where babys come from!! how do i tell my 8 yr old with out scaring him!!

Lisa - posted on 09/04/2010 ( 22 moms have responded )

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my 8 yr old son is at the stage where he wants to know all about "the birds & bee's" how can i explain things to him without scaring him! i had an easy explaination on how babys come out of mammy's tummy i had 2 c -sections!!! any advice would be really welcome xxxxxxxxx

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Kelly - posted on 09/08/2010

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i explained women have eggs men sperm when they make love they connect to help create a baby then briefly how they grow and emerge

Patience - posted on 09/04/2010

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Well, if they ask how they got in your belly. I told my 6 and 4 year old that when a mommy and daddy love each other so much that there love was so much that there was a baby in the belly. It was because of all the love that they had that put the baby there to make another life. Which is kinda true, leaving out all the stuff that make freak them out. If you have a c-section that is where they come out of, if not then a dr. just has to see the mommy and the baby comes with out with help from a dr.

Racheal - posted on 09/08/2010

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be as honest as you can in an age appropriate way and use real words, like vagina and penis not pee pee or wee wee or anything, proper words are healthy for them to know

Crystal - posted on 09/07/2010

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I think being honest is the best policy. If you don't tell him, he will learn from his peers at school and they don't really know anything. Parents should not feel ashamed of talking about sex at an early age. I mean don't get to graphic, but they need to know. I have even talked to my daughter about masturbation. I don't go into a lot of detail, but I open the doors for her to ask me more later on. I think it is very important to stay calm cause if you don't they won't feel comfortable talking to you about it. Here is a couple websites on a lady that was on the Oprah show. I really like it...You may not...It is all about your preference. Good luck...



http://www.oprah.com/relationships/Downl...



http://www.oprah.com/relationships/Talki...

Tara - posted on 09/07/2010

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Firstly, be honest and chilled out about it. Dont make a fuss. Due to his youbg age, I would keep it simple, hopefully you will find it will satisfy him. Leave it then till he asks again. There are many excellent books on the market that are useful as an aid to explaining the birds and bees. My youngest is 9 and thankfully only periodically asks me questions but my 11 year old is very interested. We have open, natural chats about it, and wot is nice is that I can also stress the importance of love and affection in a relationship and not just sex. You'll find that you are more embarrased than your child. You dont want your children having a complex about sex, or going to other people as they feel uncomfortable asking you, God only knows what other people may fill his head with. Good luck, remember, no big deal, chill and be honest but keep it simple, let him lead you. xx

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Samantha - posted on 11/16/2013

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I knew where baby came form I was 6 or 7 year you guys sound tell him about he if ask he aunt or uncle or your and his dad friend or his teacher about they tell him the true huh think of that

Marlana - posted on 07/06/2013

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My 8 yr old son asked me last night .. Mom, where do babies come from? I first said my belly -- He said NO. "How do they come out, your butt"??? I said No way Christian. I said umm.. "the stork" he said whats that? I said a bird? He said "yeah right" ! I changed the subject and I said maybe you should talk to your dad? (we have been separated since he was a tiny baby) we both are remarried. He begged me please, don't tell my dad? I don't know what do to? He still believes in Santa Claus so I don't think its really time to have the birds and bees talk?? Could someone please help? I'm not comfortable with how the conversation was left? I want him to always feel he can talk to me?

Christy - posted on 09/09/2010

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There's a book called 'Everything You Never Wanted Your Kids to Know, But Were Afraid They'd Ask'. It deals with sex conversations through the teenage years.

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When I was pregnant with my second baby Nathan (age 5 @ the time) went shopping for a pram at Baby & Co. When the sales person came to assist Nathan said to me " Mom, is he going to show you where they keep there babies" LOL

Yamira - posted on 09/07/2010

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I as well have an 8 year old and she also is very curious about the bird and the bees!...but since I have a girl I think it is easier to talk to a girl only because she can relate to me in certain things...like certain body parts....so I have always been honest and open with my daughter on certain things like where babies come from a Mommy!...I let her watch those baby shows on TLC or Discovery Health and she was very interested in it!..she was never scared!..In fact I had a baby boy 8 months ago and I really wanted her to witness the birth of her brother, but the hospital's policy was to have only two people in there with me...She is getting a little more curious as to how does Mommy get the baby in her tummy!....I don't think it is time yet to tell her because I think she is still too young!...I hope to be as open with my Boy when he gets older too!...but I am sure you will make a good choice about what to tell him!...Good Luck!

Kris - posted on 09/07/2010

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tell him that they come from mommies and daddies... if you believe in god and are religious tell him they come from god. If he wants more details tell him that god puts the baby in a mommy's belly and that is where it comes from.... you could also say from the hospital... I always find that my kids want to know something and I give them a very simple answer and they are fine with it and go on to the next thing... If they were to want more detail there are books and videos but I would probably just tell them thata man and a woman make a baby and that doing so is called sex. Then the mother has a baby 9 months later.

Sherri - posted on 09/07/2010

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Wow way to much information for a young child Victoria. IMO My kids didn't learn that much until they were 12yrs old.

Our kids don't learn about actual sex here until around 8th grade school. Our 5th graders learn about the body changes but that is all until then.

Genevieve - posted on 09/07/2010

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my son 5years believes that you have to first pray to God to get the 'big stomach' and have a baby. But you can try from the angle of God creating all human beings and if you read the bible, children are Parents' gifts from Heaven. Also tell them that God knew them before He created them in the mother's womb or tummy, then when he starts learning about sex in school, you can explain further. But please take one day at a time.

Victoria - posted on 09/06/2010

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Explain the basics first. That boys and girls have different parts. Then tell him that when a grown up man and grown up woman really love each other, that the boy part fits inside the girl part, and that puts a baby in the woman's tummy. Worked for my six year old daughter, but more questions are sure to follow. I will not wait until other kids are telling mine about sex for me to tell them. I want to be honest and upfront from the beginning, that way they always know that no matter how awkward for either of us, I will always do what I can to give them an honest answer. This is totally candid, without scaring the poor child.

Steffanie - posted on 09/06/2010

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Be as honest as you can. I had to explain it to my five year old when I was pregnant. I told him the truth, in the most easily understanding words. It is a natural thing, and explain it like that. Explain mommies and daddies do that when they love each other. You can also get a book explaining it. It depends on your beliefs, how you feel about it, and your morals are concerning sexual activities. I told my son that when mommies and daddies love each other, they do that. It is kind of up to you....

Amanda - posted on 09/06/2010

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this is something i encountered with my three girls and found it ok to explain to them but i have a 2 year old son and i think i would be the same i guess you have 2 chioces 1st let your husband explain or go to you local library and ask if they have a book for younger children this may help best of luck i hope this helps

Diana - posted on 09/06/2010

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I watch Maury all the time with my son in the living room and of course 80% of Maury shows are paternity shows. I was suprised to see all the information he got from it. He'll ask me why the girl had sex with a lot of guys and ask me who's the father. He even ask me if me and his dad went to the show, would Maury say his dad was his father. He has ideas of what sex is - like cuddling naked but doesn't really know. He still believes that babies are in heaven with Jesus until Jesus decides to put a baby in the mom's stomach. I have no idea on how that idea was put in his head but he tells me about it but Maury puts different ideas in his head also. I just tell him that a girl and boy has to be in love and kiss alot to have a baby. I'm surprised by all the information he knows. I told him a year and a half ago that doctors cuts moms' stomachs to take out babies but he has learned a lot and recently asked me questions like "mom if you can't push out the baby, the doctor will cut your stomach open huh?" I think sooner or later they will find out. I would just avoid telling them about the actual intercourse of boy entering girl.

Sabrina - posted on 09/06/2010

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I sympathize. I have a 6 yo and a 3 yo and that is a bridge we haven't crossed yet. But we are getting close. We know several pregnant women and our 6 yo thinks that they eat the baby and that's how the baby gets in their belly. I've gone with a simple explanation for now, that the daddy puts the baby in the belly, and that when the baby gets bigger the doctor takes the baby out. She seems ok with that explanation for now, and we'll get into the details later.....hopefully much later.

Sylvia - posted on 09/05/2010

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What Angie said. When my DD (who is 8) asks these kinds of questions, I usually find she didn't actually want as much information as I was going to give her ;^)

Angie - posted on 09/05/2010

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He probably isn't interested in the nitty gritty. Ask him what he already knows and ask him what exactly he wants to know.

Sherri - posted on 09/04/2010

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You can explain that babies grow in your tummy and normally they are born out of your vagina unless woman are like you and then the C-Section. I have to explain this to my now 12yr old at 7yrs old when his brother was born and he had loads of questions. I was just honest but never went into any sex talk as he was not ready and will only be discussing that with him this year.

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