My son aint slept the whole night since he was born

Analise - posted on 01/21/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )

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anyone gt any tips for me? my son drinks 2-3 bottles of milk through the night n if he dont get his milk through the night he screams the house down. please help!

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Sheila - posted on 02/14/2009

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Hi Analise! I just wanted to let you in on a secret- not every mom adheres tp the cry it out or ferber method. I am highly educated with my masters in early childhood development and special education. I do not believe in the ferber method and I have many colleagues who feel the same way. My daughter does still wake up once or twice a night, sometims more, however, I feel that she is only going to be so small for a short amount of time and sleep will typically regulate itself around age two. In the meantime, do your best and be there for him, you know what feels best for you and your baby. Good luck :o)



 

Analise - posted on 02/14/2009

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I dont intend on taking him off cow's milk, i will try and cut out his milk in the night when he's a bit older, but he can have milk in the day if he prefers it to juice, i drank alot of milk while pregnant with him, i love milk so thats where he gets it from :)

Analise - posted on 02/14/2009

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I could never take his bottles away, he does drink alot of milk, he's a milk baby! he prefers milk to food, he does eat food but he picks at food, he isnt having enough food to take his milk away yet. i buy a 4 pint blue cows milk every day for just him. I do try to give him juice in the day but when he shows me his milk bottle is empty, i do fill it up for him because he's asking me to fill it up so no way could i not fill it up for him.

Nikki - posted on 01/31/2009

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Let him scream! He is not dying and after about a week he will get the picture. You are his mother so you set the limits - don't let him rule you and your house. He does not need those bottles. The older he gets the harder it will be to take it away - I would go ahead and take the bottle away period.

Rosalie - posted on 01/25/2009

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Your in a tough spot. I wish you luck. You will just have to wait till the time is right then. Hopefully thats not too far off.

Analise - posted on 01/25/2009

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hi claire, my son can hangle his teething he just wakes up either for a bottle of milk or if hes having a bad dream. he goes through 2-3 bottles a night n hes weeing hiself because he drinks so much in the night, hes never had a soother (dummy) since he was born he just wouldnt take it so i think his milk is his soother, and he knows when theres no1 in the bedroom, i know it will be hard to get him to sleep all night but i'll try it when we get our own place.

Analise - posted on 01/25/2009

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hi rosalie, i wouldnt even think of asking them as my grandads 60 n he works, he gets up at 6 in morning so i'll just have to wait til me n my husband get our own place to try it i know when i try it though he is gonna be screaming the house down a few nights n it'll hurt me to hear him crying coz hes got such a painful cry but i'll have to do it to get him sleeping through the night so i will try it when we get our own place.

Claire - posted on 01/25/2009

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i have 2 boys thats not sleept through the night since they started teethin n havent had a bed time eaither 2wks ago i decided enough was enough they share a room so its been hard so i now let them watch simpsons at 6oclock then it bed time yes we have alot of cryin but i just kiss them good night n tell them it time to sleep wk later they asleep 4 7oclock they still wake up through night but i go in tell them to go to sleep n leave them cryin i feel horrible but i have to do it n it is slowly workin they dont eat or drink atfer 6 oclock

Rosalie - posted on 01/23/2009

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I hear ya for the not wanting to wake up the whole house, that how I kept messing up... what if you talk to your family and explain that you would like to try if they can bear it for a night or 2 and see how it goes, if not improving try another time but by the 2nd time you should see some improvement. The longer you wait, the harder it is especially sharing your bed cause they become more used to it and dependant. Ultimately you have to do whats best for you in your situation but try to talk to your family.. Chances are hes probably waking them up sometimes now and that can put an end to it. I wish you luck.

Analise - posted on 01/23/2009

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Quoting Rosalie:

Unfortunately its really to let him cry it out as heartbreaking as it is. I breastfed and my daughter ate every 2 hrs around the clock. At 6 months her pediatrician said she doesn’t need to eat during the night anymore. He said to offer water. So, the first night was the worst, I offered water and she screamed louder. But we got through and then the next night was easier and so on. Then I messed up a few times if we went away I didn’t want her to wake the whole house up of wherever we were, or she wasn’t feeling well, teething or I didn’t think she drank enough in the night. Each time I had to start over and at 10 months I did away with the night time feedings for good and at 11 months stopped breastfeeding. By then she was on a sippy cup (actually at 6 months she wouldn’t take a bottle anymore- it was breast or cup). Since 12 months she drinks some milk before bed, brushes her teeth and sleeps through the night for the most part. Once in awhile she may wake for her pacifier or stuffed animal.
Its harder on the mom then it is the baby and once you get through the first night and after you cry yourself to sleep for feeling like the worst mom ever cause you want/need sleep… it gets easier.
I tried EVERYTHING before the cry it out. I read diff books and nothing worked. Also, after 6 months or so eating in the night is a habit, not a need. If they are thirsty give water, if thirsty they will drink but more then likely they will refuse. Also, milk in the night is bad for their teeth so best not to be in that habit.
Babies will also adjust and learn they eat drink during the day. If hes not getting enough during the day he will instinctively correct that. I totally agree with Jill.



 



Hi there, the suggestion to let him cry 4 a few nights then he'll sleep through no problem is fab n i would love to try it but i live with my nan n we cant av him screaming through the night as he'll keep my nan, grandad n brother awake too, when we get our own house soon now i will try leavin him cry but until then i'll av to stick him wakin up many times a night n he got a habit of coming in bed with me n my husband n that drives me nuts.
Hope that helps





 

Analise - posted on 01/23/2009

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Quoting Jill:

My son was the same way. After numerous lectures from his doctor, I finally gave in and let him cry it out. We picked a free weekend so we could sleep during the day to make up for the lack of sleep we were expecting at night due to the screaming. The first two nights were terrible! But...he was sleeping longer by the third night. By the fifth night, he was sleeping through the night. It was SO hard not to go in his room to comfort him. I sat outside his door crying my eyes out. It was one of the hardest things I have ever done but I would do it again in a heartbeat. It was a small price to pay for every good night of sleep we get now.

Word of warning, if your son is anything like mine, he reverts back to sleepness nights very easily. If he is really sick and is up a few nights because of it, it is hard for him to resume sleeping through the night when he recovers. We typically have to go through one night of listening to him cry it out. Nothing like the first time, just an hour or so a couple times in the night. Once he gets through the one night of crying, he is back on schedule and sleeps through the night. Good luck! I hope you get a good night of sleep soon!



 



Hi there, the suggestion to let him cry 4 a few nights then he'll sleep through no problem but i live with my nan n we cant av him screaming through the night as he'll keep my nan, grandad n brother awake too, when we get our own house soon now i will try leavin him cry but until then i'll av to stick him wakin up many times a night n he got a habit of coming in bed with me n my husband n that drives me nuts.





 

Analise - posted on 01/23/2009

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Quoting Shelly:

How much does he drink during the day? My son gets very thirsty at night when he doesn't have enough during the day. I suggest keeping a sippy cup wherever you go and even in the room when he's playing. Offer milk or water as much as possible to make sure he's hydrated enough. If that's the problem, it should clear up within a night or 2.



 



Hi there, he drinks lots in the day too, i do put a bottle of milk n a bottle of pop where he can reach. he drinks too much n doesnt each enough, he prefers to pick at food rather than eat it all like, he drinks soo much every morning hes wee'd through his clothes, i know theres the suggestion to let him cry 4 a few nights then he'll sleep through no problem but i live with my nan n we cant av him screaming through the night as he'll keep my nan, grandad n brother awake too, when we get our own house soon now i will try leavin him cry but until then i'll av to stick him wakin up many times a night n he got a habit of coming in bed with me n my husband n that drives me nuts.





 

Rosalie - posted on 01/22/2009

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Unfortunately its really to let him cry it out as heartbreaking as it is. I breastfed and my daughter ate every 2 hrs around the clock. At 6 months her pediatrician said she doesn’t need to eat during the night anymore. He said to offer water. So, the first night was the worst, I offered water and she screamed louder. But we got through and then the next night was easier and so on. Then I messed up a few times if we went away I didn’t want her to wake the whole house up of wherever we were, or she wasn’t feeling well, teething or I didn’t think she drank enough in the night. Each time I had to start over and at 10 months I did away with the night time feedings for good and at 11 months stopped breastfeeding. By then she was on a sippy cup (actually at 6 months she wouldn’t take a bottle anymore- it was breast or cup). Since 12 months she drinks some milk before bed, brushes her teeth and sleeps through the night for the most part. Once in awhile she may wake for her pacifier or stuffed animal.

Its harder on the mom then it is the baby and once you get through the first night and after you cry yourself to sleep for feeling like the worst mom ever cause you want/need sleep… it gets easier.

I tried EVERYTHING before the cry it out. I read diff books and nothing worked. Also, after 6 months or so eating in the night is a habit, not a need. If they are thirsty give water, if thirsty they will drink but more then likely they will refuse. Also, milk in the night is bad for their teeth so best not to be in that habit.

Babies will also adjust and learn they eat drink during the day. If hes not getting enough during the day he will instinctively correct that. I totally agree with Jill.

Hope that helps

Shelly - posted on 01/22/2009

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How much does he drink during the day? My son gets very thirsty at night when he doesn't have enough during the day. I suggest keeping a sippy cup wherever you go and even in the room when he's playing. Offer milk or water as much as possible to make sure he's hydrated enough. If that's the problem, it should clear up within a night or 2.

Jill - posted on 01/21/2009

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My son was the same way. After numerous lectures from his doctor, I finally gave in and let him cry it out. We picked a free weekend so we could sleep during the day to make up for the lack of sleep we were expecting at night due to the screaming. The first two nights were terrible! But...he was sleeping longer by the third night. By the fifth night, he was sleeping through the night. It was SO hard not to go in his room to comfort him. I sat outside his door crying my eyes out. It was one of the hardest things I have ever done but I would do it again in a heartbeat. It was a small price to pay for every good night of sleep we get now.



Word of warning, if your son is anything like mine, he reverts back to sleepness nights very easily. If he is really sick and is up a few nights because of it, it is hard for him to resume sleeping through the night when he recovers. We typically have to go through one night of listening to him cry it out. Nothing like the first time, just an hour or so a couple times in the night. Once he gets through the one night of crying, he is back on schedule and sleeps through the night. Good luck! I hope you get a good night of sleep soon!

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