what would you do if your child is sexually assaulted by a family member you live with? how would you deal with that family member when you find out?

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Knalidi - posted on 05/14/2012

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the even more disturbing part of this story, is the fact that the child's mother was herself sexually abused by her step father when she was younger, so she of all people shouldve been the one to prevent this from re-ocurring, because she is suposed to know how violated she felt after an ordeal which is simialr in nature to her child's story.

its just disgusting.

Louise - posted on 05/14/2012

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This is a complete and utter nightmare! I would hope that all my children (2 adults) could tell me anything and right from an early age I have been open and honest with them and taught them right from wrong. A child at the age of 8 knows that this is not how other people touch her and it is so sad that she could not go and get help from any family member, not only her mother but, grand parents or teacher. If it was me who found out this had happend to my little girl I would hang the brother out to dry no matter what. My daughter is my world and I would demand justice for her. If my husband asked me not to I would still go ahead. How could he guarantee that she was the only young child abused, you could not. Sometimes you have to do what is right, no matter what the concequences.

Knalidi - posted on 05/14/2012

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a friend of our family has a daughter who was 8 at the time (now 15yrs) and she would send her daughter to spend vacation by her dad when school was out for the summer, she got along well with her father and appeared to be happy until her uncle started fondling her. after telling her she couldnt tell anyone, he gradually starting to take things to the other level, until he started having sex with his 8year old niece, who he gave the impression that if she told anyone, something bad is going to happen to her.

one day while talking a shower, the mother notice that she was developing a strange smell, and decided to take her to the doctors, who then confirmed her worse suspicion, that her daughter had been sexually assaulted, and had an infection in her vagina. The mother was enraged, not only because of the act being performed on her daughter, but because the daughter didnt confide in her enough to tell her what her uncle was doing to her.

when the mother confronted the child's father and threatened to take his brother to court, the child's father has sworn that his brother was innocent, and threatened the child's mother to harm her if she took the matter to court. she has since neglected to go forth with the matter. this child has now turned 15 and is rebellious against her mother, and is defiantly out of control. but i wouldnt blame the child at all, because approximately 1 year after this encounter, the mother sent her right back at her dad's home when school was on vacation again.

there are so many things wrong with this scenario!
1. how could your child not confide in you enough to tell you whats happening?
2. how could a father swear his brother's innocence over his own child?
3. how to you deal with this uncle that is going to be part of your child's life?
4. what kind of mother is this, wth is she realy thinking, i dont care how much fear of his family she had, her job was to protect her offspring at all cost?
EVERYTIME I TELL TIHS STORY IT SADDENS ME!!

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