when spanking for discipline do you put over your knee or how and bare bottom or not?

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I spank over-the-knee with my hand on the bare bottom. My daughter hasn't needed to go there yet, but my son has had two sessions on the side of my bed. I think it makes perfect sense to spank on the bare. Why would I not wish to actually see what I was doing?

In both cases, I gave a dozen smacks (age X 2) from cheek to cheek, finishing with three down low where the bottom and legs come together. The spanking stings and reddens the bum, and the tears are real. But my son knew why I was spanking him, and the spankings he got taught him a lesson. If that isn't the object of the exercise, I don't know what is.

Anna - posted on 11/15/2012

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I'm a firm believer of spanking. That is what's wrong with kids now they don't get them anymore. My daughter will be 10 soon and I use a paddle like they have in schools, but not bare bottomed. I make her grab her ankles. She's too big to put over my knee. After a few of those, you won't have to use it any more just the threat of it works.

Michael - posted on 11/27/2013

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I've smacked my daughters bottom she defies me sometimes I've had her over my knee tonite

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/15/2012

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Ok, WAS sufficient...mine are 18 & 14 now

Bonham - posted on 06/08/2016

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My wife does the spanking in our house. 2 girls 16 and 14, I think they are to old for me to be present. As she spanks over the knee hairbrush, pj's down before bed. The squeals make me feel guilty sometimes. My wife says it's the only way they will learn, who is right? Comments appreciated.
Daniel and Harriet.
danielmann53@Gmail.com

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Rachel Louise - posted on 02/09/2017

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I was still spanked at your age so I would say certainly if discipline works for you

Anthony - posted on 02/06/2017

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i was aged four and very naughty in that i put an item of my fathers into the livingroom fire he found me doing it and spanked my bare bottom until lt looked like blood red and crying my eyes out accross his knee! with a very sore bare bottom

Otis - posted on 01/27/2017

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Children should always be spanked bare bottom hurts more don't have to use much force you can see how red so you know when to stop. My so called mother would make me pull down my pants once my pants hit my ankles she would with her left hand grab my wrist pull me over and towards her knee keeping me bent over once at her knee with her right hand thumb and forefinger she would slide her thumb right down my tailbone under the waist band of my underpants clasp her thumb and forefinger together pull out and down on my underpants and down they go to my ankles over her knee and she starts spanking. Started being spanked at age 6 to 16 always bare bottom.

This is for the person says they cane Thier kids my opinion that's too harsh instead use a switch on their bare bottom get better results.

Sandra Van - posted on 01/22/2017

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I spank my girls thoroughly with a hairbrush and with a belt on the bare bottom

Amy - posted on 01/18/2017

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Hi Michelle, normally over trousers and skirts. bare bottom is not an acceptable norm in Asian culture :) Cheers A

Michelle_williams - posted on 01/18/2017

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do you cane over their knickers or underpants or trousers/skirts?

Amy - posted on 01/15/2017

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I cane my kids over clothing as bare bottom is not an acceptable norm in Asian culture. My kids are required to bend over and touch their toes so their bottoms are well presented to cane. If they incorporate I will increase the number of strokes.

Xlbx19 - posted on 12/29/2016

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For the mom who smacks their child in private sand invites family to smack them, YOU NEED HELP. I HOPE YOUR CHILDREN ARE TAKEN FROM YOU. You are disgusting and a horrible parent!!

Bonham - posted on 12/06/2016

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Contact my wife Harriet, she would like to talk with you.
harrietdaniel03@googlemail.com

Michelle_williams - posted on 11/26/2016

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when I spank it's always bare bottom. I use a cane or brush when necessary and those underpants or knickers always come down so I can monitor the effects of the spanking. Its also more painful and of course children hate it so it's a good deterrent as well.

Dan - posted on 11/01/2016

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We spank our oldest boy, age 9 with the hairbrush and strap. My wife gives him the first half of a spanking over her lap with the hairbrush on his bare hiney I finish his spanking using a strap to whip his hiney, usually while he is standing.

We spank our younger kids with a ruler and a tiny strap. They have to take off all their clothes and we put them on their back. then we lift up the legs and my wife uses a ruler to spank the hiney and thighs in the diaper position, and I use a tiny strap on the hiney and thighs..

Chris - posted on 10/28/2016

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I spank my son bare bottom.

It's necessary to do as this for a best attitude later...

Silversun24210 - posted on 10/22/2016

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You have got to be kidding....right?!?!? Please tell me this is a joke!!!! I am referring to the post that says they spank their child in the privates & call over family members to join in.

Chelsea - posted on 10/21/2016

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I spank mine over my knees and yes bare bottom. It's easy to see and know when to stop.

Stephanie - posted on 10/18/2016

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Like most here I always spank them bare bottomed, usually bare from the waist down. Always across my knee, gives me more control and allows me to see the results.

Georgia - posted on 09/15/2016

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My kids are older now, but I used to spank them over my knee. I didn't agree with the idea of bare bottom spanking. I usually took down their pants and spanked them over their underwear. I didn't like to use an object, I preferred to use my hand. However, I will admit there were a couple of times that I spanked my son with a belt.

DTHW - posted on 09/01/2016

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Seriously consider other forms of discipline, not punishment. It takes a great deal of education and effort to be an effective parent and I can understand why spanking is considered to be useful. It appears to be effective, quick, easy... It is in the short run, but the psychological damage is long term and will last into adulthood. If you have problems with your teen or adult children, it can be directly linked back to child abuse and spanking qualifies. It sounds liberal and soft but the research is there. I couldn't believe it at first myself but the more I educated myself in the topic the more I am convinced that any form of physical abuse is wrong. Please consider the more difficult effortful parenting techniques that provide the best long term pay off. You will have better relationships with your children in life... Think about when you are old. There are many people rotting in nursing homes because their adult children resent them and disrespect them for reasons that can be traced back to their childhood and I'm not talking late childhood. Parenting begins at conception. It's to your benefit to bond appropriately with your offspring, your DNA. Would you hurt yourself like this? For anyone who doesn't hesitate with some guilt before or even after they inflict this pain, or who is proud of it, you may be a sociopath.

Sandra Elaine - posted on 08/26/2016

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Oops! Sorry , I meant to say there's no point in smacking a bottom unless it's completely bare(not not bare) Sandra

Sandra Elaine - posted on 08/26/2016

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When I was a teenager I got spanked (and sometimes more than spanked )over my Mum's knee right up to age 17 . Mum used to use a mixture of the paddle and a Pearson hairbrush .I had to actually at a preset time knock on the study door and specifically ask to be punished and then present my bare bottom for punishment. It was extremely humiliating but on reflection I think humiliation has to be part of the punishment otherwise punishments would be ineffective and there's no point in smacking a bottom unless it is not completely bare which means knickers MUST come down .Let this be a lesson to those permissive society circle of moms. .Regards Sandra
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Rachel Louise - posted on 07/18/2016

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I was always spanked this way. My dad used a big wooden brush or cane

David - posted on 07/16/2016

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I will also say that spanking teenagers on the bare bottom doesn't seem right there to old for that and again I think that if somebody is still spanking them all the time at that age the is something wrong.

David - posted on 07/16/2016

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I will say this though that a spanking should not be always the first option I think if somebody spanks every time then it's not as effectiive. Then it's like I was bad pull my pants down bend over for another spanking. I have spanked my child maybe 4 times on her bare bottom when ther things were not being effective and now she so does not want to get spanked again she hardly ever does anything in defiance. When she does now I can talk to her and punish her in other ways and when she gets out of hand I tell her this continues I an taking you upstairs to spank your bottom and she doesn't get to that point anymore. I think spanking to much builds a wall but t\kids knowing these is that option is really effective.

Bridget - posted on 07/12/2016

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You are very uneducated. Pulling a child's pants down and beating them bare bottom is sexual abuse. My daughter had autism. I can't tell you how difficult it was. I never once had it in me to ever hurt another individual in a sexual way.. Instead of being demanding and commanding.. try to make it fun. Kids like that. My daughter has come to the point where she no longer has signs of autism. I believe it was sue to unconditional love and constant encouragement accompanied by excitement for positive behavior. I not only feel bad for you for not being able to enjoy your children that way.. but also for them not having happy parents.
My parents were big on beating with a belt with my brother's and I's pants pulled down. We disassociated during the beatings. This led to problems with attention, disassociation, and negative emotional flashbacks that are paralyzing to an individual.
I beg you please don't hit your kids... it is so much fun to appreciate them and partly be a coach as a parent. Do you really want to beat your parents. Beating fosters depression, social anxiety, promoted violence towards oneself and others. Please don't be the one to hurt you kid that way. They deserve real love.

YESSENIA - posted on 07/07/2016

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I AM FIRM BEILEVER IN A BARE BOTTOM SPANKING. THOSE TYPE OF SP,ANKING I DO THEM WITH LOVE. IF IS SOMETHING VERY BAD I TAKE MY KIDS TO MY ROOM AND PULL DOWN THEIR PANTS & UNDERWEAR ALL THE WAY TO THE KNEES AND THEN I TAKE OFF MY BELT AND THEN SPANK THEM. IF IS SOMETHING NOT THAT I TAKE THEM TO MY ROOM AND PUT MY KIDS ON MY LAP AND PULL DOWN THEIR PANTS & UNDERWEAR ALL THE WAY TO THE KNEES AND THEN TAKE OFF MY FLIP FLOP OFF AND THEN SPANK THEM. THE ONLY REASON I SPANK THEM THAT WAY IS BECAUSE ME AND HUSBAND GOT SPANKED LIKE THAT WHEN WE LIKE AROUND ARE KIDS AGE. ME AND MY HUSBAND GOT OUR BARE BOTTOM SPANKING FROM THE AGES OF 4-18 AND IT THAUGHT US A LESSON NOT BE BAD NO MORE.
~YESSENIA DIAZ

Magic - posted on 06/22/2016

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y would u spank a 16 and 14 year old girl naked? Otk spanking is very sexual and should never be used on anyone under the age of 18. and for a start 14 and 16 are young adult stages of a teenagers life so think about what ur doing before u get yourself into trouble for abuse

JULIA - posted on 06/22/2016

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My daughters are 16 and 14, and I spank them naked, with a paddle, between 4 and 8 swats depending on the offence.

I was always spanked naked by my mom until I was 17, and almost always with my stepdad present. The embarrassment was almost worse than the punishment.

Holly - posted on 06/18/2016

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your wife is right keep spanking them lets chat holly divorcedmommy@gmail.com

David - posted on 06/13/2016

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Yes bare bottom over the knee I use a plastic spoon it stings a lot I don't have to hit very hard and she learns fast.

Katy - posted on 04/27/2016

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i allways use over the knee , for more control and can see the results

Leah - posted on 04/23/2016

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I always spank over my knee. I find it easiest to handle my girls and I think a very traditional way to discipline. And I always spank bare bottom. Most effective in getting my message across and allows me to monitor how red I am making her bottom.

Tony - posted on 04/02/2016

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Why are you asking us? Nobody has the right to spank you but your husband and that's only if you want it.

Tony - posted on 04/02/2016

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I agree. I think the perverts have moved in. I am not against spanking but what I am reading is quite disturbing.

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