baby ear piercing???

Ashley - posted on 02/04/2010 ( 18 moms have responded )

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ok i think that should be the child's decision, but the father of the baby wants it done and so does my dads gf.... does it matter? are there risks? is it easier to just do it, and if they dont want it they can make the decision to take them out? or should i stand MY ground and say i carried her for 9 months and had her, its my choice???

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Amy - posted on 02/11/2010

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This is from personal experience. My mother pierced my ears when I was 18 months old.
When I grew, so did my ears. I now how holes above my holes. I had to have my ears pierced again when I was 14, due to the fact that my ear rings where not centered due to my growth.
Same thing happened to my sister.
I say wait. Let the child grow up a bit so that her ear rings are centered correctly her entire life.

Trisha - posted on 02/10/2010

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i got my sons one ear pierced jus b4 he turned one. He loves it and doesnt mess with it.Its up to the parents. His dad also wanted it to b done. He cried for a sec til i picke dhim up..

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Chelle - posted on 02/10/2010

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I wanted to have my 1st daughters ears pierced when she was a baby but my family was against it so i waited till she asked me which was when she was around 7, we had lots of tears and she complained about pain for about a week but then she was ok. Then when my 2nd daughter was born i got her ears done when she was 1 she looked at me and her bottem lip qwivered a bit then i gave her prize and that was it she never complained again, stand your ground and do what you want she is your daughter!!

Michelle - posted on 02/10/2010

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YOu are th mom... YOU make the decision if you want to get it done early or wait for the child to decide. I personally got my daughters' ears pierced at 4 months, but I had doctors permission and stuff too.

Travita - posted on 02/10/2010

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I had my daughter's done when she was almost a year old. She cried (from the shock of the first one but was ok with the second) and I cried the entire time because she was upset. The piercing was more for me since she could not voice her opinion on it but I wanted to be able to care for them to make sure there is no problems. She is 19 now and no problems with her piercings (except trying to get it through her brain that she CAN'T WEAR CHEAP EARRINGS but that's about it - LOL). You and your husband should sit down and discuss it as her parents and come to a mutual decision because that is your (you and his) child.

User - posted on 02/09/2010

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Good points. Something people haven't mentioned is other siblings. I didn't get my daughter's done because she had preschool brothers on each side of her, one younger, one a bit older. I felt like it was too much to risk them ripping them out of her little ears. I also believe in "saving something" for when they are older to celebrate rites of passage, so to speak. I adore it in baby girls, ears, though...very cute. My daughter has gotten so scared now, sometimes I wish I'd just already had it done, but as opinionated as she is...I think it's good that it's her own choice rather than mine.

Fran - posted on 02/08/2010

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It's totally your choice Ashley. When my daughter was born I planned on getting her ears pierced her first Christmas at 8 months old. I was in Square One when she was 4 months old and there was a nurse at People's Jewellers store entrance piercing ears. I asked her the best age for ear piercing babies and she said the younger the better, so I had it done that day. A crowd formed around us, a guy walked by with his girlfriend saying 'that's criminal!' My daughter cried after the first one was done (probably more from the noise), but she had her bottle for the 2nd hole and she was fine, didn't flinch. She is now 23 years old, and has had problems with her other ear piercings but not the first set.

Heather - posted on 02/08/2010

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My son said he wanted an earing when he was two. My husband who has his ears peirced said ok. But I said we should just wait until he is a little older and can take care of it himself. And can make decisions for himself a little better. My husband agreed.
I got mine done when I was in first grade. My parents tried to talk me out of it. My mom said it would hurt and they both told me that I did not need them to be beautiful. I did not want them for beauty I just wanted to wear earings. So they concented but I had to pay for them myself and had to take care of them. I stepped up to the responsibility. And it did not hurt.
I think it is a good idea to wait till kids can really make the decision themselves.
Most of the babies that I know of that have their ears peirced early were little girls who looked like boys because they had no hair for a long time so parents got their ears done. And twins. Only one gets the ears done so people can tell them apart.

Geraldine - posted on 02/07/2010

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Mmmmm, maybe the father will feel offended if you say it is your choice only. What about : Your protecting your child's right to make her own choices towards her body. When she is old enough to make such a decision, it is her choice. I was a teen when I got mine, today I'm not happy that I did, but it was my choice, so I can't blame my mom ;D Lucky for me, my husband is very protective of his daughter and said to other people who was pressuring us that God gave her to him to protect and not to scar her (mentally or physically) You wouldn't tattoo her, would you? Ear piercing is highly fasionable today for babies and kids, but it doesn't make it right. I haven't worn earrings for 13 years now, and although the holes has closed, you can still see them.

Good luck with your decision !

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As a Mom, I think you need to sit down with the Dad and have a serious discussion. My MIL wanted it done, and I flat out refused. I explained that babies have so much going on to begin with, adding an ear piercing to take care of seemed to be just 1 more thing to take care of. Then I explained that I felt it was a right of passage - most girls in my family got it done between 10 - 12 yrs - and I wanted Emma to have that same experience. I then found out that she wanted to buy Emma her 1st set of earrings, and I told that she certainly could if/when Emma decided to have her ears pierced. This was actually a hot button issue because my MIL pushed it every time she talked to my husband while I was pregnant. So I explained my feelings at my baby shower to her (we don't see her a lot so it was the only time I had before giving birth) and she backed off completely.

Good luck!!!!

Eva - posted on 02/05/2010

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not your body not your choice. that's what I would tell them. If you wait you can make is a special day for just you and your daughter when she is old enough to ask for it.

Andrea - posted on 02/05/2010

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The decision is up to the parents. Some wait until the child is old enough to tend to them herself, others, like me do it when they are baby's. I did my first two for Christmas the year they were born. My oldest was 8mos, my middle daughter was 4mos and now, my baby is 3mos and I am getting them done next week for Valentine's Day. My family doctor says to wait 6 weeks after her tetanus shot. Some dad's have an opinion, my husband did not, left it totally up to me.

Aimee-Grace - posted on 02/05/2010

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I am going to wait until she bugs me. I don't want to have to take care of her ears for her, she should be able to do it for herself. I was 14 when I got my ears pierced.

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My mother in law took my daughter when she was just a year old to get hers done and it only lasted a week or two because her ears got infected. I was cleaning them everyday just like they instructed me to and her ears got infected still somehow. Everytime I tried putting the earrings back in her ears started to bleed, so I decided that it was best for my daughter to just let her ears heal over and we will get her ears done when she is older. I was 12 when I got mine done but they are healed over now.

Amy - posted on 02/05/2010

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i had my ears done as a young baby, then as i got older they were to far down because i grew, i now cant wear heavy earings and i tryed to get them done up higher and they cant do it without the risk of it falling straight through to the other hole, and it wont heal coz its been done for so long, i say dont do it, wait till she bugs u when shes older

Keisha - posted on 02/04/2010

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Alot of people have alot of different opinions on this, and I hope nobody judges me but we got our daughter ears pierced at just a little over 4 months. At the place where we got it done babies only had to be 3 months. My mom told me mine had been done at about the same age and all the time I was growing up I loved my earrings :) If a little girl is say 6 or 7 when she gets her ears pierced she will probably be alot more prone to getting infection because they will be played with and poked at before they are completely healed. Also your baby WILL cry if you decide to do this but its not out of pain, its because of that thing right beside her face that made a loud noise! Anyways I hoped this helps with your decision :)

Jocelyn - posted on 02/04/2010

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Stand your ground. You are her mother, YOU decide what is best for her. And if you want her to be able to make the decision on her own, then tell them that. I agree that it should be the child's decision. It is her body, she is the only person who has the right to alter it. Oh and I was talking to one woman a few months ago and her mother took her 3 month old daughter and pierced her ears without her consent. Make sure everyone is aware of how you feel and know what the consequences will be if they go behind your back.

Glendy - posted on 02/04/2010

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its got to be a decision your happy with pro's is small wont remember it and less likly to fiddle, cons they are little and its hard to decide for them my doctor told me to do it over age of three before school to aviod healing when they doing gym and stuff or leave til secondary when they bug you. my daughter was 5years and had both done at same time so was over quicker.

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