what do u do when a child has a.d.d. and it's taking forever to see a dr. about it?

Christy - posted on 09/09/2009 ( 35 moms have responded )

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my lil girl just started kindergarden and doesn't pay attention to school work or homework...she is more interested in playing...

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Jennifer - posted on 09/09/2009

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This was a Very frustrating thing for us. The school told us to go to the Pediatrician, the Pedi referred us back to the school. Back and forth we went for 2 years until my ex finally found a doctor that specialized in ADHD.



My best advice - ask other parents in your area who they go to see. I don't think the teachers can disclose to you whose child has what issues going on, but the teachers can certainly ask the parents of those children who they got help from.



Keep a journal of her behavior patterns at home (how long does she stay on task, does she get frustrated easily, can she follow a set of instructions, does she day dream, etc . . . ) and ask the teacher to do the same at school. That's where a Pediatrician will have you start so may as well get a jump on it and go to the appointment prepared.



My next suggestion is to evaluate her maturity compared to the other children. If I had started my daughter a year later I feel Strongly that she would have been better off b/c she's a late bloomer - much like me. She also didn't interact with other children much before Kindergarten so she thought it was play time and was so excited that she couldn't concentrate.



Work with the teacher to see what can be done in the classroom to limit stimuli that gets your daughter off task.



I've got more info, but I'm annoying someone with my typing and he's trying to sleep. Let me know if you need more.

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Rosie - posted on 06/07/2012

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I do have a quesiton though...My son has a HUGE issue with sticky hands. He gets really really upset if his hands are sticky. He also use to LOVE taking a bath, and now he cant stand washing his hair. He gets really really mad if he spills anything wet on himself. any ideas? He has been diagnosed with ADHD, but that is it.

Rosie - posted on 06/07/2012

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I am learning the same thing..those dyes are awful!! My son does amazing when he isnt eating junk food. He is four and it is so funny to hear him ask people who offer him food if it is good for his body or not. I am very clear that it is not him, it is the food. He is very good about owning it because he has to be. I can tell right away if he has eaten food that contains something he doesnt usually eat...I swear his eyes look different! He knows too...he will say "I think I ate something bad for my body" when he is bouncing off walls like a wild man.

Rosie - posted on 06/07/2012

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My son is four and was diagnosed with ADHD. I am not a big fan of medication myself, however I did attempt to cut a lot of foods out of his diet and his behavior is unbelievably different. Its hard to get use to, but very doable. Sugar is a big factor..but the foods that I have found the most troublesome contain..corn syrup (that stuff is deadly anyway) any fake color...red dye 40 is awful, and dairy. Try sending her to school stuffed full of protein...my son likes eggs with sausage and ketchup...make sure its a good ketchup without high fructose corn syrup..back her a lunch and see if her behavior changes. Its amazing how different he is when he has a high packed protein breakfast vs. a bowl of cereal. EVEN when the cereal is all natural with none of the things I listed above.

Sheena - posted on 09/16/2009

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Christyu i totally feel ur frustration get in touch with the school social worker call and bug her everyday if u have call all of the places in the phone to see about and assesment local county mental health is a good place to start.

Janeen - posted on 09/16/2009

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My son had this for a while, we went to a pediatric behaviorist, to be sure this was the issue. I would only do a non-stimulant drug for her such as stratera, we tried the others with lots of side effects. Just let the teacher know the issue, try making learning fun, hide the homework on post-it notes to make learning a fun game, whatever it is you can try to make it fun and that helps also with keeping their attention and learning

Kim - posted on 09/16/2009

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just say NO to



juice, even real juice has high sugar

ketchup

processed meats( my daughter is nutso on hotdogs)

chocolate milk

white bread

salad dressing

blue dye,(blue raspberry) red dye (kool aid), orange dye(cheese)



these are huge triggers for her. if she gets a treat it is always in small portions. it's hard she cant figure out why she's a "bad kid". she's not. it's just what she eats sometimes.



good luck. i've been going through it for 4 years. she is getting better, but it 's because of her diet.

Angela - posted on 09/16/2009

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Sounds normal to me! She is just a little girl who needs to learn when to play and when to work. Remember they have a very short attention span even without a.d.d. Ease your way into this by working with her and giving incentives. I would never give her a label of a.d.d. until you have a diagnosis. Then still don't give her a lable of a.d.d. until you have done the research yourself and tried everything INCLUDING eliminating all food colorings out of her diet.

Laura - posted on 09/16/2009

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Before you label your child, and i recall the more medical intervention you get, the more likely they will to label your child with something when there may be no need, see about making sure she's healthy and getting good nutrition. I stumbled upon a website that talks about feeding your kid more raw foods (fruits and veggies) is supposed to help them focus and feel better. I know my daugther has issues with anger, and when she was younger she was allergic to dairy and became freaky when she had any...i had the allergy treated and she doesn't have it anymore. So my next suggestion before you start dosing your daugther up on drugs is to get her tested for food allergies. There's a great accupuncture treatment, NAET.com, that made my allergies go from unmanageable to non existant..and that's how we treated my daughter's dairy allergy. Food allergies cause all sorts of trouble. Another thing is to get a good multivitamin (liquid health has a great multi with all sorts of stuff in there) and omega's...and lastly, she's little and not paying attention is normal. My daughter goes to ki aikido and that is helping her focus a lot. Practice also helps. Nutrition and health are culprits for a lot of our woes, before you resort to drugs try some natural things that will set her up better for life first.

Mindy - posted on 09/16/2009

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Any kind of early intervention services would be better than waiting on an unresponsive Dr. My daughter has ADHD and sensory processing disorder, Most of her help came from outside services, then the Dr came onboard when she realized that I would advocate for my child. Schools also provide a phycologist that even a child in kindergaten can have acess to, my daughter went and saw her twice a week from k and 1st grade with great progess, sometimes all they need is someone to unload on to finishe there day with a fresh start, we are starting this year so far with little intervention. It can be very frustrating but keep pushing forward, let them know you are you childs advocate and you are not going away.

Debora - posted on 09/15/2009

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this is why glueten free works since some food dyes cause behavior issues.i do not know where you live but we have county run mental health clinics that we have to use.

Debora - posted on 09/15/2009

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try a glutenfree&msg free diet.i know a mom who has add stop it and started getting really bad heaches then her oldest said mom you need to go by to gluetenfree diet.it works wonderfully.you can get a prescription from her peds dr for that so school can cnage her diet.

Tara - posted on 09/15/2009

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Hey Christy! Sure sitting her down and going over the importance of doing homework and helping her with it can have some effect, but on the other hand...

What I can say from experience, I have a son who is 12 and has A.D.H.D and O.D.D. He was diagnosed at 6yrs old first by his pediatrician then we went to a child and adolesant behavior specialist who monitors his behavior patterns- which yes by keeping a journal of your daughter's mood changes, emotions, social aspects etc. will be helpful when you do see a doctor. If there is a child and adolesant behavior specialist clinic in your area I would contact them for an appointment. Yes, you may experience a wait time but it would be worth getting on the list or take the first available time. Also, it would be helpful to get her a theropist that specializes in child behaviors that your daughter can see weekly, not only will your daughter learn how cognitive ways of "unlearning adhd" you will have a better chance at knowing the resources in your area which can help you.

I hope this helps a little.

Gina - posted on 09/15/2009

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I had the same problem with my son. But once he got in and became a patient of theirs, they could get him in more quickly. But I'm having that problem with his therapist. They'll call me at the last minute when they have a cancellation, but I work, I can't go in at the last minute. But my advice to you is to call around and see if a different doctor can get you in sooner, or ask the doc you want to see if they have a cancellation list or something, so you can get in sooner if someone cancels.

Melissa - posted on 09/15/2009

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I know what your going through. My son was diagnosed with adad when he was five but showed sighns much earlier on when he was around two years old. It was the most trying time when we would sit down to do homework. It would take us two hours to get through a few work sheets(that would normaly take his classmates thirty minutes.) At first I did'nt want to put him on medication.Researching what was available at the time I had my doubts and worries but I knew he needed something to help him.So we tryed every drug available but the side effects were horrible.He would be attentive and focused but he experienced migraines,blackouts,loss of appetite,weight loss,stomach pain and he was a complete zombie.We never did find a medication that he could safley take.His teachers begged me to continue the meds and I hate to admitt it but he drove me crazy! It was very diffucult for everyone envolved,especially him. Knowing now what I did'nt then,there are some really great alturnative medications out there.Try viewing some herbal websites.The herbalhealer.com is a good one I use a lot.My nephew is nine and has had the same problems for years that my son had.He now takes herbal medications and has had no side effects and his progress has been very successfull.Hang in there you are not alone.God Bless.

Melissa - posted on 09/15/2009

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My son was diagnosied with a.d.d. and we had to take him to see a dr to get him some medicine to help him. He has had it for about 2 years now. He is in the 5th grade this year and he is doing a whole lot better this year. He has lost some weight and about the only thing now that we are trying to control is his attitude and anger problems. Other than that he is doing well.

Heidi - posted on 09/15/2009

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My son was Diagnosed with adhd and aspergers and I had the same issues. I talked to his teacher and we came up with a plan. Every hr or so she would let him get up and walk around a lil bit, do jumping jacks...go get a drink of water. She noticed he was able to consenrate when he was given a lil time to move. When it comes to homework..I have to make sure there is NO noise and nothing to distract him. I sit with him and be as calm as i can with him. There are days its hard he doesn't want to sit but I let him up very 15 mins and walk around.



I do have my son on a mild medication. I fought with myself everyday to give it to him. But i realized that his condition was taking away from his learning. Hes doing better at school and at home. I have also changed his diet and is on Flinestones complete daily.

Punetahi - posted on 09/15/2009

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Hi Christy,

My 7 year old boy is the same. I have not had him diagnosed with adhd because my parents believe that they just need someone who can keep up with there cleverness lol. I have been told you could try fish oil from a health shop or introduce more fish to their diet apparently it balances the brain. I haven't tried it myself but it mite be worth a go while you are waiting. Also people keep saying to me the reason he is like that is because the work is not stimulating enough for him. Maybe your girl is just bored and wants something new?

Mary - posted on 09/14/2009

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happy for you. my son is not so lucky. they were treating him for ashs and they were wong. hes now going on 9, has meds and therapy and hes still out of control. he has sensory perception disorder vs. modd disorder and its been years, at three they knew something was wrong with him. just today the teachers had to restrain him and call the cops and it all started because he couldnt figure out a math problem. they had to remove all the students from the classroom

Mary - posted on 09/14/2009

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a.d.d and sensory perception intergration are simalar when the child is young. my son was called adhd and treated and they were wrong and the meds started makeing him worse. hes on meds for mood disorder and sensory perception. unforationatly no punishment even sinks in when he is angry the whole worl or the class room come apart and the police get called. boy, it is alot of work and trouble and many many many people have called social workers and what not the kids is just not right in the head.

Sandy - posted on 09/13/2009

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My son displayed that in kindergarten, and his teacher called it "immaturity". He was diagnosed in the third grade by a psychiatrist. First 3 years of school were not fun. He lagged behind in school. He had to do his homework in his room which took 2-3 hours to accomplish for 15 minutes of actual work. We had different family members come over to help. Different faces with different styles of dealing with him.

Cherie - posted on 09/13/2009

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Cut out the sugar in her diet. Try feeding her natural fruits and vegetables, no processed sweets.

Dawn - posted on 09/13/2009

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be persistent....call, call, call, bug the hell out of that office until they get you in, in an acceptable time frame. You need to be an advocate for your child.

Stephanie - posted on 09/13/2009

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My son has A.D.H.D. In Kindergarden he used to stand at his desk and run and play instead of schoolwork but he had a great teacher with alot of patience. She let him stand but he had to learn to control himself with running around and playing. I noticed certain things he ate caused him to have more issues during the day. My son is now 9 and he has learned well on controlling impulses he has to work hard in school and sometimes he drives me nuts but is ok. I did try meds but they made him very angry and I felt Iike he wasn't himself on so many levels so I did away with meds and do the best about controling what he eats.

Jennifer - posted on 09/13/2009

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I think the moms saying that she'll grow out of it are missing this part of your second post, "well she has been diagnosed with adhd and anger and aggression." That's not normal behavior and could be indicative of a deeper seated issue. It's nothing to lose your head over and it Could be a phase, but for her sake and your sanity, it's best to go ahead and find out if it's the real deal or not.

The suggestion of 15 min intervals for homework is great. ADHD kiddos need to reset their brains and taking a walk to the water fountain, for instance, worked wonders for my brother.

Also keep in mind, ADHD does Not mean your child is fated to take medication. Many doctors are too quick, imo, to prescribe meds to 'fix' the issue. I think other things should be tried first and medication should be the last resort.

Limiting stimuli (I mentioned this previously) is going to be one of the biggest factors. The more things there are to distract, the more likely they are to get off task.

An organized study space (Kindergarten is a bit young for this need, but it's a good time to prepare for the upcoming grades) is a must. A desk facing a wall with no nick knacks or other decorations to distract is a plus. Having paper, pens and everything else they need within a hand's reach for homework will keep them in their seat. My daughter uses not having a pencil sharpener or whatever else as an excuse to go on a 30 minute excursion to look for the item.

From my experience, encourage her to ask questions if she doesn't understand the task at hand. Too often my child will just do what she Thinks the assignment was - and she guesses wrong. It's a real blow to the confidence for her, but it's also her own fault for not clarifying the instructions.

Accountability. Make the child understand that ADHD is not a get out of jail free card, it actually means they're going to have to work that much harder to keep up with the rest of the class. If they get in trouble at school, instead of babying them and blaming it on ADHD, it's detrimental to their behavioral development to make them take responsibility for their actions (or inaction).

Be prepared for a long road ahead. If you Do end up with an Rx for medication I assure you it is not a magic pill that solves everything. It does help, but it doesn't do all the work. Think of it as training wheels. It just steadies the person so they can go about normal activities with a clearer head.

Educate yourself about ADHD. The internet is Full of information. If no one in your area knows of a doctor (my insurance company was no help, the school was no help and her pedi was no help), call an ADHD clinic - they should be able to help you find a doctor in your area or at least get you to a resource that can help.

Tara - posted on 09/13/2009

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My daughter took till end of 1st grade to be diagnosed(now 3rd). They wanted to hold her back in K, and 1st not because she didn't know the info, but because she wouldn't sit still and do her class work. Last year, after being diagnosed and put on medication she was top of her class A's & B's. Talk to the pediatrician they will give you a survey for you, and one for the teacher. Then based on the results they will refer you to a psych dr. that will perform a clinical assessment, resulting (due to age) in a preliminary diagnosis. They will start by regimenting her (bed time, homework time, meal time, sugar, caffeine) then look at medication options. Do your homework, research, read before hand. Hopefully they will get the medication right the first time. I wish you the very best, it is frustrating, aggravating, but if you stay on top of it she will get the help she needs.

Nicole - posted on 09/12/2009

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She's in kinder, they should be all about playing.. Thier little brains aren't ready cognitively for all the hard work, kinder should be about getting them ready to like school and playing. I wouldn't think just by her not being interested in school work that she is ADD. She sounds like a typical child for her age.

User - posted on 09/12/2009

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We are going threw the testing now for OT (ocupational therapy) and speech. It was noticed that my 4yr old is showing signs for ADHD but the doctors had mentioned that is was a good alternative instead of meds this early on..We will see what comes form it ourselves but just an idea if it may work for you.

Pnina - posted on 09/12/2009

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Also consider looking up contributors to ADD on-line. What you will find is that sugar and lack of exercise make the symptoms worse. Consider cutting out her sugar and dairy, and giving her opportunities to run around some more. Sometimes this is hard in a school setting, but while you are home, you can make a game of having her do a couple of lines of homework (or in her case, maybe identify 3 letters) and then run a lap around the living room. This was extremely helpful with my son. It made learning fun, gave him a way to burn up some of the extra (figity) energy, and got blood pumping up to his brain.

Jennifer - posted on 09/11/2009

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Both my sons were diagnosed add both have homework and school issues they are 10yo and 16yo what we have found to work with homework is breaking it up into 15min. sessions. 15min homework 10min break and so on. This really worked well for my 10yo unfortunaely i received this info too late for my 16yo but he is doing well now. Good luck. It is a little more time consuming and frustrating to work with ADD kids but both my boys have matured and are very good young men. I am very proud of them.. I have made arrangements with school as well for my 10 yo he is allowed to sit in the back of the class so if he needs to just get up and walk around his desk he is free to do so and this helps him to stay focused at school. Different I know but it works for him.

Sara - posted on 09/11/2009

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You should be able to contact your health insurance provider (assuming you have it, I know not everyone does these days) they will give you a list of specialist and call until you can find one that has an opening as soon as possible... if you dont have insurance call your local Childrens Hospital and tell them what you are looking for ( a doctor that specializes in ADHD. or ask them how you can find one closest to you.

Lashun - posted on 09/10/2009

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MY son the same way and probably worster like Paula says you just have to work harder for them to keep there attetion span.....I was feeling the same way but Doctors and Teachers told me its nothing wrong with him.....So don't label your child with that she will grow out of it soon trust my son has Mature over the years with that....

Christy - posted on 09/09/2009

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thank you for this info...it will really help in the long run.....if u have anymore suggestion pls let me know

Christy - posted on 09/09/2009

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well she has been diagnosed with adhd and anger and aggression and we r waiting to get back in with a different specialist to rediagnose her to see where she is at but when she brings homework home she can't sit still or pay attention to what she is doin...

Paula - posted on 09/09/2009

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That doesnt sound like a.d.d.........she just needs to learn to get her homework done and then play....you have to have at least 2 or 3 different issues and places before they will be diagnosed wtih a.d.d I suggest you just sit down with her and help her do her homework, eventually she will get used to doing it, and then let her have play time after its done.

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