When is it to young for boy/girl sleepovers?

Airelle - posted on 01/15/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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So my 8 yr old recently became great friends with a girl from school. You would think they were twins. They recently had a "play date" and had so much fun that they wanted to sleepover. ???? I was given a hard time when a girl gave him his phone number to call and play. I told him that he had to make arrangements to play (by exchange of phone numbers)...not just drag a kid home from school. I'm just not sure when is the right age. Obviously at some point. He's just still so young and innocent.....

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Mary - posted on 01/16/2010

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My daughter is 11 and her best friend have been friends for awile they have had sleep overs many times at his house and at our house in fact that is where she is now at his house. It took alot for me to agree to this at first she was about 8 years old, but i realized that there is always an adult around i know his grandparents are good people and they have raised him right i know that my daughter knows what is right and wrong (and if i dont trust them then that may give them a reason to do something). its more about trusting that you know you did a good job teaching them. i also talk to her every day and she know that she can tell me anything and everything. i think that as she gets older things will change but for now it is camp out in the living room watching movies and playing wii.

Sherri - posted on 01/16/2010

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I have always gotten along better with boys. That was just the way it was in elementary school I was always around a group of boys. My next neighbor were always boys and i played with them. I continued on in middle school hanging around a group of boys and I never had a boyfriend. In high school i still was hanging around guys with a very few actual boyfriends. Girls didn't like me because i felt so easy around boys so when they saw me talking to their crushes boyfriends i was instantly try to steal them. I wasn't boyfriends were not what interested me in school. too much conflict.

Sherri - posted on 01/16/2010

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I'm very sensitive about his subject because a very close friend of his Clare started calling him her boyfriend and she would close her doorwhen they talked on the phone. Saying they only saw each other maybe 3 or 4 times a year. They met one day on an outing to Golden Gate Park and became instant friends i would say maybe even soul mates. They were holding hands and talking and you could barely seperate them.The mother decided they could no longer be friends at all.

You know have a sleep over you can keep on eye on them. I mean you have another parent to talk to about it. See what her mom thinks. You are also the best judger of your son and the mom of the girl is hers so talk to her. I also know that the curiousity issue goes on in school yards too.

Helen - posted on 01/16/2010

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im not sure really hun my eldest is 6 nearly an hasnt asked for boy sleep over if she asked at 8 i think i would only let her if it was a very good just friend but i still aint sure at any age if diff sex sleep over is ok obviously wen its there bf an over 16 maybe u could ask the other parent she wat her veiws r on this my sister has a 13 yr old boy an her best friend has a daughter the same age they do have sleep overs however they ave been very good friends since nursery more like bro an sis they both think the ideas of bein with each other bf an gf is disgusting i do think it is ok to ave a bessie m8 of diff sex which ever u decide id take causion as they r curious at that age id b tempted to make my any of my girls boy friend to sleep in my sons bed room after they ave had fun and r ready to go sleep

Julie - posted on 01/16/2010

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My daughter will be 9 soon, and she is hvaing her first proper sleepover next Saturday......
She is only inviting 3 friends, and she has known them since she was at baby nursery.
I don't think I could let her have a sleepover with someone she had just made friends with, no matter how close they are.

Danielle - posted on 01/15/2010

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even though he is young and innocent, that is definitely the age of questions. Boys and girls get curious about each other. I still remember playing "I'll show you mine if you show me yours" at 7 years old. I was a good kid, just trying to figure things out. There's nothing wrong with them being good friends and playing together, but I suggest you always keep a watch on what's going on. I wouldn't do sleepovers or let them play with the door shut. It's better to be ahead of the game than be blind sighted. I have four kids 11,10,2,& 1. I am that way with my older kids. Even when they were little. There's no age limit to when it starts. Every child is different.

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