How do you tell your kids there's no Santa? Or Easter Bunny? What's a good age?
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When my 10-year-old finally said "OK Mom, is there REALLY a Santa Clause?" I decided I'd better come clean. I explained to her that she was finally old enough to understand God, so it was ok to let her in on the secret about Santa. I tolder her that her younger brother & sister (3 & 6) were too young to fully undertand the concept of God, since it's tough to believe something you can't see.
I told her that now she could understand that there is someone always watching over you, hoping you choose to do good over bad, wanting to give rather than receive, and wants to spread good cheer.
She seemed quite proud that she was now in on the secret of Santa.
Why lie to our kids?
There is no honor or lesson to be learned from systematic lying. I teach my kids that like the concept of god, santa is just a story and the moral of the story is not to act like a dick and that we should be good people if people, god, or sant are watching or not.
Don't lie to your kids, it's a dick move.
April - posted on 04/04/2010
I would just not say anything they will figure it out and you can always say the kids at school must of been bad thats why Santa didnt visit them and they say there is no Santa... Heck I believe Santa is as real as you make him.. My nephew figured it out by himself but he does not tell his little sister he does not want to ruin it for her..
Mindy Gail - posted on 09/26/2014
That is tough I have a 13 and 9 yr old boy and girl. She has no ideas it is made up !! God bless her! One day soon we will break it to her ... not just yet. Innocence so sweet. Moving on, I would let him know that yes santa is made up but you do not have to stop believing just bc of that afterall there really was a saint nick years ago!!! Keep hope alive!
SORRY if kind of sappy!
Macy - posted on 04/10/2014
omg are you people idiots hes real i know its hard to believe but if you dont believe in him well he dosent visit you so dont say hes not real um there is not going to be no ruining ok because hes real if u dont believe in him he dosent exist if you do hes real as a regular bunny
Alicia - posted on 03/30/2013
my daughter will be 12 in december and she still belives and she dosent ask questions and none of her friends have said anything :) but she will be going to middle school, and im worried that she will get picked on, so should i tell her?
Eva-May - posted on 04/14/2010
this easter my 6 year old son said the cutest thing...while walking to the school bus, he told the other kid hey do you know who brings all the chocolates at easter...before the other kid could answer Damien replied : its my grandma, she hides all the eggs....the other child confused asked him:does she bring them to my house too....Damien: no silly just to my place!!! I figure kids just figure it out on their own
Alie - posted on 04/09/2010
I'm not starting it, so I never have to worry about ending it. My daughter is only 14 months, but already we've started telling her Christmas is about Jesus's birthday (in my beliefs) and Easter is the day He rose from the dead. We have a few books that have Santa or the Easter bunny in them, but we will explain those as fairytails. I want her to appreciate the important parts of holidays so the other stuff can just be fun little decorations or stories. That's just how we've chose to do things, I have no problems with playing the traditional games ;)
Beverly - posted on 04/09/2010
when they don't really believe anyway. easiest way is to answer the question when asked. hopefully as late as 7 or 8 they will "know" but nowdays could be as early as 6.
I warned my daughter before older kids told her that they would. I used the christmas cartoon we saw last year " Yes, Virginia" as a guide and she decided on her own that the kids who didn't believe didn't get gifts because they were naughty for this or that reason.
Kara - posted on 04/09/2010
I second what Stephanie wrote. My 10 year keeps asking about the Easter Bunny, Tooth fairy, etc. When she asks, I just say, "What do you think?" She knows that we can't possibly afford all the stuff that Santa brings, so he MUST be real!
Jolene - posted on 04/07/2010
My kids are still young, 4 and 3, but my husband and I have decided that we are not going to talk about there being a Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny or Santa. For us Easter and Christmas are about Christ and that is what we want to teach our children. The Santa that we might mention will be about the real St. Nicholas and what he did. If at some point, from going to school, that they choose to believe in these fantasies we won't discourage them but we won't encourage them either.
Sara - posted on 04/06/2010
My mom always told us that if we stopped believing, he/they would stop coming. 25 years later... Santa still leaves little gifts for everyone in the family including the adults (since we never stopped "believing"). I think your child should lead the way on the "when" part of the question.
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