to the constant whining...Im losing my mind!!

Charity - posted on 07/12/2009

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read this book, Have a new kid by friday. it is written by kevin leman, I am not big on most "experts" but i swear this guy knows what he is talking about.

Tracy - posted on 07/11/2009

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my daughter does the same thing, i firmly tell her to stop whining or go to bed.

Amy - posted on 07/11/2009

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My son is 4 1/2 and he from time to time will still whine. It used to be much worse but i tell him to stop... take a breath... and talk to me like a big boy because i won't talk to him or listen until he does. It usually works for me.

Ginger - posted on 07/11/2009

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Boys deffanatly do do it..mine does..Ive done it right back to him in the middle of him wining at me.. it caught his attention and he asked me to stop!! I had to expain to him then that, that is what he sounds like when he is whining at me.. I still remind him on occasion but it did Improve after I did that.. its worth a try.. good luck I know how irritating it is to listen to that

Jade - posted on 07/11/2009

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i'm having the same trouble with my 6 year old daughter.i think it is sometimes being over tired and sometimes wanting my attention,that's all i can think of.it is so annoying so i completely understand.i think it may be a girl thing because my boys don't do it.

Sonni - posted on 07/10/2009

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I tell my daughter i will not address her when is talks like that....it works however i have to remind her several times a day

Angie - posted on 07/10/2009

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I just tell my my kids that understand English and Spanish but don't understand whine. Then I ignore them!

Angie - posted on 07/10/2009

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I just tell my my kids that understand English and Spanish but don't understand whine. Then I ignore them!

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