Worried Mom of 12 yearl old son..Help!

Sandra - posted on 11/19/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My son just turned 12 this month and for the past couple of months I've noticed a change in him that I don't like and I am concerned. He's always been this happy go lucky kid and he still is, but lately he's been moody, tired all the time and can't sleep, and never feels well. I don't know if he's going through puberty, having depression or anxiety or if there is something going on in school. When I ask him, he gets upset with me for asking. I don't know what to do. Mother's intuition feels something is not quite right. I need some advice on talking with him so he will open up to me. I must add he does well in school as he made honor roll this term and has good friends. The nurse from his school has called me twice this school year for me to pick him up due to stomach ache, but when he comes home he eats mac n cheese or a bowl of chef boy r dee and plays play station!!, but he will still tell me he doesn't feel good. I just know something is amiss. Should I bring him to his Pediatrician, but with me in the room, he may not say anything and I don't just want to send him to a therapist..How do I handle this?? Help!

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Amy - posted on 11/19/2012

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Does your school have a school psychologist? Can you speak with them? Since the nurse calls you in the afternoon I would find out what classes or specials happen in the afternoon? Is it the same day everytime or different days, there could be something or someone that is bothering him. I also wouldn't let him be playing playstation if he came home from school sick, he can lay down and rest. You can also do a consultation with your pediatrician and see what he says without your son being there. I've also just had to do this for my son and he referred me to a child psychologist to help in my situation. The reason I did it without my son being present because he would of had an anxiety attack at the doctors and shut down if I did it with him there.

Lakota - posted on 11/19/2012

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The frustration he shows you is probably his age and puberty. My son just turned 13 and gets moody also. I personally think it's the preteen thing he's going through. That being said, don't stop trying to get him to talk to you and/or his dad. If he gets frustrated, don't let that stop you. Some parents will let up because they want to keep the peace. Start many conversations off with him about his interests and other things and then slowly bring up things you are concerned about. The conversation can remain a calm one if you stay calm, concerning, and positive. The age he is at is the "testing" age. Don't give in or let up.

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Sandra - posted on 11/19/2012

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Yes, Jackie, he has his Dad and I.., but gets frustrated when we ask him questions...

Jackie - posted on 11/19/2012

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I would start with his pediatrician, to rule out changes in his hormones. But you know your child better then anyone and if you feel like somthing is wrong then you are right. Is there an adult male that you and he both trust that could mabey talk to him?

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