What do you do when your 10 year old does not

Camika - posted on 10/06/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My 10 year old daughter started this thing that she does not copy all of her and she stop participating in class and the school year just began. Last year she started the habit of throwing away all her school supplies thinking that she would not do her work and she was punished for that i took her christmas and her birthday,she was grounded for that month until she mad up all of her class and homework and passed all of her spelling, math,and s.s. test and one more month over the summer. Now she is doing the same thing this year and worst this time around. Does any body have any suggestion on what i can do?

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Jessica - posted on 10/10/2009

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My daughter is 11 going on 12, and we had the same issue when she was ten. She wouldn't write everything down in her agenda, so assignments were not getting completed. Instead of giving her a "goodie chart" I insisted that if she wanted to play outside she MUST have her teacher initial her agenda to make sure everything was written down correctly. Then in the evening when we went over her homework, we would intial her agenda so the teacher knew we had checked the agenda. This was very affective since she loves to be outside with her friends. Good Luck!

Camika - posted on 10/10/2009

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Thank You to everyone that has posted thus far I will try each one in a weeks time frame to see which one will help her the best if you have any other suggestions even if from someone else not on here please post. Females at this time is too precious to let go through cracks because of miss communications in the primary household

Angie - posted on 10/09/2009

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Since when do we reward bad behavior? Putting up a goodie chart only tells her that her bad behavior has gotten her the reward of having a goodie chart. Speak with her teacher. Ask him/her to e-mail the assignments home to you then sit at the table with her and help her work her way through the problems. When all of her homework is done, her reward is getting to get up from the table! It seems that she's looking for attention - sitting and doing homework with her is one way to give her that attention. In addition, she learns great study skills!

Christie - posted on 10/08/2009

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Sounds like she's having a hard time with school or is just feeling like she may not be "smart" enough and is just giving up. My middle daughter will totally close up and refuse help from me when she feels like she's getting too many questions wrong. Which snowballs into fights over homework and her refusing to go to school. What's help for me was praising her for even the smallest thing and having someone else help her with school work. Even an aunt or cousin works better. She's more open to what they have to say since mom's have no idea about anything...It may seem like nothing but for some kids to not get something the first time causes a lot of issues.

Camika - posted on 10/08/2009

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Yes she is starting to have problems at home now. i have tried the goodie chart, the extra attention she has gotten that, the away time with other family members by herself

Amber - posted on 10/08/2009

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try putting up a goodie chart for her... I do this sometimes on the hard issues... the way it works is if she does her all her work for a month and her teacher says she is doing well then she gets to have a sleep over or a pizza party... she may be looking for extra attention and this usually does the trick in a positive way and it gives them a goal for them to work at... good luck and hopes this helps

Kamela - posted on 10/07/2009

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I am assuming that she is not having behavioral problems at home. Can you clarify if she is or not? It would greatly help in my being able to give you some suggestions. Thanks.

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