6 1/2 week old sleeps with me

Nikki - posted on 03/01/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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How do i start getting my son to sleep by himself at night, he loves to be cuddled he hates to be alone and i am not sure how to even start. I just want him sleeping in his crib before he is rolling, its silly but this is my 4th child and my others were very independent from birth. any ideas out there:??

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My son is now 10, he still comes in with us some nights - he needs the comfort. I stopped fighting it when he was about 2 because I needed sleep. All kids are different - I have friends who are against it and others who are like me, just go with it. You don't know what its like till you have a child who just needs that extra comfort - so give it to them!

Heather - posted on 03/07/2010

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The sooner the better. What if he got rolled on? So many things can happen. That is one of the biggest SIDS dangers. Try getting him a womb bear and swaddle him real good when you put him down. Maybe rub his blanket on your skin first so it has your smell strongly on it. I hope this is helpful. Good Luck!! :)

Darcy - posted on 03/07/2010

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I am with Racheal, these times don't come back, it seems like we Americans are the ones who put kids in their own beds. i know I don't know enough research, but I have been learning so much from a friend of mine who is training to be a midwife. She has 5 children, her youngest being 4 and they all sleep in their own beds now and are very secure kids. I used to think that there was no way that my kids were going to sleep with me but I wish now I had followed my mommy gut instead. My friend says that something she used to do was put them in their beds at first but when they wake up the first time then she would nurse them in her bed. I think you should not try to look to what might happen, but enjoy what is happening now and he will slowly get longer in his bed. Thats just my opinion.

Sara - posted on 03/06/2010

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I was thinking like Deana. I used to take a warm blanket and tuck it against one side of my son, it made him feel like someone was there.

Abbey - posted on 03/06/2010

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Well my daughter is almost nine months old and when I first brought her home I had her crib fixed all nice right beside my bed. I brought her home and laid her down to sleep in it and the wails began. She wouldn't even begin to sleep in it alone. So I let her sleep with me. She would lie down on her own for naps but when nighttime came she wanted to sleep with me. I became ill with my gallbladder when she was only three weeks old and had to leave her with my mom. She was afraid of sleeping with her since it had been so long since she had slept with a little one, so she let her sleep in her carseat at night. It worked!! So for the fist few months I let her sleep in her carseat. I then began to wean her into a bassinet, it took several nights but she finally slept in it without crying. After she began pulling up to sit up I began to put her in her crib bed during naps and such and she is sleeping in her crib now. She occasionally wakes up in the night and I put her in the bed with me. But I think her insecurities were because the crib was so big and open. Hopefully I gave you some helpful information.

Rachael - posted on 03/06/2010

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Don't even bother! Keep him in bed with you. There is lots of research on brain development which supports being responsive to the needs of your child. Some children need to sleep with their mums and others do not. It is not you - it seems to be the child. I have one of each. Harrison slept by himself always, Abbigail needed me. All the advice to the contrary just made me feel inadequate.
Enjoy these nights. They don't come back.

Deana - posted on 03/02/2010

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Routine helps, but with 4 kids, having a serious routine for an infant is nearly impossible. :) We started focusing on our son's nap time first as being alone in his crib to introduce the bed to him and being alone. Putting something with your scent on it in his bed, may help also. Have you tried those snugglies or sleep bags that zip up and they wear them like pjs? That worked wonders with our middle daughter.

We also used a sleep positioner to make our son feel like we were next to him. Hope some of these ideas might help. Some babies just need mom for longer than others outside of the womb. Hang in there.

Susan - posted on 03/02/2010

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I used to have this problem with 2 of my Sons. We used to lay beside him, on his bed, until he fell asleep and then crept out of the room. Eventually they grow out of it but it can take a while. Hope this helps.

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