would you let ur 6yr. olkd fly by herself? why or why not?

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Erika - posted on 06/26/2011

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My daughter, who is now 19 years old has flown by herself since she was 5 years old and she says she loved it! She says, "the flight attendants were great!"

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Robbin - posted on 07/13/2011

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It still is an option starting at age 5.

I would let mine fly alone or with each other (7, 9 & 11). Our family is spread all over the US. My children have also been on planes since they were little. We have been on flights as long as 12 hours, so an hour or two flight would be nothing for them!

Becky - posted on 07/05/2011

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I don't think it's even an option for me. The airlines here have gotten rid of the unaccompanied minor status after a big screw-up with a 5 year old child. (I can't remember the exact details.) So you can no longer send a child on a flight alone without an adult accompanying them. I probably wouldn't anyways though.

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When I was 10 my parents sent me to stay with a family in France for a month. I got on a plane in Canberra and flew to Sydney (1 hour), changed terminals by bus, caught a plane to Singapore (12 hours), waited at Singapore airport for 5 hours, then flew to Paris (14 hours). I seem to remember that I was travelling for something like 36 hours altogether by the end of it.



I wouldn't recommend this to anybody, and there wasn't even a desperate reason for me to do this trip. My parents just thought it would be nice for me to learn French and get some independance. But at 10??



All I can say it was 1975 and things must have been different then.



I survived the experience, and was really proud of myself, but was extremely tired and emotional on arrival!

Amanda - posted on 07/04/2011

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It's all a matter of opinion :) Please do let the judge know, especially if there aren't provisions in the order for safe travel. I've never been in the position to HAVE to put my child on a plane to see his dad because his dad hasn't been involved since he was a year old. I don't have faith in the airport/airline capabilities because my extended family has had a negative experience. My adult aunt was lost in an airport for awhile. How awful would you feel getting that call about your child - "I'm sorry to inform you Teresa, but little *___* was "misplaced" for several minutes after landing."

Sylvia - posted on 07/02/2011

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It would depend on the 6-year-old, and the reason for the trip. I don't think it's any more dangerous for a 6-year-old to fly alone than for her to fly with a parent, but I think for a lot of kids that age, and especially for one who hasn't flown a lot before, it would be a scary and overwhelming experience.

A 6-year-old with a responsible older kid, sure. An older kid (say 9 or 10), sure. (Again, depending on the reason for the trip. If for some reason I was sending DD out to stay with my parents, for example, I see no reason to spend hundreds of dollars more on airfare for me or DH or one of my parents to accompany her back and forth. But it's unlikely we would be in that situation in the first place.) I know when I was not much older than DD (who's turning 9 next month), my sister invited me to come stay with her family and my mom wouldn't let me go on my own -- in fact, she wouldn't let me even when I was quite a bit older -- and I really resented it, because I so rarely got to spend time with my sister. I thought then, and I still think, that I would have been just fine travelling on my own. Then again, though, I wasn't 6. At 6 I was pretty scatter-brained :P

So, yeah -- depends on the 6-year-old.

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Negligent, huh Amanda? I'll be sure to let the judge know that you think that... since it was HIS decision to make my kids fly alone. ;)

Teresa - posted on 07/02/2011

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The first time I flew by myself I was 7 and a flight attendant(female) accompanied me the whole time, she HAD to. I sat right next to the flight attendant station, got to see the cockpit (This was the 70's) and got wings. I wasn't never scared and it was a short fllght, maybe an hour. NOW, I would feel VERY uncomfortable letting my 7 year old go by himself. If the plane crashed or had an accident, I would NEVER be able to forgive myself and just the thought of him being afraid and wanting mommy at that time would kill me. SO I guess it's how comfortable you feel with it. My parents did, but that was 35 years ago.

Bevely - posted on 06/30/2011

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I couldn't imagine letting my 9 year old fly alone, much less a 6 year old. Maybe a 12 year old if they were mature and responsible for their age.

Erika - posted on 06/26/2011

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I agree Sherri... Negligent is harsh... I had court order visitation however, we had rules. We would only place her on direct flights and we would meet her at the gate. The procedures for an unaccompanied minor are great and they utilize extreme security to ensure the safety of your child. I would always be a nervous wreck because I was concerned about the plane crashing or something crazy happening and she'd be alone but with everything in life all I could do is be prayerful!

Amanda - posted on 06/26/2011

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I would NEVER allow my 6 yr. old to fly by himself. He will be 7 in October and we've just started allowing him to ride his bike around the corner by himself and play outside unattended (but still checked on). I also wouldn't be ok with paying the extra fee to have someone working for the airlines ride with him. My developmentally disabled aunt flew with the ride-along aide and was "lost" in the airport for over an hour before the aide found her. It's just too risky for me to be ok. Maybe at 13 or 14 I would be ok with it, but I personally feel that if you let a child any younger fly alone then you are being negligent.

Sherri - posted on 06/26/2011

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NO NO NO NO NO!!! I wouldn't let my 14 yr old fly by himself never mind a 6yr old. That is lunacy.

User - posted on 06/24/2011

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Not a 6 yr old but my 10yr old flew alone twice on 1hr flight. I requested the airline to have a lady passenger sit next to her. She did fine. She had a cell phone with gps on it, our business cards/numbers, money and she had memorized the destination address and phone numbers.

User - posted on 06/24/2011

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Not a 6 yr old but my 10yr old flew alone twice on 1hr flight. I requested the airline to have a lady passenger sit next to her. She did fine. She had a cell phone with gps on it, our business cards/numbers, money and she had memorized the destination address and phone numbers.

Heather - posted on 05/16/2011

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My oldest daughter was 12 when she flew as an unaccompanied minor. It involved a transfer and she had an airline attendant with her every step. She was very mature for her age and did very well. We have younger children now approaching that same age range. They will not travel without me, they are not as emotionally mature and the world is a lot scarier place than it was 10 years ago :(

Jenn - posted on 05/14/2011

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Never in a million years NO WAY!! To much room for error and a six year old does not have the best judgement in potentially dangerous situations..I cannot even fathom letting a six year old board a plane and fly somewhere by themselves... This world is so f'ed...Mothers get in trouble for letting their six year old go on the subway or walk to school alone but then there are people who allow their six year old to fly alone??? WTF?

Candyce - posted on 05/13/2011

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NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO, a thousand times NO! I know my son and I know how many things can happen to a small child by himself, no matter how many friendly flight attendants are around. If he must get on a plane, ya damn skippy I'm going to be right there with him, until he's at least 16 and shows a good measure of maturity and responsibility.

Blessed Be

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Yeah sure! I sent my kids from Sydney to Perth (5 hours) when they were 8 and 6. They loved it. I'd think twice about sending a 6 year old by herself though - depending on how mature and competent she is.

PS What's OLKD?

Jen - posted on 05/13/2011

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No; I wouldn't. But I have no reason to let my children fly on their own. Its easy to say no.

If I had to; I would only do it if I got the airline to provide someone to sit with the child. Some airlines have people who can take care of the children from the gate you wave good bye at.....sit with them on the plane..and then walk them over to the people picking them up.

That way you know the children are being watched out for; and the airline will be held responsible if anything happened. So good chance they pick these people to fly with kids with care.

Plus, I'd talk about saftey with the kids; and stranger-danger etc etc. Like just because this person is flying with you; doesn't mean you can go into the bathroom alone with them etc.

Alicia - posted on 05/12/2011

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I think it really depends on the child. Mine has been flying for years on her own. We were very clear about stranger dangers and what she should do to be safe. the flight attendants have always been amazingly careful and she knows that she doesn't go with any attendants anywhere either. I take her to her plane, her dad picks her up and no one else is allowed to take her anywhere else. Make sure you know how your child feel about flying alone too! She was more honest about her fears than i expected.

Amy - posted on 05/07/2011

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Personally, I would say NO. No matter the age, children should never ever fly by themselves until mid to late teens. The way things are today, there are too many child predators and if a child was to be approached by someone of that nature, he/she is too innocent to know right from wrong. To prevent anything like that from happening a child, boy or girl, needs security and saftey that we as parents should provide either from ourselves or a trusted adult.

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NO WAY!!! It would be out of the question for my LOs. A million things could go wrong. At the very least, you don't know anything about who's sitting next to them on the plane!

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 05/05/2011

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Yeah I wouldn't feel comfortable........ period. No. There's no way. If anything happened, I'd be devistated and blame myself. I couldn't live with it

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If I had a choice.... no. It's not something I'm personally comfortable w/ doing.

My girls (at 8.5) flew by themselves last summer to see their dad. Now that my 3 year old son goes... their father has to accompany them on all flights until my son is 5. That is the youngest age that he can fly as an unaccompanied minor. Thankfully when that happens he will have two 11 year old sisters to accompany him as well. :)

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