When your 16 yr. old wants wants wants, you.........

Elaine - posted on 11/06/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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If your 16 yr. old wants a job but is picky about where they will work, what do you do or say?

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Angie - posted on 11/07/2009

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If they are not involved in a sport or extra activity at school, then why aren't they working? If you don't start teaching them now that you have to work for what you want then it will be a bigger issue later. My 16-year old is the same way and she is learning real fast. She just has to pay her own way into games, or if she wants to go to movies with friends, and she knows that when she gets a car of her own, it's not an option to have a job or not. You have a job and put your own gas in the car or no car. I also know it's important that she doesn't miss out on school functions such as games, and dances so as long as she hasn't been a jerk, then she gets to attend those. VERY hard raising teenagers these days!

Angie - posted on 11/07/2009

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I wouldn't say anything. I also wouldn't buy anything beyond her basic needs. If she wants a new pair of shoes, she'll have to buy them. If she wants to go out to lunch with her friends, she'll have to pay for it herself. If her car needs gas, she'll have to fill the tank herself. As Angie Williams said, her grades must come first and work will have to take a backseat to that. She's old enough to learn to mangage money and I'm sure she'll do great once she gets started.

Angie - posted on 11/06/2009

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you support them, or you can tell them that they could give one of the jobs that she doesn't really want to work at a chance till she can find something better, that way she is making some money to be able to get some of the thing that she would like to get or if she is driving to be able to put gas in the car. And if she doesn't have a car that she can save up for one that way she will apprecate it more.

I would also let her know that if she does work that her school grades are to stay up and if they fall below what you know she can do, that she will have to quit work till her grades are back up and stay up.

Amber - posted on 11/06/2009

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I think it's important to let them know that it's important to enjoy your work but if there isn't an immediate job opening and they're wanting that extra cash they may have to work somewhere that's not a first choice until that "dream" job becomes available.

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