What has Circle of Moms come to?

Ange - posted on 11/24/2011 ( 25 moms have responded )

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In the time that I have been on here this place is not much fun any more... People want our opinions and they ask for them too and when our opinion is given to them other people come along and accuses us for jumping on people and telling them what to do and if our opinion is different from yours well then we are the bad guys and there is no if's and's or but's about it what the hell is up with that???? IF YOU DO NOT WANT A CERTAIN KIND OF OPINION THEN YOU NEED TO SAY SO..... for example 'I only opinions here that agree with me and think along the same lines as me.' other wise why are asking for an opinion..... I have no clue how freedom of speech works in the States but here in Canada every one has an opinion and it doesn't matter if you like it or not we don't attack them cause we disagree

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Tamara - posted on 11/25/2011

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That is so true, I find myself to the point I don't beat around the bush or sugar coat much any more, I am pretty straight forward now days, I do add it to the post i offer some softer advice about some things then add about XYZ I am going to be blunt and tell them how I feel. unless I feel they are totally off base or something. and honestly I don't really give a rats big toe if my opinion is different then theirs.

When I ask something I AM looking for the otherside of it maybe I didnt see something from the another point of view.

Mandy - posted on 12/26/2011

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havent you heard that new thing? if i want your opinion i will give it to you.....

Ashley - posted on 12/26/2011

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i agree. sometimes the truth hurts. ps if ur bestie is agreeing with everything u say maybe they are not honest...thats a great bestie rite there lemme tell ya...

Tamara - posted on 11/25/2011

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I totally agree and have seem it. I try to stay out of topics that will or have been known to get heated. I figure those people do take strong stances on. I just don't get some people. If they only want reinforcement then start a group with only like minded people.

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Tobie - posted on 12/28/2011

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I don't mind dissenting opinions, but there's a right way and a wrong way to give your dissenting opinion. I've seen too many people attack others in their replies, rather than giving a rational opposing opinion. Attacking is wrong.

Ange - posted on 12/28/2011

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Well if you don't want an opinion then you should not ask for it and that is what people are doing they ask for a opinion then when they get one they don't like or other people don't like they start fighting with that person... it is frustrating

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/28/2011

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LOL...I don't even try the phone posts...my teens tell me that I text attrociously anyway...

Rikki - posted on 11/28/2011

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Lol, trying to post from my phone doesn't make out any easier either, lol .... And you can't go back and read it before you post either....that may be where some of the confusion comes in. Maybe if I could have read my earlier post before posting, I would have tweeked it or made a better clarification. However, I just typed what was going through my head ( but at least I didn't type it all, lol)

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/28/2011

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Rikki, I'm glad I'm not the only one who has to go back in and finish my posts...LOL...sometimes my fingers are quicker than my head...

Ange - posted on 11/28/2011

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and it is a shame that people have to be reminded of that.... You ask for an opinion people give it and that person OR other people do not like what you said I know this one tread there I responded then got attack cause I simply stated my opinion on the matter then now I have read some more comments on that same tread and no one else is getting attack for their statements and they are pretty much the same thoughts as mine

Rikki - posted on 11/28/2011

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I'm sorry, Sherri, if you took offense to my comment...I was trying to be nice and again you come off as taking offense. I was simply trying to point out that it was how you had come across. I was not trying to be mean. I took it as though you thought she was attacking the US, and I felt that she hadn't. Please accept my apology if you felt attacked as this was not my intention. I was just trying to say that the wording, and excessive punctuation made it seem as though you were accusing her as singling out the US, and that you had taken offense. Again, I apologize if you misunderstood my intention while I was pointing out how easy it is to take things the wrong way. I suppose we both made her point. Again, I hope everyone had a

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/28/2011

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Without going into a long rant, I agree with most. Some seem to jump in and take offense at the simplest things, even asking for clarification at times gets people attacked.

I've been known to go into a few threads and "remind" ladies that this is a board for support, not bashing.

Sherri - posted on 11/28/2011

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I only simply asked a question and she answered it quite nicely actually and clarified my question. So I didn't make any point Rikki, I think if anyone did it was you.

Rikki - posted on 11/28/2011

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Ok, there is just so much I could add, but I will sum it up to this ....short and sweet... I totally agree, don't ask for opinions if you aren't willing to be open minded and non judgmental to all who may respond...and to Sherri, I'm sorry, but you kinda made her point. I am from the US, and I did not take her post as attacking the US at all. I will leave it at that...Thank you and I hope everyone has a safe and happy holiday season.....

Ange - posted on 11/26/2011

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wasn't bashing the US I stated that I didn't know how the states works for freedom of speech that I know what Canada's is thats it US and Canada are different in their ways but since I do not live there I don't know.... But in fact I have nothing against the states when I visited the states I had no problems and any one I did speak to were really nice

Sherri - posted on 11/26/2011

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Why are you only slamming the US Ange this board has people all over the world but yet you opt to only single out Americans as the problem??????

Ange - posted on 11/26/2011

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Nope never said I didn't like the heat.... Yes it is hard to convey your feelings but yes there was one person in one conversation that stated that she would call CAS on a person... I don't I would take that as threat but there again people only see that they are right and the hell with everyone else that does not agree...... that ain't right now I have seen some other people respond to the same conversation with the same idea as me and they are not getting jumped on for it.... it is not right

Teresa - posted on 11/25/2011

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What's that old saying? "If you don't like heat, then get out of the kitchen."? We're not even threatening. It is SO hard to convey your feelings behind your comments when not in person. I think that should be taken into consideration.

Ange - posted on 11/25/2011

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yup that is exactly what I say and put in the main comment area that is what you want in the first people... I thought this was fun and great and to meet new people but man after that last conversation I don't think so people expect one thing and when it doesn't happen they get pissy

Ange - posted on 11/25/2011

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Tamara that is how I look at I want to know what the opinion is of others good or bad well there isn't really bad opinions just different lol I want to know what else is out there what I am missing and what I am not.... I have been in different conversations and other people will attack the one person for theirs and it ain't right

Ange - posted on 11/24/2011

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yup that is so true... I have been in to conversations on here and in both conversations people were attack because of their opinion didn't match their own.... pathetic I say

Amy - posted on 11/24/2011

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I agree if someone only wants to hear from people who are going to say "you're right" then they should pick up the phone and call their best friend.

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